He HAS to ask her to come over to my house.
My husband doesn't have to ask my permission to go anywhere. But considering our life is like a three-ring circus, I like it when he tells me his plans so that I can plan accordingly. Better yet, I like it when he asks if we have any conflicting activities. I'm not his mother or his keeper, but I think it's just politeness to keep each other informed.
Just lay down the law every once and a while....
I said I didn't want to be on a pedestal, but I also don't want to be under a boot. I'm not a child either, so I don't need the law laid down for me.
What would happen if he said something like this?
Bro: Hon, I haven't seen my brother Hottieboy in ages. If we don't have other plans, I'd like to go have a few beers with him. On Saturday, I'll take care of the kids so that you and Dashing Dasher can go fly her plane upside down.
Wife: Great. Will you take me to Brokeback Mountain Saturday night?
Bro: Sorry, Hon. Not gonna happen.
I didn't mean to imply that your house was like this at all.
And you are right about Brokeback, at least for me anyway. But for him, it's not a matter of him taking her. She would tell him they are going and that would be the end of it. So sad.