How about reading on the internet that somebody thinks it was YOUR fault and your kid deserved it?
My mother died in a head on collision when she was 21. It was her fault because she was driving at night and she fell asleep and passed the median and collided into another car. Her passenger walked away without a scratch. I'm like a hawk with family and friend that drive at night. I'm like a broken record about driving without enough sleep.
My mother caused her own death and G-d did allow my mother's death because He is sovereign. His ways are not our ways.