I have never in my life heard so many people say it was considered rude to ask one’s spouse how he/she voted!
I’m not commenting on it one way or the other, but I’m truly surprised that anyone thinks that way. I have never, ever heard that.
So, learn something every day, I suppose.
Quite to the contrary, where I come from it would have been considered very rude, not to mention weird, if spouses not only did not volunteer to the other who they intended to vote for, but discussed it together early and often. I can’t imagine any of the long-term couples I grew up around keeping their vote secret from each other.
Nor could I imagine it being considered rude to ask what the other spouse thought about the candidates and why and how he/she was leaning.
it does seem weird, but i guess that’s all part of the secret ballot. i just know that was the way it was in my family and with all my friends families too. maybe it was to keep family wars at a minimum. lol (just had a flash of the Jerry Springer Thanksgiving shows...lol) there is no rule about volunteering to tell how you voted by the way.