Skip to comments.I'm childless at 42 and haunted by the baby I aborted at 18
Posted on 04/25/2012 9:37:08 PM PDT by grundle
Once, at a smart wedding in Northamptonshire when I was about 30, someone handed me a newborn baby and my skin broke out in hot hives.
In Brazil, I met a ten-year-old street kid. I fed him, let him sleep and shower in my hotel room, bought him clothes, and felt an overwhelming desire to protect and nurture him.
I had never before felt such a forceful maternal instinct. These events were profoundly physical reactions, both shocking to me.
Just around the time of my trip to Brazil, the ghost of my never-born came back to haunt me. I began imagining what he might have been like a tall and sandy-haired boy, who would have been 17 at the time. I was 35, the age when the experts say your eggs and fertility start declining.
Its embarrassing to reveal these visions of my never-born son, and important to understand their significance. This imagined son was not some moral spectre come to punish me; it was my subconscious reminding me to wake up and face reality.
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Even my adamantly pro-life, anti-abortion daughter didn’t realize that. Her initial reaction was that people claim so much causes cancer, how can they know.
I explained the physiological changes that occur in the body during pregnancy and how when not finished with the completion of a full term pregnancy and resultant lactation, can leave those cells unstable and susceptible to mutation that results in cancer.
Another very well kept secret is that breastfeeding significantly LOWERS the breast cancer risk. The more and longer you nurse, the better the protection.
That is why I said there is a train coming down the track...Of course the Feminism crowd is not there yet, but I can see it coming down the track. The stats of people living in nursing homes will change as this career bunch begins to unravel.
No matter how much they regret it, or even repent, I have a hard time feeling too sorry for a woman who killed her own child.
So glad you are able to share your knowledge with the next generation who will tell friends.And I encourage all women, especially my daughters, to breast feed for many reasons and the one stated is a big one.
And when will the medical establsihment share that the Pill is toxic and increases the chance of cancer?And that the rise in the number of cases of breast cancer seems to match the increase use of the pill? Shhh!!!!!The worst thing is to have a baby......
“And our culture is encouraging the fertile young women not to marry, but to sell their eggs.”
Our culture teaches the fertile young women that if they can find a guy dumb enough to impregnate them it is probably the only way they’ll have children and the guy is on the hook for “child support” (read: Mommy’s rent) for the next 18-24 years. Unfortunately the guys saw what was happening around them and many of them see to it they won’t be the “sugar daddy” (or their daddy, living in squalor while their mother bleeds him dry). Our women today are reaping what they’ve sown, and watching foreigners fill this country in the place of the children they’ll never have.
Husbands, boyfriends, fathers are USUALLY the ones demanding "their" women have abortions in the first place. It is rarely entirely the woman's idea. There was/is a lot of pressure placed on women who are pregnant "inconveniently". Many women would not have made the choice to abort had the father of the child shared the responsibility for the baby they created. So, yes, husbands, fathers, men DO fail - women don't get pregnant by themselves! Condemning the abortive mother while letting the man responsible for the pregnancy off, is hypocrisy. For abortion to become UNTHINKABLE in our lifetime, the truth about it MUST be faced - all aspects.
Amen! She said more than a few times that she was in denial. Most post-abortive women do go through sometimes decades of denial in order to cope with what, deep in their hearts, they KNOW what they did. The truth can only be suppressed for so long and it is not unusual for women to exhibit symptoms of mental duress that comes out through drug addiction, alcoholism, sexual promiscuity, child abuse and other self-destrcutive behaviors as types of "coping" mechanisms. It is ONLY by confronting the truth, forgiving others and yourself and knowing that Christ forgives all those who genuinely confess their sin to him, that real freedom from guilt can occur. It is a process and there are many Pregnancy Help Centers and Project Rachael groups that help women through it.
Very true, the strongest supporters of legalized abortion, are not women, it is young single men. Every single poll or study done on the topic has shown this.
They want the exit so they don’t wind up with a lifetime of responsibility for their actions.
Plenty of blame to go around on abortions. A lot of them are pushed by boyfriends, husbands, and parents, especially when the mom is scared.