Thanks, papertyger. I’ve asked a lot of people that question. That’s the first answer that makes sense.
De Nada.
The easiest to manipulate gun I own happens to be a full size XD .45. Now, when it goes off, that’s a different matter, but even that can be mitigated by lighter ammunition....185 grain, as opposed to the standard 230 grain.
I think some of the specialty stuff even goes down to like 135 grains, but that’s probably too expensive for practice.
When it comes to recoil managment, I like to tell women to think of it as a fishing pole in reverse. Instead of pull, you get a push.
They may not like the recoil. It may even scare them. But it is certainly nothing that someone with the physical strength to drive a car can’t learn to handle. You might want to make her a playlist of YouTube videos on recoil managment and “how to shoot a handgun.” By the time she’s finished watching, she’ll at least be comfortable with the “concept” of recoil, and may even be willing to try some of the bigger doggies.