Posted on 05/28/2010 5:23:34 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin
Well, addiction has reared its ugly head again in our household. Had to kick Husband out this week. It appears that he has been 'doctor shopping' for prescriptions, and has gotten involved with some other relapsing druggies.
*SIGH*
It's been ten years since he got SOBER, but since he's on prescription drugs for back pain, he never really did get 'clean.' I gave it all I could. The kids are grown, I'm requesting my freedom from this madness. I matter little to him; I'm sure you know where his priorities lie.
I won't bore you with the details; this happens every day. My priorities have now shifted greatly; I'm in survival mode and I could really use some prayers...prayers that I stay strong. Prayers that I stay focused. Prayers that I will eventually see some light on the other side of this mess.
Thanks in advance.
Thank you, Onyx. That means a lot to me. And yes, so many of my friends are saying, “Finally, Girl!” I had TWO invites to go out tonight, but I just wanted to crash at home with my dogs. I’m a Home Body. I spent waaaaaay too many years bumming around the USA and the globe with the Army. I LIKE being home. To me, HOME is not a place to escape from; it is a HAVEN to savor and to return to.
I’m going to have a great life once I get through this stuff. Well, I already HAVE a great life, I just had a messed-up husband temporarily thrown into the mix. :)
Thank you, LucyJo. Your observations are spot-on.
Good call.
will eventually see some light on the other side of this mess.
You will, just stand tall in the Lord.
Very sorry to hear of your trouble, Diana. I’ve had three addicts in my life, and each with each one, there was or developed (in once case, she only became addicted a few years ago) an absolutely impenetrable barriar. They are in a prison, and it is impossible to have a real relationship with an addict - whether it is a husband/wife, family member or friend.
They make a little prison and lock themselves in, and everyone else out.
I will pray for that God gives you special protection and strength, and His love that is overflowing.
When something happens like this, it shows us how evil and dreadful addiction is - it is like slow suicide.
I hope he wakes up and saves himself.
Heartfelt prayers up for you and your husband.
You are a brave woman. God is our shelter from every storm.
(sorry for typos in the above comment).
I never looked at it that way, but boy is that TRUE. He is impossible to reach; he is always in his fortress. He can’t act, he only RE-acts to things.
That is a very sad way to live.
I had a man I was going to marry (yes, I am a she) but he was addicted to pot. As I discovered after I fell in “love” (”fall” being the operative word...). He would not/could not stop smoking it daily.
Trying to have an actual relationship with him ruined about 3 years of my life or more, I hate remembering those times.
If you are alone in a room with an addict, there is you, the addict, and the drug/booze whatever it is. That drug is always there, the addict is embracing that stuff and won’t let go.
The good part is we can be free of the poisoned relationship. In”toxic”ation. It’s poison.
Life is exciting when we live it as is without the substance/addict, and you will look back and feel so much lighter and freer. You can’t help a drowning person who refuses to be saved.
“You can’t help a drowning person who refuses to be saved.”
Well said. Thank you. But I CAN help myself, and I will! :)
your very welcome,and prayers continued.
I’m sure that you are a strong lady and that you will weather through this storm.
On the days when the storm feels almost overwhelming, learn to dance in the rain. ;>)
Cheers,
Dan
Oh my friend......I am SO sorry you’re going through this. As hard as this sounds, I’m mighty proud of you for taking care of YOU.
This is nasty stuff you’re dealing with...
You have my heartfelt prayers that God sees you through this..
Prayers for you, Diana!
Oh dear. Prayers are on the way.
It is a big step to announce this, and it will reinforce your decision. You did what you could, now move on with your life. It may be the best thing to happen to your husband, too, in the end. Good luck!
and prayers going up! almost forgot that.
Diana,You and your Husband will be in my prayers,(((((((Hugs)))))))Fatima
You made a good move. The future is bright.
prayer bump
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