I come from the midwest and there the funerary meal is for the survivors after the funeral. Usually at the K of C hall, but sometimes the VFW. Bring a covered dish!
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Around here the funeral dinner would be at the church, in the fellowship hall. Planners also need to know if the deceased had Mennonite and Amish relatives because they will turn out and bump up the numbers.
If it’s a very small family, the church will take the family out to dinner at a restaurant.