[Rushgrrl]

I soooo agree with that. Ever since the 'net stuff has come up, this "argument" of "what is cheating, what is not" always comes up. Within the confines of a moral marraige, in my opinion, any involvement with someone of the opposite sex, emotional or physical, can be a huge detriment to a marraige.

I've even seen it when people defend whatever the situation is with "but we're just friends who work together". The thing is, that is a friendship that is trampling on the toes of what a true marraige should provide for both partners: the ultimate in friendship AND romance AND sex.

The only time men, and women alike, are able to use the "we're just friends" defense is when there is something that that friendship provides, that the marraige doesn't. A lot of people are in denial about this very thing, but it doesn't make it any less true.

Take a look around at people who have affairs with people from work: how do you think THAT started? "we're just friends", until there is a moment when someone needs a shoulder or "someone to talk to". In my opinion, it doesn't always lead to anything physical, BUT....the opportunity will present itself if it continues along those pathways.

As every guy I know tells me "guys don't have women as friends unless they want to sleep with them. They have guys to be friends with."

I'm sure I will get a heap tossed on me about this, but again, this is strictly my opinion.