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Marriage is Different from Popular Perception, Study finds
Accuracy in Academia ^ | August 26, 2014 | Jace Gregory

Posted on 08/27/2014 7:32:45 AM PDT by Academiadotorg

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1 posted on 08/27/2014 7:32:45 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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To: Academiadotorg; 185JHP; 230FMJ; AKA Elena; APatientMan; Albion Wilde; Aleighanne; ...
Good stuff. It should also be noted that couples who live together before marriage are more prone to divorce and separation after they marry. More than couples who do not live together first.

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2 posted on 08/27/2014 7:47:14 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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my parents never lived together before marriage and they were married till death did them part.


3 posted on 08/27/2014 7:50:18 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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Marriage is more like raising a child than it is like a romance or even a friendship.

You can start with lots of resources (family support, solid moral foundation, spiritual support, emotional support are all like good DNA and money in the bank), but it's what you put into the job every day that ultimately counts. You have to find patience, perseverance….

At least, this is like a long term marriage. And without the good "DNA" you can still have a good marriage, it's just less likely and more difficult.

I watch many men think that when they like what their eyes see, they'll get a faithful and loving wife. I say--stick with porn. You'll be happier. More miserable marriages are based on a man wanting a hottie than anything else I've observed.

But, that's good for short term marriages. You can always marry a hottie in her twenties or early thirties and then get rid of her before menopause hits. Look at Rush, for instance.

4 posted on 08/27/2014 7:53:01 AM PDT by Mamzelle
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Look at Rush, for instance.

Or Juan McCain?

5 posted on 08/27/2014 7:55:32 AM PDT by Pearls Before Swine
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Porn is what breaks up some marriages because men feel they are missing out.


6 posted on 08/27/2014 8:01:21 AM PDT by dragonblustar ( Psalm 103, Psalm 37:7, Ephesians 6:12)
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To: Academiadotorg

It’s time to teach courtship again and the reason why it is important as the first step.


7 posted on 08/27/2014 8:09:45 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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To: Pearls Before Swine

John Wayne was married 3 times... all to Hispanic beauties.


8 posted on 08/27/2014 8:16:11 AM PDT by wyowolf
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Mollie has a point.

From now on, when I buy yogurt, I'm going to ask myself, "What can I do for this yogurt?"

9 posted on 08/27/2014 8:18:47 AM PDT by Verginius Rufus
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John Wayne was married 3 times... all to Hispanic beauties.

If it's good enough for The Duke...

10 posted on 08/27/2014 8:24:05 AM PDT by Pearls Before Swine
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11 posted on 08/27/2014 8:26:03 AM PDT by DJ MacWoW (The Fed Gov is not one ring to rule them all)
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Had the huge wedding with the first wife. Ended in divorce after she had affairs. My 2nd wife and I got married by a judge nearly fourteen years ago. No others present. People talk about about what a great marriage we have because of the way we love each other. The key is having each other’s back.


12 posted on 08/27/2014 8:30:23 AM PDT by optiguy (If government is the answer, it was a stupid question.)
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To much of anything is not good think first.


13 posted on 08/27/2014 8:47:16 AM PDT by Vaduz
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Yes, the couple has to have a it’s “us” vs. the world mentality.


14 posted on 08/27/2014 8:50:27 AM PDT by skinndogNN
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"Trial marriages" don't work because people can't act as though they're committed when they know they aren't.

If I take a test drive in a car, and decide I don't want it and take it back to the dealer, the car doesn't care. Nor do I get emotionally involved with the car. "Test driving" a marriage is not really like living in a committed marriage. You can't find out what a marriage to someone would be like by "trying it out," with an eye on the door if it doesn't work.

There's a lot to be said for a courtship that focuses on the couple getting to know each other well.

15 posted on 08/27/2014 8:54:29 AM PDT by JoeFromSidney (Book: RESISTANCE TO TYRANNY. Available from Amazon.)
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“whole truly counterintuitive point of a happy marriage is that you’re not supposed to be thinking about what your spouse can do for you so much as what you can do for your spouse.”

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The woman quoted makes an excellent point. The notion of putting others first has become rare indeed in our society.


16 posted on 08/27/2014 9:15:40 AM PDT by Bigg Red (31 May 2014: Obamugabe officially declares the USA a vanquished subject of the Global Caliphate.)
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Overall, I have to agree with the assessment of the article. My personal case worked out a bit differently, but only because of a direct promise to God. My wife and I lived together for seven years, then broke up for seven years. Circumstances happened, and we got back together. Part of the circumstances that led us back together was my return to the Catholic Church after a twenty-year hiatus, and her conversion to the Catholic Church. If not for the Catholic community treasure, we would most likely have not gotten married. But when we reconnected, I made a solemn promise to God that I would marry her and make it work. She has been the only woman in my life for nearly 35 years (even when we split, I did not chase around, but spent my time getting square with God). While I would not recommend others trying our path; it worked in our case, but it has been a wild ride up to about five years ago. Pax domini sit semper vobiscum.


17 posted on 08/27/2014 9:16:03 AM PDT by Montana_Sam (Truth lives.)
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Wait. You are saying Ronald Reagan was shot again in 1983? I was alive then and I don’t remember any such thing. Do you have a citation?


18 posted on 08/27/2014 9:28:40 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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19 posted on 08/27/2014 9:30:23 AM PDT by Mears
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To: Bigg Red

yeah, and the 70s was supposed to be the me decade


20 posted on 08/27/2014 10:03:01 AM PDT by Academiadotorg
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