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Maelstrom, where did you go to pick up gay men? You ACTIVELY SOUGHT gay male company, and it surprised you when they tried to pick you up?

Nope, they came to me. They broke the rule, "I'll leave them alone if they leave me alone." So I decided to find out what and why. I just listened and took notes.

I'd let them develop whatever atmosphere they wanted, and I'd ask what was happening in their lives when they were younger. What their fathers were like, what their mothers were like, who was important in their lives. What they liked to do, what was happening in their lives when they were younger, and what events made them realize they were gay.

All the questions are interspersed with an exchange of what my own life was like. When the final question is put to them in a relaxed atmosphere, you receive a very different answer than if you ask them questions in a sterile, survey-like manner. Laughing over the awkward questions, as among friends, and letting them relive their lives before you.

See, in that type of atmosphere, they aren't concentrating on telling you what they want you to hear, they're concentrating on seducing a young teenager. The answers are more truthful when they're unafraid of another's judgement.

Just sit back and listen, and let them spin their tales. Then run...because once they realize that you aren't about to submit to their whims, they become aggressive and angry. I was able to obtain roughly 2 dozen such interviews from homosexuals from, and in, several parts of the country, as well as outside the country, before I came to the conclusion that they needed help, whether psychological or psychiatric.

"Nope, they came to me. They broke the rule, "I'll leave them alone if they leave me alone." So I decided to find out what and why. I just listened and took notes."

So.. some gay men hit on you. How old were you? Did those men who initially got you interested in interviewing more men back off when you said you were not interested in sex?

Out of the two dozen men you interviewed, absolutely none of them came across as stable? Have you ever met a homosexual who did?

How do you get so many homosexual men to come on to you? Two dozen is an extraordinarily high number, for a straight man. Can you think of any reason that possibly would result in you attracting the seediest homos in every city you go to?

I don't want to come down on guys in general, but if I had to judge heterosexuals strictly on men who have come on to me, I'd have a pretty dim view. I find that in certain settings, if you spend a little conversation or allow a man to buy you a drink, somewhere along the way sometimes a feeling of entitlement pops up. It really wouldn't surprise me if that attitude was also prevalent with gay men.

For the record, I also have met gays and lesbians in Australia... did you catch any drag shows? Honestly, no matter how you feel about homosexuals, if you can't find humor in a drag show in Sydney something is wrong... :-)