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Archbishop Chaput: The Church Needs to Say Any Kind of Extra-Marital Sex is “Disordered”
Aleteia ^ | November 21, 2014 | Matt Rourke/AP/SIPA

Posted on 11/24/2014 10:23:21 AM PST by Mrs. Don-o

Leader of Philadelphia Church discusses plans for World Meeting of Families, to be attended by Pope Francis.

The Holy See confirmed this week that Pope Francis will visit the United States for the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia, September 22-27, 2015. The historic visit will fall just one week before the opening of the General Synod of Bishops on the Family to be held in Vatican City, October 4-25, 2015.

When the announcement came, Archbishop Chaput of Philadelphia was on hand at at the Vatican attending the Humanum Colloquium on the Complementarity of Man and Woman in Marriage. The archbishop spoke to some 350 participants about next year's World Meeting of Families at the colloquium's final session.

Aleteia sat down with the archbishop to discuss the Humanum Colloquium, how the Church should care pastorally for people who have been abandoned by their spouses through a culture of no fault divorce, and his hopes for the upcoming World Meeting of Families.

Archbishop Chaput, today you began your remarks by saying: “This is the most interesting colloquium I’ve ever attended in my life.” Why?

Well, it was interesting on three levels: the content was extraordinary, always extraordinary; the composition of the crowd was unique in terms of its religious and cultural dimensions; and we were all on the same page in terms of the complementarity of man and woman being at the root of what marriage and family is all about. And to experience a gathering where people are on the same page, where people come from varied backgrounds, you just don’t experience that.

The quality of the presentations was extraordinary. For just one of those things to take place at a conference is good. For all three of them to take place is just amazing.

What do you think is the significance of having this colloquium on the Complementarity of Man and Woman in Marriage here at the Vatican?

It’s the best place in the world to have anything when it comes to religious dialogue, because even for those who aren’t Christians, the Pope is certainly the most prominent religious spokesperson in the world. For those of us who are Christians — Catholics and Protestants and Orthodox alike — everybody acknowledges a unique role of the Pope in the life of the Christian community. And then, for those of us who are Catholics, we are very proud of being able to pull something like this off in this kind of setting.

How do you think this Colloquium might pave the way for the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia?

I hope it will lead to a greater participation on the part of people who aren’t Christians. I went out of my way to welcome them, as I thought it would feel strange to them to attend a Christian event. But as I mentioned about our speakers, we even have an atheist speaking. We simply looked for the best speakers. Now, we’ve asked him to speak about subjects in a way that would not be contrary to Church teaching, but our goal was to have the best quality presentations and the best knowledge available.

Twenty-four percent of our speakers are not Catholic. Most of them are Christians. A significant number are Jews. We have a Mormon leader who is talking about how Mormons keep families together, because they have a great reputation when it comes to family life, and we have an atheist who is speaking, which is very interesting.

There was a fair amount of controversy at the recent synod regarding Cardinal Walter Kasper’s proposal to allow those who are divorced and “remarried” to received Holy Communion.

I think there are many more people who are divorced and remarried who go to Communion anyway. If you want to be just clear about it, that seems to be the more prominent position. They kind of ignore the Church’s position that you shouldn’t receive Communion if you’re in a second “marriage.”

What should be done for Catholics who are divorced against their will, in a culture of no fault divorce?

I think we must do our best to support them. Spousal abandonment is a big issue. That’s what this is about, spousal abandonment. And it’s very important for those people to have a voice in this dialogue. There are many people who are faithful to their spouse even after being abandoned, because they believe in the Church’s teaching. And to say that their sacrifice and their heroic witness isn’t of value would be a stupid kind of thing to do.

But what do you do about the fact that there are many, many people who ignore the Church’s teaching on this altogether, and are very casual about receiving Communion? No one seems to talk about that issue.

What do you think should be done?

What can be done in all of this is to accompany people pastorally. In all cases, you don’t just give a principle and say, “Follow it.” It never works. But you don’t help them by not articulating what you believe to be true. So I think you articulate what you believe to be true, but at the same time you accompany them, and encourage them, and help them every step along the way.

Does the Church need to be clearer?

Imitating the Holy Father, [I’d say] I think the devil is very active in the world. And we know that the great tactic of the devil is to be confusing. Because when you’re confused you can do anything you want, because you’re not sure what’s right and what’s wrong.

I think confusion is of the devil. I really believe that. So we should do everything we can to make sure that the Church’s teaching is clear and loving, and that we live that doctrine clearly and lovingly and not just talk about it. But that doesn’t mean that you reject anybody, and that doesn’t mean that you chase people away or condemn them. It means you accompany them in all this, but you do it with clarity.

If we don’t evangelize clearly, the world will evangelize in our place. And that leads to disaster.

How does this apply with regard to someone who is homosexual? The Catechism states that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered” and that the homosexual tendency is “objectively disordered.” How does one lovingly explain this to a young man, for instance, who finds this tendency within himself, who perhaps feels shame, and who doesn’t know who to turn to? How does the Church talk to him?

Well, first of all the Church has to talk to the person about it. And often that’s not the case. I don’t think in my whole life as a priest I’ve ever heard a homily on homosexuality. I talk to people, and they say they’ve never heard one either. So the thing is we’re not sitting around condemning people. We’re not talking about it at all.

I think it’s very, very important to talk about the fact that any kind of extramarital sex is wrong, and not just focus on homosexual sex. Any kind of misuse of our sexual powers is wrong. Any sexual activity outside of marriage is disordered. So I think if we use this vocabulary, we have to use it about all of human sexuality and not just focus on people with same-sex attraction. So it has to be in that context. But at the same time, I think we have to make it very clear that, no matter what your struggles are, you’re loved by the Church.

Some people will use our teaching against us. They’ll beat us over the head and say, “You don’t love me, because you don’t let me do what I want to do.” And there’s nothing we can do about that but to keep loving people, and not be terrified or put off by that kind of hostility.

You know, kids do that to their parents all the time. They get mad at them and call them names. But their parents shouldn’t stop speaking to and loving their children.

What’s your hope for the World Meeting of Families next September?

That it transforms family life in the Church and in world through a very dynamic message. It’s going to be a learning experience, a supportive experience, and I hope the papal visit puts a cap on that.

Do you think there is a significance to the World Meeting of Families being held in Philadelphia, where the United States Declaration of Independence was signed?

Amen.

What’s the link?

It’s a providential link. I don’t know that that was on anybody’s mind in the planning stage, but we hope to make that connection. We hope to have a workshop on what the notions of marriage and family life were like at the founding of the country. What was it like in 1776? What did they think about marriage and family life then? That will be an interesting presentation.

See www.worldmeeting2015.org for more about the World Meeting of Families 2015.


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To: ebb tide
"...And look at what the vengeful Francis has done to Burke..."

"Vengeful"! Talk about "insinuations"! That is something you cannot know about Pope Francis' motivations.

It is something which Burke, fair-minded and precise as he is, has never said or implied, and, I think, never will.

You do him ill service by saying such things.

61 posted on 11/24/2014 3:06:21 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (God's grace has been revealed, and has made salvation possible for the whole human race. (Titus 2))
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To: NorthMountain

Amen.


62 posted on 11/24/2014 3:06:52 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (God's grace has been revealed, and has made salvation possible for the whole human race. (Titus 2))
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To: NorthMountain
It is indeed coarse, NM, but I don't know how better to say it, since euphemism only furthers the confusion and aids the Enemy of SOuls.

However, sodomy is just ugly and there's no getting around it. You are repelled by the description because you are presumably a normal and decent person. I recognize that. But saying, for instance, "anal intercourse" is itself misleading, because it makes it seem like an actual kind of intercourse, some sort of parallel with true marital inercourse, which it is not: not even when it involved male and female. It's not even analogous, it's more like a parody. Clinical words don't convey the perverse wretchedness of it all.

It doesn disturb me, though, if I have offended you. Please forgive me.

63 posted on 11/24/2014 3:42:14 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o ("Let us commend ourselves and each other, and all our life unto Christ our God." Liturgy of St.John)
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To: marshmallow; Tax-chick
Thinking about different degrees of disorder. A friend of mine, a pro-life pacifist Quaker, having no marriage prospects but wanting to be a mother, had herself inseminated at one of those perverted clinics.

She's pretty active in the prolife movmeent and knows lots of conservative Christians, both Catholic and Evangelical. She would never ask "permission" or "affirmation" for what she decided to do, but, since she was curious, she did inquire in her circle of friends to find out what people thought. She said pretty much everybody thought she was wrong to get inseminated: but the Evangelicals tended to say, "Well, at least you didn't have sex with some guy!" and the Catholics tended to say, "Well, at least you should have had sex with the guy!"

64 posted on 11/24/2014 3:48:18 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o ("Let us commend ourselves and each other, and all our life unto Christ our God." Liturgy of St.John)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
You are fond of accusing others of "rash judgement".

Now what so-called "son of the church" would speak about his fellow Catholics, without knowing what's in their hearts, as below?

“They disguise themselves, they disguise themselves as good people: they make themselves up like little holy cards, looking up at heaven as they pray, making sure they are seen—they believe they are more righteous than others, they despise others!"

65 posted on 11/24/2014 3:54:20 PM PST by ebb tide
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To: ebb tide
Sounds very much like Jesus on the Pharisees.

But did Pope Francis name who he was talking about? Or is he just counting on "He who has ears to hear, let him hear!" -- the "shoe fits" application?

66 posted on 11/24/2014 3:57:58 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o ("Let us commend ourselves and each other, and all our life unto Christ our God." Liturgy of St.John)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

Big difference, though. Jesus knew what was in the hearts of the Pharisees.

I don’t think you, or Francis, knows what’s in the heart of others, despite acting like you do.


67 posted on 11/24/2014 4:08:42 PM PST by ebb tide
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To: ebb tide
If you don't say --- name --- who you "may" be talking about, it's not defamation. Who is being defamed?

It seems that many of Pope Francis' critics don't mind naming and blaming him, including attributing the worst possible motivations. Doesn't that bother you?

68 posted on 11/24/2014 4:14:54 PM PST by Mrs. Don-o (Seriously.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

You’ve jumped horses now. Who has defamed, let alone exercised “rash judgement”?

See BlatherNaut’s Post 43 to you on this same thread.


69 posted on 11/24/2014 5:43:58 PM PST by ebb tide
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I understand the arguments against the way Abp. Chaput has phrased his comments. They have some merit. On the other hand, it seems to me that there’s a belief that fornication and adultery are only “technically” wrong ... “It’s just a piece of paper” ... while homosexual behavior is “really” wrong.


70 posted on 11/24/2014 6:12:29 PM PST by Tax-chick (Science wants to kill us.)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

**Archbishop Chaput: The Church Needs to Say Any Kind of Extra-Marital Sex is “Disordered”**

Amen!


71 posted on 11/24/2014 7:05:10 PM PST by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: Resettozero

Believe me, all the Catholics know that Archbishop Chaput is Catholic!

Did you google his name?


72 posted on 11/24/2014 7:06:34 PM PST by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: Trapped Behind Enemy Lines

Do you have the Ten Commandments in your Bible?

How about “Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife.”


73 posted on 11/24/2014 7:08:09 PM PST by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: Salvation
Believe me, all the Catholics know that Archbishop Chaput is Catholic! Did you google his name?

As you seem to be in a habit of doing, once again you missed the point of my post. Your accusatorily rude question is off-target.
74 posted on 11/24/2014 7:12:08 PM PST by Resettozero
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To: Jeff Chandler

Exactly. Also, heterosexual adultery(as sinful as that is) can possibly and many times has resulted in the conception of a child. Homosexual activity by definition can NEVER do so.


75 posted on 11/24/2014 7:54:30 PM PST by ReformationFan
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To: Trapped Behind Enemy Lines

It is disorderly. The many cases where spouses simply walk out is not even treated as a breach of contract any more. A bond that ought to be as strong as that bond between a parent and child is broken. Abandonment. The result is turmoil in the lives of persons and in society.


76 posted on 11/24/2014 10:49:40 PM PST by RobbyS (quotes)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
No, I think he's trying to say that all sexual sins are offensive.

By using the same word to describe them all, he is trying to say that all sexual sins are equally offensive. Based on Catholic Tradition and Scripture we know that this is not true about sodomy. I'm really not sure how anyone can read his words and not see that this is about not offending the homosexuals.

77 posted on 11/25/2014 7:00:27 AM PST by piusv
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To: Salvation

Where did I say it is OK to covet your neighbor’s wife?

It is not OK to covet anyone else’s wife.

Was this comment meant for me?


78 posted on 11/25/2014 7:06:20 AM PST by Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
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To: piusv; don-o
"I'm really not sure how anyone can read his [Chaput's]words and not see that this is about not offending the homosexuals."

That interpretation srikes me as so bizarre I hardly know how to comment. Are we to forget that there are SEVEN deadly sins (Pride, Anger, Lust (not just Homosexual), Envy, Gluttony, Avarice, and Sloth?

Are we to forget that, according to the Bible and to traditional Catholic teaching ---there are FOUR specially-highlighted "Sins That Cry Out to Heaven for Vengeance," murder (Gn 4:10), sodomy (Gn 17:20-21), oppression of the poor (Ex 2:23), and defrauding workers of their just wages (Jas 5:4)?

Are we to forget that prophets like Amos grouped economic, sexual, and idolatrous sins all in one batch? Practically all in one breath:

“For the three crimes, the four crimes of Israel, I have made my decree and will not relent: because they have sold the upright for silver and the poor for a pair of sandals, because they have crushed the heads of the weak into the dust and thrust the rights of the oppressed to one side, father and son sleeping with the same girl and thus profaning my holy name, lying down beside every altar on clothes acquired as pledges” (2:6-8).

St. Paul almost invariably includes sexual sins like sodomy in long lists of other defiling sins. I can think of four such lists:

And heres two others, one from John and one from Jesus' own lips:

Here's a good example from Paul:

(1 Cor 6:9-10)
Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither
the sexually immoral nor
idolaters nor
adulterers nor
homosexual offenders, nor
thieves nor
the greedy nor
drunkards nor
slanderers nor
swindlers
will inherit the kingdom of God.

And that is what some of you were.

It's clear God finds homosexual practices revolting. I can't imagine he has a more indulgent judgment for people who masturbate in front of a computer screen, or people who give free rein to anger and pride, who practice habitual calumny, who drive the lost lambs further into the thickets, who ruin their bodies by overeating and sitting in front of a computer screen for hours on end, or who contracept.

Moralists do make distinctions, even among mortal sins, between really bad and really, really bad. But any one of these sins--- unless, turning to God for mercy, you reject them from the heart --- will kill you dead.

That though should keep us from getting too pharasiacal:

"I thank you, God, that I am not like the rest of men. Esecially not like that homosexual."

79 posted on 11/25/2014 9:46:13 AM PST by Mrs. Don-o (What does the LORD require of you, but to act justly, to love tenderly, to walk humbly with your God)
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To: Mrs. Don-o

I get it, Mrs. Don-o. You are here to point out how terrible every other Catholic here is.

I get it.


80 posted on 11/25/2014 9:49:52 AM PST by piusv
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