I’m sure there will be tons of posts on this thread about how women are nasty, selfish, feminazi b****es who deserve to be single and all the wonderful, noble, perfect men of the world naturally do not want to marry such evil, inferior creatures. Blah, blah, blah.
The way I see it is, 1. More men are gay than women. Reduces the pool of men. 2. More men are criminals than women. Further reduces the pool. 3. Some men are not good marriage prospects because they are mama’s boys, or they don’t want to commit, or they abuse alcohol or drugs, or they are woman-beaters, or they don’t have jobs, etc., etc. 4. The remaining men who are nice guys with decent jobs and want to get married get snapped up by the most beautiful, desirable women. Men almost always marry up; women marry down. So a man who’s an “8” is going to be eagerly snapped up by a woman who’s a “10.” 5. As a result, lots of nice women who want to get married, but are not gorgeous, have a smaller pool of marriageable men from which to choose. It’s logical that some women are going to remain single. The odds are not in their favor.
This is the deal, as told by a 50 year old man, married for 25 years,
Women want a “real” man. They don’t want men who have more product in their bathroom then they do. Women want a man who is confident, has a good sense of humor and knows how to treat a lady. Women want a man who, even if he is not a six figure earner or a Ivy League grad, can still string two coherent sentences together, has a job and is just as mature as he is silly.
In the cities, all bets are off. If you are single and living in the city, chances are you are way too busy with work to settle down into a long term relationship. I know, been there and done that for 10 years. My idea of a relationship was offering her coffee in the morning. If I was offered coffee in the morning I thought I met someone special.
Funny thing is, once I got married, more women came on to me because women who didn’t want a relationship saw a married guy as a non committed hookup. What they didn’t take into consideration was once I got married, I was off the market.
Depends on your definition of "up" and "down". While women may marry somebody less attractive than them, women usually will NOT marry somebody of lower education, social status, or income.
Meanwhile, a professional man will marry a waitress if she is sufficiently eager to please him.
I think you have a point. For a man to have companionship, sex, and good cooking, and cleaning, 50 and more years ago, he had to get married. Even if he was unattractive and a low earner. And there were less than attractive women with other flaws who would marry him and these two would give each other a decent life or a so-so life.
with other alternatives to marriage for both these men and women above, they may choose not to settle for each other.