He was thirteen. He is now almost forty. He has been in and and out of therapy, not to mention drugs and alcohol. He still blames everyone for his problems. When you have a problem you grab hold of it and own it. You master it.
Otherwise you go through life willy-nilly, never facing and conquering your problems.
Once you accept responsibility for yourself, then and only then, you can make the changes you wish to make. No one is responsible for you except you.
Grow up.
Yup. Total victim of others. Thank heavens he will never have any power - other than whining to Okra.