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Posted on 11/26/2008 5:27:35 PM PST by raybbr
Edited on 12/29/2008 12:47:17 PM PST by Admin Moderator. [history]
Dear FReepers and friends.
I am in need of prayers. I planned this trip to Chicago several weeks ago. A week ago Monday my mother became short of breath and was taken to the ER at her hospital. They kept her overnight and could find nothing wrong. She's 74 and has been smoking all her adult life.
They told us it was the onset of emphysema. Last Friday she had another episode and was taken to another hospital where she was diagnosed with double pneumonia. She has been in the hospital since.
I arrived with my two sons yesterday and I went to see her. She looked terrible to me but I sat with and held her and stroked her hair and told her I loved her.
Today they did an angiogram and found a 95% percent blockage in one of the arteries in her heart. They tried to put a stent in but for some reason could not. Now they have put her on a list for open heart surgery.
Yesterday after I left her I called my wife who had to stay in CT and told her the I felt that my mother would not survive this event. I don't know why but that's what I thought yesterday. She had been doing a lot better but to me, seeing her like that was heartbreaking.
I would like to ask for the help of the forum. I really need your prayers for the next few days. They have not scheduled the surgery and are thinking of putting it off till Friday.
I am staying at my sister's house and have limited access to the net. I will check back and keep everyone posted when I can.
Thanks in advance for the prayers.
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Dear FRiends. The end is near. I spoke to my sister moments ago and my mom is now DNR. She has been suffering and struggling and it is the time to say goodbye. She is ready to move on to the Lord and find peace and happiness in the care of Jesus. It is so hard for me to sit here and wait. My sister, father and brother have been through so much and we are all ready for that time when she decides to let go of us and this earth and make her way to heaven. They now say she has lung cancer. On top of everything else we know that she is suffering. It is time. Thank you all for being here for me and my family. Here are some pics of my mother and father at their wedding. Pray for her peace and a new beginning in the arms of the Lord. Thank you all. Ray And, my dad’s favorite...
Thank you all for your prayers. My mom is in pretty good spirits even though it has now been upgraded to a double bypass including a LIMA.
I was able to bring my sons in even though Community Hospital of Munster, IN does not normally allow it. (Thanks to Jodi her nurse)
She saw her grandson, my son, for the first time. My older son also was there. He was a bit scared by her appearence but the little one gave her a kiss on the forehead. She was so excited and happy. We were able to stay for about an hour and then had to leave.
Prayers were said at the Thanksgiving Day table for her and my father. I forgot to mention him. The man is a rock. But we all know that even rocks cry and are scared.
I know there are miracles every day and prayers on FR are the cause for a lot of them.
She goes in first thing tomorrow.
I can’t thank you all enough for your thoughts and prayers. I plan to show this thread to my sister when she comes back from her visit with mom.
>> She goes in first thing tomorrow.
Will continue praying.
More prayers for you and your mom.
Thanks for the good news..best of wishes. May God be by your mother’s side tomorrow..and ever after. May God comfort all your family.
Continued prayers for your mom and your family.
That visit with you and your boys was good and powerful medicine for your mom to have before she goes into surgery.
I know you all are concerned. My family has been in a similar situation. My mother had a stint put into her heart, but it didn’t do the job and she had quadruple bypass heart surgery shortly afterward. She was around your mom’s age. I’m thankful to say that she is still going strong.
Praying that your mom’s surgery and recovery will be successful too, and that she will have many more years to enjoy life with her loved ones.
Y’all will be in my prayers tonight and tomorrow. God bless and be with you all.
Prayers continue.
Thanks for the reply and please give us updates on her condition.
Prayers up again...
What a good report! Prayers continue.
Thanks for the update, Raybrr.
Prayers are continuing. Will be thinking of you and praying for your family tomorrow morning.
Thanks for the update and the good news about your mom getting to see and be in the receiving end of a kiss from her grandson. Those are always nice to get. Prayers continue for your mom, her medical team, your dad, and all your family. I’ll keep an eye out for further updates. May tomorrow be the beginning of a recovery that brings good health and well being for your mom.
Thank you for the update. Prayers continue...
BTTT
You and your family are in my thoughts expecially at this time. Prayers continue.
Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers.
Her surgery went well but it was worse than even they thought yesterday. It became a triple by-pass and she had a collapsed lung. Her heart is enlarged and they had to put tubes in to drain the fluid around her lungs and heart.
I went to see her tonight with my father. She looked pretty good to me. Her eyes were open and she was responding to questions.
That poor man. I only hope I still love my wife like that after fifty years. I felt so helpless watching him ask her to squeeze his hand so he could find some reassurance of her strength. Just looking for some sign that she was going to be ok.
He cried as we were geting to our cars. I told him it was ok to cry and held him as he cried. I told him that he held me when I was a child and in pain and now it was my turn.
He went home and I went off to my sister’s. We have been trying to get him to come here and stay with us but he insists on going home alone.
The next couple of days are going to be critical and I am glad I could be here to help her in any way I can.
Please, once again, remember us in your prayers.
Ray
Praying for your Mother to heal so your Father is not alone. May the Good Lord Bless them both.
Prayers continue for your mother and family.
Prayers are continuing for your mom. Also praying for your dad; I’m sure he feels he needs to take care of her. God bless him.
I’m also saying a prayer for you and your sis.
Prayers still being said.
..very touching.
May God keep your mother in His protective and comforting embrace, and for your father, yourself and family. Dear Lord extend your Mercy and Grace to this good woman and her family.
More prayers to follow. Keep an eye out for the post-surgical infections.
Prayers continue....
May the good Lord wrap his arms around your parents and your family and ease any pain.
How your Mom must feel with all those tubes...my heart aches for her. I hate hospitals. Thank God she has all of you to watch out for her, and to care.
I do so hope that all turns out well.
One sentence of advice though...it's very important, too: Keep reminding your Mom of what she CAN do, not what she can't. People in hospitals or as they begin to recover, just can't see the positives/their accomplishments. Those that are helping them need to remind them of their progress---even the most TINY accomplishments. (Mom...that's great, remember...you couldn't do that yesterday--you're getting better. *** Remember three days ago, when you couldn't _____ - see how you can do that now? You ARE getting better...little by little...that's how you do it - I'm so proud of you.)
still praying for you all...
Thank you that is a beautiful summary of the love between you all. It has been exactly a year since my husband of 50 years had his double bypass. Your mother has a few more hurdles to overcome but I pray that she is able to do it. God Bless you all.
Prayers are being said.
Thank God you are there for your mom and dad! And thank you for keeping us informed. Prayers continue...
It’s really hard when you have to comfort your father who has always comforted you. You did so well! My Dad (older than your Mom and diabetic) under went a triple a little over a year ago. He feels and looks better now than he has in years. Have hope and faith. I’m still praying along with many others.
I've gone through two of those surgeries with loved ones...it's NOT easy on the family. My heartfelt prayers for ALL of you!!!!!!
Dear Ray... I am praying for your mother, your father, and your whole family at this hard time in your lives. God is on his throne ... all will be well.
Prayers for you and your family.
You and yours are in my Prayers.
Prayers up for your mother and for you.
...And prayers for your father and the rest of the family, too.
Almighty Father, please heal raybbr’s mother and make her whole, provide for the needs of all the family members, and grant them Your Peace in their hearts, that they know You will do what is best, to Your greater Glory. I ask this in Jesus’ Holy Name, Amen.
(((((((God Bless)))))))
Dear Ray, We will continue to lift you and your precious parents to the Lord. Our God is so Good and loves your Mom so much. We are here for you. May God hold your Mom in His Arms and heal her for His Glory .
BTTT
BTTT
Thanks for the update; your family remains in our thoughts and prayers.
Prayers for your mom, you and your family. Your mom is a very fortunate person to have a caring son such as you.
Prayers sent.
Prayers offered.
Praying for a speedy recovery.
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