i know exactly what i’m talking about. having taken care of my mother with dementia for 5 years now.
You are correct, We..husband and wife... did 8 years, and it was lousy at the end. Thank God for Hospice. Grandma wouldn’t even allow us to get her hair cut, showers were bi monthly events. Though in dementia, she could walk talk and play solitaire. We did what we could, and then put her in Hospice for the last month. You take care of family, it is what you do.