you've got that right!!!
And up until about two years ago (when I got married!) I believed I could still "be friends" with my male friends...well, guess what??? all of a sudden, being in my company wasn't that important anymore since I was no longer "available" and the remote-shag-a-bility factor dropped to nothing!
PromiseKeepers is FANTASTIC at that, you're absolutely right. Why put yourself in a situation that might be combustable at some point in time and put your marraige at risk for no reason?? If one is truly matched well w/ their spouse, they wouldn't need to go a-hunting for something else to "fill the gaps". I think this situation now is a result of people being impatient, not waiting for the one person that will fill all those needs w/out having to fill those gaps. And YES, all the years of having it forced in our heads by mag's that there is nothing wrong with it or that we should explore every avenue of filling up our lives with things OTHER than our spouses and families.
I've been married a lot longer than you have, a lot longer, and I know for a fact I can be just friends with women. I have several female friends, and one in particular who I've mentioned who is like family to me. I think I'd be totally torqued if my wife up and decided I had to give up those friendships.
Also, just so we're clear, your spouse can't be everything to you. As a matter of fact, one of the quickest paths to divorce is predicated on placing that totally unfulfillable burden on your spouse. You need friendships, interests and contact outside of your spouse, not just for your sake, but your spouses sake as well.