I think you're probably right. But, I still don't understand. I got a decent amount when my Grama died. I'd burn every cent of it and what I'll receive of it for the rest of my life if she were still here.
Bless your heart.
I took care of a neighbor lady for eight years - Had to fight hospitols and dr.s who had the "she's old, don't bother" attitude.
At 100 (!) she was in desparate need of a gall bladder op. they didn't want to do it - just let her go. "She wouldn't survive, etc."
I had to threaten them with murder and mayhem - and to write about it in my column! - before they finally did it. She was much weaker by that time, as she had been unable to keep anything down for a week - but she sailed thru it with flying colors.
And they didn't ignore her in the future - she lived to be 103 ;o)