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When guys find out I’m a virgin [author is a 26 year old female Christian]
Salon ^ | October 5, 2014 | Ellen Burkhardt

Posted on 10/13/2014 3:06:55 PM PDT by grundle

There’s no good time to tell a guy you’re a virgin. First date? Too much, too soon. Wait until the third date and you risk being considered a tease. Second date? Perhaps, but at this point you’re both still fretting over whether or not to eat another piece of bread; delving into sexual histories (or lack thereof) seems a bit extreme. So: There’s no good time to tell a guy you’re a virgin. Even worse? Telling him you’re waiting until marriage.

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To: Lazamataz

Forget it. She won’t hit you.


41 posted on 10/13/2014 3:32:50 PM PDT by Hoodat (Article 4, Section 4)
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To: grundle

bkmk


42 posted on 10/13/2014 3:33:29 PM PDT by Sergio (An object at rest cannot be stopped! - The Evil Midnight Bomber What Bombs at Midnight)
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To: Viennacon

You have to be kidding.

I’d ask them if they kissed their mom with that mouth. Because dissing women like that is like dissing their moms. After all, their mom is a woman, too.


43 posted on 10/13/2014 3:33:44 PM PDT by dhs12345
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To: GeronL

Maybe it ought to have a cross on it (just joking). It’s not on her soul.


44 posted on 10/13/2014 3:35:00 PM PDT by HiTech RedNeck (Embrace the Lion of Judah and He will roar for you and teach you to roar too. See my page.)
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To: grundle

How far we’ve fallen.


45 posted on 10/13/2014 3:37:15 PM PDT by fwdude (The last time the GOP ran an "extremist," Reagan won 44 states.)
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To: Lazamataz

She was brought up well. She has kept her virtuous values and she has times when that is awkward. I wish her strength and I hope that she meets someone who would value her as much as you would now.


46 posted on 10/13/2014 3:37:44 PM PDT by KC Burke (Gowdy for Supreme Court)
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To: Marie
Well said.

Unfortunately, it became a norm in the 60s and 70s.

47 posted on 10/13/2014 3:37:45 PM PDT by dhs12345
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To: GeronL

Come on now. Nose rings and tattoos aren’t really comparable to pagan idol worship.


48 posted on 10/13/2014 3:39:00 PM PDT by Wyrd bið ful aræd (Asperges me, Domine, hyssopo et mundabor, Lavabis me, et super nivem dealbabor.)
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To: Squantos

Maybe she’s one of those “recommitted virgins.”


49 posted on 10/13/2014 3:41:29 PM PDT by Rides_A_Red_Horse (Why do you need a fire extinguisher when you can call the fire department?)
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To: grundle

Hey, YO! TEEBOW!!

Gotcher date RIGHT HERE MAN, RIGHT EFFIN HERE!!

In all honesty, I think she’s a “fame” tramp.

Nose Ring? If she is what she says she is, then she does NOT know the significance of that piercing.

OTH, if she is looking for her 15 minutes, well then......


50 posted on 10/13/2014 3:41:52 PM PDT by Frederick_Barbarossa (W)
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To: Hugin

I wouldn’t buy a car without first taking a test drive.


51 posted on 10/13/2014 3:41:55 PM PDT by KevinB (Barack Obama: Our first black, gay, Kenyan, Muslim president!)
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To: skimbell

But here’s the worst one.

My friend waited until marriage. She had a baby with her husband. He gave her VD and that’s how she discovered that he was unfaithful. When he was called on it, he left the marriage. She wanted to work on it (marriage was sacred for her), but he did not.

Once she was a single mother, it’s like the floodgates opened in the eyes of men.

She was a pure soul and had saved herself for marriage. The man was scum and he left HER. When she tried dating again, NO MAN would tolerate waiting.

Why? She wasn’t a virgin, so what did it matter? In his eyes, she was damaged goods and had to right to ask for respect or chastity.

“Good Christian” men could not understand that she still valued sex within marriage and she never found a husband. (25 years later, she’s still sweet and single and unloved because she refused to bend her morality to the fashion of the day.) Even the men in her church became impatient. They’d make a commitment as far as ‘girlfriend’ went, but not marriage. Not a full year of holding out for that special love. (And no. She’s not ugly. Cute as a button.)

Just because a woman has a *baby* doesn’t mean that she’s easy or a slut.

At the age of 43, she has only slept with one man and that man was her husband and is the father of her child.

She won’t settle for less, and the men no longer see her as a woman of value.

Why? Because they don’t have to.


52 posted on 10/13/2014 3:42:12 PM PDT by Marie (When are they going to take back Obama's peace prize?)
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To: Marie
A good girl can’t keep a guy for even two months if she doesn’t put out.

What, that is so untrue!! Why are Christian girls even dating or interested in these kind of men? There are plenty of good men out there who shun the kind of women who are typically having sex with everyone they date by the third date and the Christian ones are looking for someone who wants to wait until marriage. This young lady and the men out there like her should be held up as worthy of emulation and given hope and encouragement.

53 posted on 10/13/2014 3:43:18 PM PDT by LambSlave
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To: Popman

“-——nothing says devout Christian like a nose ring-——

A little harsh....”

I don’t think so.

“Lots of very devout young people do get caught up in their generations fashion statements....”

Not really an excuse or good reason.

“My nephew, a serious christian got a tattoo on his arm as a statement of his faith....when he became saved...”

Makes no sense. Kind of like going out and committing sodomy to celebrate getting saved.

Some people are mixed up and this writer in Slate seems to be one.


54 posted on 10/13/2014 3:48:30 PM PDT by ifinnegan
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To: Gamecock

She has intentionally dressed down, imho.


55 posted on 10/13/2014 3:49:49 PM PDT by SgtHooper (Anyone who remembers the 60's, wasn't there!)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

I remember there was nothing more annoying than the virgins that brought it up at every opportunity. Most of them had reputations of being the sluttiest ones in school who had done nearly everything (except going all the way) with every guy in school.


56 posted on 10/13/2014 3:51:02 PM PDT by MNDude
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To: Marie

Bingo! Excellent response!


57 posted on 10/13/2014 3:51:06 PM PDT by SgtHooper (Anyone who remembers the 60's, wasn't there!)
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To: fieldmarshaldj

Nose rings are biblical.


58 posted on 10/13/2014 3:51:28 PM PDT by MrEdd (Heck? Geewhiz Cripes, thats the place where people who don't believe in Gosh think they aint going.)
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To: Lazamataz

59 posted on 10/13/2014 3:54:12 PM PDT by SoFloFreeper
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To: MrEdd

Not in a favorable manner are they Biblical.


60 posted on 10/13/2014 3:55:11 PM PDT by RegulatorCountry
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