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The rise of singlehood is reshaping the world: A great relationship recession is under way
The Economist ^ | 11/05/2025

Posted on 11/06/2025 8:47:10 PM PST by SeekAndFind

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To: FormerFRLurker
The purpose of sex, from a biological standpoint, is procreation, yes?

In the case of lower-order animals (sea urchins, molluscs, etc.), procreation ends with the release of spermatozoa and ova into the environment. In the case of members of the Class Mammalia, however, some degree of parental investment extending beyond parturition is the rule. In the case of human beings, evolutionary physiology (competition between brain size of the newborn versus limitations on the size of the birth canal to maintain bipedalism) dictates that men, also, invest in the offspring. Evolutionary psychology has dictated that women seek to bind men to themselves so as to ensure continued provisioning and protection both during pregnancy and well after parturition (and generally until the progeny is capable of walking on their own and thus keeping up with the troupe as it moves from place to place, foraging, etc.).

In his The Naked Ape, Desmond Morris speculates at length about the evolution of the female orgasm, the visual conspicuousness of human breasts, and general hairlessness - largely due ultimately to bipedalism (which freed our hands and allowed us to become a tool-making species).

Sorry for the digression, but it's a fascinating topic!

For the last approx. 5,000 years of our history and especially in those societies first touched by the Agricultural Revolution - i.e., ever since it became possible to accumulate wealth, the status of men has increasingly been a function not only of their physical prowess and hunting skills, but of their competence in long-term planning and "governance," of a sort. Though this phenomenon probably didn't really "hit its stride" until the appearance of cities.

This is why women are drawn to powerful (read: high-status) men.

Overt and conspicuous physical deformities, genetic afflictions, or chronic disease will still trump women's attraction to power / celebrity / wealth - but it can't be denied that women are generally willing to overlook, e.g., short stature, or battle wounds, or obesity, if the man demonstrates these other traits.

Class dismissed!

Regards,

121 posted on 11/10/2025 9:46:04 AM PST by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: alexander_busek

Good and interesting comments.

“Status” is of course a subjective trait—but anything that gives a man status in any environment is a major plus in mating strategy.

This can easily cause a lot of trouble—think male professors and female students, male psychiatrists and female patients etc etc etc.


122 posted on 11/10/2025 9:51:01 AM PST by cgbg ("The truth is not for all men, but only for those who seek it.")
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To: alexander_busek

Forgot to add one of my favorites—male clergy and female members of the “flock”.


123 posted on 11/10/2025 9:52:30 AM PST by cgbg ("The truth is not for all men, but only for those who seek it.")
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To: A_perfect_lady
No, I would never want to return to those days [of difficult and rare divorce]. I'm just saying that our present-day situation is a result of more factors than merely women deciding suddenly, and for no apparent reason, that they were desperate to escape the company of men like you.

One woman chose to bind herself to me, bear my children, to place herself under my leadership, and to follow me, and I am perfectly happy with that situation.

As for other women disdaining men like me - I don't know if that is the case; other women are virtually invisible to me, at least with respect to any sort of romantic attraction. And I don't know exactly to which of my many attributes you are referring - I have hitherto mentioned only my provisioning and leadership skills, so your little jab is rather pointless and pitiful.

Regards,

124 posted on 11/10/2025 9:58:45 AM PST by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: FormerFRLurker

“no skills in cooking”

I had to laugh at that one.

When I met my future wife she had no skills in cooking—primarily because she grew up in a house with several sisters who were excellent at it—and she had other interests.

We talked about it while dating—and she said would like to learn how to cook. I bought her some cookbooks as presents and became the guinea pig for her efforts.

It was kinda fun for both of us—I was an easy to please critic. I used to go to local library sales and just scoop up every cookbook they had (we were relatively poor at the time) and then asked her to try specific things in them. Some were better than others—no big deal.

Decades later she has a whole bookcase of cookbooks of every possible kind—and is an amazing cook.

Bottom line—cooking can be learned if someone wants to do that.


125 posted on 11/10/2025 10:18:44 AM PST by cgbg ("The truth is not for all men, but only for those who seek it.")
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To: cgbg
This can easily cause a lot of trouble—think male professors and female students [...]

You call that "trouble?!" My tenure as a Liberal Arts professor (adjunct) in a a little college town during the 1980s would have been simply unbearable without that!

And don't be fooled by the "accepted wisdom" that it's about getting an easy "A" in exchange for an easy lay! It's mostly about the female students deluding themselves into believing that the instructors are some kind of demigods.

Regards,

126 posted on 11/10/2025 10:23:15 AM PST by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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To: alexander_busek
And I don't know exactly to which of my many attributes you are referring

I'm referring to your hours and hours on FR picking fights with anyone unfortunate enough to address you, and your absolute obsession with teaching everyone you address a lesson, and with getting the last word. You claim to have a loving wife. Well, anyone can claim anything on the internet. I have no idea if you're telling the truth. All I can see for sure is that you spend more time on here arguing with people than happy husbands usually do. I find your tone and attitude repulsive. If this is not your normal demeanor in real life, I'd consider that a good thing.

127 posted on 11/10/2025 2:52:44 PM PST by A_perfect_lady (The greatest wealth is to live content with little. -Plato)
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To: SeekAndFind

The current trend is showing that if women can take care of themselves they will and as a result, the hostage marriage based on her lack of education, lack of property rights, and inability to obtain credit is dead.

A corollary is that if a man wants to stay married, he should participate as an adult in the activities of daily living and drop the expectation that he is entitled to unlimited domestic labor just because he is male.


128 posted on 11/10/2025 3:13:22 PM PST by esquirette ("Our hearts are restless until they find rest in Thee." ~ Augustine)
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To: FormerFRLurker; alexander_busek
The issue is not overweight men. Today, women have a higher percentage of body fat than men.

https://www.verywellhealth.com/body-fat-percentage-chart-8550202

You don't see "body positivity" promotions aimed at fat men, only morbidly obese women. Any scolding about "body shaming" is aimed at men supposedly "body shaming" women.

It feeds the 49er Syndrome; where women who are 4s believe they're 9s. Obese women feel entitled to fit men.

129 posted on 11/10/2025 5:16:13 PM PST by T.B. Yoits
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130 posted on 11/10/2025 5:21:38 PM PST by dfwgator ("I am Charlie Kirk!")
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To: T.B. Yoits

I agree that many American women are overweight, and of course “body positivity” is complete nonsense for both sexes. However, you’ll find that women have a higher body fat percentage than men in every society, not just the US. Pregnancy requires a certain percentage of body fat, which is why very thin women cease menstruating. Until men start having the babies (i.e. never) women will have a higher body fat percentage.


131 posted on 11/10/2025 9:48:43 PM PST by FormerFRLurker ("Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities"-Voltaire)
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To: cgbg

I was thinking of those who don’t know how to cook and have no interest in learning. Glad you and your wife are happy.


132 posted on 11/10/2025 9:50:30 PM PST by FormerFRLurker ("Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities"-Voltaire)
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To: A_perfect_lady; T.B. Yoits; FormerFRLurker
alexander_busek: And I don't know exactly to which of my many attributes [that allegedly make women want to escape men like me] you are referring.

A_perfect_lady: I'm referring to your hours and hours on FR picking fights with anyone unfortunate enough to address you, and your absolute obsession with teaching everyone you address a lesson, and with getting the last word. You claim to have a loving wife. Well, anyone can claim anything on the internet. I have no idea if you're telling the truth. All I can see for sure is that you spend more time on here arguing with people than happy husbands usually do. I find your tone and attitude repulsive. If this is not your normal demeanor in real life, I'd consider that a good thing.

  1. I don't come to Free Republic to pick up women. If I'm perceived as being grouchy or even cantankerous: So be it!
  2. Yes, I do enjoy calmly correcting fellow FReepers - be it their occasional orthographical mistakes or their sometimes flawed logic. What can I say? I'm a pedant!
  3. Yes, I freely admit to belonging to that small minority of FReepers who delight in discussing controversial topics, exchanging information, challenging ideas, and engaging in friendly debate.
  4. I find your candor refreshing! But I truly hope that you can be that open and honest about your own failings.
  5. I don't insist on "getting the last word": If you have any more invective to cast at me or closing insults to hurl, please: Out with it! It will perhaps do your soul some good. And I promise to not rebut it!
Regards,
133 posted on 11/10/2025 11:56:56 PM PST by alexander_busek (Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.)
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