Posted on 10/13/2014 3:06:55 PM PDT by grundle
There’s no good time to tell a guy you’re a virgin. First date? Too much, too soon. Wait until the third date and you risk being considered a tease. Second date? Perhaps, but at this point you’re both still fretting over whether or not to eat another piece of bread; delving into sexual histories (or lack thereof) seems a bit extreme. So: There’s no good time to tell a guy you’re a virgin. Even worse? Telling him you’re waiting until marriage.
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A Gold Standard well worth seeking . . . and it wasn't so rare back when we got hitched.
Why bring it up? Are you serious?
In today’s society, girls who really do want to preserve their chastity for a special man are shunned.
Why should he stick it out with her when there are so many others who are willing? A good girl can’t keep a guy for even two months if she doesn’t put out.
Today’s society have destroyed chastity for women. We have lost every bit of our female power to sexual ‘freedom’. Now we are to accept being used as a matter of course. Serial monogamy rules the day.
This strong woman is fighting for something precious and she’s letting other young women know that it’s possible and that they are not alone.
Yes. We need reassurance. We need to know that we’re not weird.
The sexual revolution has destroyed womanhood and I cannot see it being repaired.
Laz, if you are making a fist, you are still hitting it, kind of. Lol.
Any of the handful of girls I actually liked (back in the day)could have told me that without causing me to so much as blink an eye.
Sometimes it’s the angle of the photo. She has a Katie Holmes look to her. As a single man myself, I’d rather date her than the collection of sluts around these days.
Lose the nose ring, and find a good Christan serviceman returning from Afghanistan (or one who served in Iraq). That’s where she should be looking.
Comments on Slate are naturally repulsive. Most extreme: this woman is apparently being a b*** by even dating anyone because every man wants to have sex like a rutting dog.
Also, the characteristic: sex is what defines us!
Slate readers are the shallowest of the shallow.
I enjoy this woman’s honesty. Unfortunately such people of the Western strain are in short supply, leading many in the younger generations who seek such tradition, having to look elsewhere like the Far East for love interests.
thanks to the Feminist movement guys expect women to be sluts and women who aren’t are treated like they are abnormal.
....Christian, writing for the liberal Salon about her virginity.
I see the problem: she needs to date a shrink....
I used to say, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. Doesn’t mean you can’t have fun.
She is obviously not dating good guys then
-——nothing says devout Christian like a nose ring-——
A little harsh....
Lots of very devout young people do get caught up in their generations fashion statements....
My nephew, a serious christian got a tattoo on his arm as a statement of his faith....when he became saved...
It is a arrow with a 180 degree turn.... He uses it as a evangelical tool to reach his generation...very effectively I might add...
There's also no good reason that you have to tell.
I guess he could also use some graven images and golden calfs to spread the message too
Doesn’t a tattoo send a certain message about oneself? Aren’t our bodies our temples? Why deface a temple?
In college there were a handful of guys who probably could have been my first, but things never quite worked out.
It sounds like a fairly shallow-type of Christianity.
Most guys are very happy to date a pure woman... but they still expect that woman to give it up for *them*.
Sure. A man would be accepting of a virgin. It makes it even more special when she has sex with him.
I’m sorry, but the facts bear weight here. Guys do not tolerate a chaste relationship because the have no reason to. Why spend a year in sexual frustration and have to make a life-time commitment to a woman when the next girl will put out without all the baggage?
This is reality. This is the truth. Right or wrong, men aren’t tolerating chastity because too many women are putting out.
We were the gate-keepers and we stopped doing our jobs. Now we’re routinely used and abused and we have no one to blame, but feminism...
;-)
But you don’t need to behave like one. Being a Christian means being like Christ.
Yeah, I've heard that one a bunch!
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