[cgbg]

An amazingly effective communication tool is to use “a” instead of “the”.

It sounds crazy—but “a” means there are other options and keeps the discussion open.

“The” means there are no other choices and cuts off discussion.

[alexander_busek]

An amazingly effective communication tool is to use “a” instead of “the”. It sounds crazy—but “a” means there are other options and keeps the discussion open. “The” means there are no other choices and cuts off discussion.

So, "You are a fat slob!" instead of "You are the fat slob!"

Or, "Maybe we should get a divorce" instead of "Maybe we should get the divorce."

Thanks! I'll keep that in mind!

Regards,