“you know why women are attracted to bad boys.”
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A false sense of security because they seem strong and tough?
Really? You are trying to make it out that you don’t know why women are attracted to bad boys?
My well-considered hypothesis:
The female wants her love to redeem and transform a man. In effect, she wants to become both savior and mother to him, and thus to remain in control of the relationship.
If a man is mature and independent and does not need to be redeemed (in that temporal way), then he is both too little a challenge and too great a one:
Too little: There is no great work to be done to improve him. That makes him boring.
Too great: She cannot control him, and he will require her to be her best person. That makes him threatening.
All are prone to a form of idolatry. This is a feminine form. We do need a spiritual Redeemer, but no romantic/sexual partner can be that.
By the bye, we in the ministry call them Rice Christians, and it is almost always the woman who seduces the man into the church - usually with negative results.
Of course, there is also the factor that the human female instinctively (and incorrectly) equates danger with power and dominance. That makes a Bad Boy seem more virile than a Nice Guy.
We often hear that the human male is ruled by his male organ, but we do not hear often enough that the human female is too readily ruled by hers.
I laugh at the idea that women are more emotionally intelligent than men - at least when it comes to love, sex and men. I have observed that women are very stupid about their choices in men - in and out of the institutionalized church.
Women seek them out because being with them is the ultimate realization of women’s need to reject accountability for their own actions.