Posted on 09/25/2014 8:25:58 AM PDT by Morgana
Many years ago I had some camera equipment and did amateur photography. There was this one “stuck up” girl at work no one could get near, but she kept shying up to me and the camera, mugging whenever she could. Now for the “Dear Penthouse” moment. She was a friend but she got her own apartment and wanted to show it to me. It took her all of 3 minutes to be naked and mugging for the camera on her bed. I learned that day that girls LOVE the attention a camera brings. Girls would literally jump I front of the camera at every opportunity. I was doing scenic shoots in England and loving the countryside but it turned out I had more photos of girls than I had of countryside. Puppies and babies maybe chick magnets but cameras are the supermagnet.
I’ve got about 10 screen plays partially written. Non of them are porn.
It's still his responsibility as the head of the marriage, whether you like it or not.
The outcome of the woman's response is not always guaranteed, but he is still responsible to try and work at the relationship himself, and he is accountable before God as the man, just as Adam was in the garden.
Their eyes weren't opened until after HE ate. Sin entered the world through Adam.
Too bad, but foisting the responsibility off on the wife, the woman who is the weaker vessel, is blame-shifting and an indication of issues in the man's heart and mind.
I don’t get that. Someone gets a camera out, and I’m GONE!
Never heard of Jimmy Evans, but a significant number of reputable Christian marriage experts don’t have much nice to say about LaHaye’s book.
Leman’s ‘’Sheet Music’’, Penner’s ‘’The Gift of Sex’’ and Nelson’s ‘’The Book of Romance’’ are far, far better.
I also remember years ago, Dr. Laura being very critical of married men who viewed porn on line. Her view changed dramatically when she got a letter from a married man who was denied sex with his wife and expressed the frustration and depression the rejection caused him; especially since he would never consider having an affair. After that letter, her first question to a woman calling in about her husband’s porn habit became, ‘’How easy is it for your husband to have sex with you, and how often do you initiate sex with him?’’ Most often, the silence was deafening. At that point, Dr. Laura would make the simple, but honest observation, ‘’How can you blame him if you are refusing his sexual advances?’’
Not saying it is true in every case, but married women sometimes must accept some responsibilty if their husbands are using porn.
metmom,
You need to read Song of Solomon if you think the resposibility is only on the husband; or do you think Song of Solomon is only an allegory about God’s love of His children?
Your views about the sexual relationship within marriage do not appear to be very Biblical.
Do you think it is a sin for a wife to withold sex from her husband except by agreement?
What are the criticisms of LaHaye’s book?
FReepmail if you think there’s a need. I’ve read the book and so am familiar with the content so if it’s better to address it that way, do that.
Absolutely.
How so?
Genesis 3:17 "Because you have heeded the voice of your wife,... "Cursed is the ground for your sake; In toil you shall eat of it All the days of your life.
Adam was the covenant head and because he did not rule his wife correctly but gave into her, tried to make her happy (maybe even for some smoking hot sex) sin entered the world. But your canard that because Adam was the covenant representative Eve is blameless is patently false. She was also cursed and part of that was that she would desire to rule over husband but he was given the authority. Now authority does not translate to culpability or would you blame Christ for the sins of the church? Her most often area of trying to rule her husband is in the bedroom, she reneges on her vows and then holds her husbands sexuality for ransom. Shew makes demands promising to bloom sexually if he will only... But she already made a vow to not defraud to have and hold and to submit to her husband: her body is not hers but it belongs to her husband, yet she uses it for leverage. Some husbands who do not wish to be eunuchs will let her have her frigid power-play and call her bluff. She wants no sex - fine he will find satisfaction elsewhere while still providing and protecting her. He is the head but can only act it if he does not acquiesce to her in her defrauding.
You see what you call blame shifting is what makes you the weaker vessel, because it really is blame avoidance. You avoid your own blame and then blame another, just like a liberal. Justifying the sin not the sinner by making the man the scapegoat for women. You blame the husband for the husband's sins and you also blame him for the wife's sins, you call him to be the head but in the same breath you cut off his authority at the knees.
Me, too! I hate my picture taken. There are extremely few pictures of me. I am usually the one behind the camera.
“It’s the mans job to be the provider and protector of the family “
And not just his but other families as well. Taking advantage of someone, for any reason, is simply not moral or the manly thing to do.
I make needlepoint refrigerator magnets that say JESUS.
I’ve had a few ideas (non porn as well) rattling around in my screwed up brain.
Watch more cat videos. The fur collects on the inside of your skull and muffles the rattling (DAMHIKT).
What happened to your tagline? Everyone loved it!
I have no idea. Didn’t even notice it was gone till you mentioned it.
If it was me, I’d know precisely which teenager to blame.
I have one screen play that is entirely about a “sign” that is poorly worded and easily misinterpreted by both the violator and the enforcer. Put on film today it would work out to about 1 hour. I want it to be 1 hour and 45 minutes. So I am stuffing it with filler. I am almost ready to sell it. I can’t say more.
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