“So, the judge’s contention that the father is wonderful and the mother is evil really doesn’t tell us much. Maybe the mother did brainwash the children, or maybe not.”
I think the judge is simply trying to enforce the family court’s value that children have a good relationship with each parent. She encountered stiff resistance from the mother to the point of the children refusing to eat lunch with him in the courthouse cafeteria. That’s a pretty strong indicator of tremendous alienation of affection i.e. brainwashing.
Possibly. Or maybe the father is the one with issues, and the children are reacting to that. We just don't know.