Posted on 05/30/2014 7:00:51 AM PDT by Gamecock
determinate?
You share a lot.
That being said earlier this week we celebrated our 26th anniversary. What did we do? She wanted to go out and eat at a dumpy little Mexican restaurant that has absolutely delicious food that rivals any Tex-Mex restaurant in South Texas, which is where we met and were later married. We couldn't have had a better time at a 5-Star restaurant.
When my eldest brother married, they had a cake and there are several photos of the moment when they "fed" each other a piece of cake. My sister-in-law took a piece, which ended up being almost totally frosting. My brother got a photo of himself with a mouthful of frosting, weighing his piece of cake with a look on his face that was priceless. He did NOT, however, shove the cake in her face. They were laughing and he fed her, her piece of cake normally.
They had their ups and downs; but, they were married for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, they were both killed in an auto accident some years ago.
Really? Since when? This is your wedding day, you have just married the person that you say you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Smashing a piece of your wedding cake into their face is not in keeping with the event.
I find the whole thing an example of the lack of maturity in the younger generation. Needing a "gotcha" moment on your wedding day? Really? Grow up. You can be "playful" without insulting your new spouse.
THis guy is right......it’s CRINGE WORTHY when they smash cake in each other’s faces.....it’s actually disgusting. At what other times do you smash each other in the face?
That’s a thoughtful blog. Thanks for the link.
My wife and I dug out our wedding video a few months ago, on our anniversary. I'd forgotten that we got some jeers at that moment, too - and by a lot of the older folks present! WTF?!
That video is a DVD dub from VHS - we were married in 1987. I've never understood the "custom" of smearing wedding cake on one's newly-minted spouse. A dot of icing on the nose is probably harmless, but some of the examples I've seen are as foreboding as the article suggests.
“My exchange with my ex was gentle and respectful. How did that predict she’d have an affair with my son’s tae kwon do instructor?”
Well, it’s not an *exact* science. And my sympathies.
That one was pretty funny!
I let a couple know at intake a number of conditions that must be met for me even to consider conducting their wedding. One of those is the wedding cake. I will not go forward, I say, unless they agree there will be no “cake face”. I don’t apologize. I don’t soft sell it. I just tell them that’s the standard, that I find the rubbing of cake in someone’s face or hair so disgusting and contemptuous that they will commit not to do that, or any hope of a wedding in a church that I pastor is out the door.
And I will NOT sign the solemnization paperwork until after the reception. Blast away. I don’t care. They can go to the justice of the peace.
My first husband did it to me without warning. Horrible marriage. Current husband and I agreed it is not a pleasant practice, and we shared bites respectfully.
Anyone ever walk?
Interesting observations. I think these couples are fortunate to have a Pastor who understands human nature so well.
You must have got married close to when I did. We also agreed not to smash the cake in each others’ faces. We didn’t, and we’re still married (4 kids) 22 years later.
Same here. There have been some rough patches, but 28 years and we are still going strong.
We never know how long God will give us on this green earth. Another reason to treat with respect the people who matter most in our lives and save the hi-jinks for those who do not.
As I always told my kids: Don't be a liberal who bites the hand which feeds them and licks the boot which kicks them.
It’s the ole’ gratification-from-the-misfortune-of-others schtick. The quintessential low-life moral.
***There have been some rough patches***
Bingo.
And the underlying issues the above article tend to be exacerbated during rough patches. Times get tough, that brings out the worst in people and poof! There goes the marriage.
They can also bring out the very best. Years ago I was taking night classes and working full time. I got laid off just as a new semester was about to begin. The very first thing my wife said was "Great now you can go to school full time and be done that much quicker"
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