How Not to Talk to Your Kids (The Inverse Power of Praise)
I highly recommend clicking through and reading the full article. It concerns a study of why kids who seem smart do not achieve their full potential, how self-esteem has not worked as intended, and how to praise children without giving them empty, "feel-good" compliments. It is very important, and I am going to try to implement it with my grandkids. Anyone who deals with children should read it.
..but I will want to read this for sure.
My husband and I talk about this self esteem bit a lot and how it's damaged kids.
USA Today had a hilarious article about 6 mos about about the first college graduates who were raised under this self esteem model.
New employees were given relatively easy tasks, such as drafting a memo for their supervisor. Said supervisor was dismayed at the number of spelling and grammatical errors and tried to discuss these issues with the new hires.
Several Fortune 500 company supervisors who were interviewed for the article said that the employees would respond when told their spelling wasn't good "That's your opinion". LOL
Excellent post/article. I wholeheartedly agree.