Posted on 04/01/2013 2:14:38 PM PDT by marcbold
My wife recently chaperoned a dance for junior high schoolers at a Catholic school. She working the door when another of the chaperones, a father of one of the students in attendance, hurried over and asked her what he was supposed to do about an eighth grade girl making out with an 8th grade guy in the middle of the dance floor.
“That’s not ok, is it?” he asked her. “Should we be doing something about this?”
The man truly didn’t know what his responsibilities were. My wife was stunned by the question. She was about to answer when another man came up to her and asked her the same question about the kissing couple. “It’s not O.K.,” she said. “Tell them to stop!”
From what I understand, after a lot of eyerolls from the couple, they stopped mauling each other with their mouths. But here’s the thing - what they were doing was completely expected. Kids do dumb things. What the kids did was something kids have been trying to do since kids were invented. Nothing new there.
What has changed in recent years are parents. Can you imagine just forty years ago two fathers frozen and completely unaware of what to do about two eighth graders kissing passionately on the dance floor? What’s happened to men? What’s happened to Dads?...
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Answer: feminism
Problem solved
Nan if by “feminism” you mean by my post 4 then yes.
And always make a point to be cleaning your gun when a potential suitor comes to the house to pick up your daughter.
What happened to Dads? Feminists, over-indulged children, family court judges, and a pop culture that portrays them as the family idiot who just can’t “get with the times”. Everything we do is too little, too late, too much, too early, too harsh, or too soft. Domestic violence has now been defined down to the point where it includes “criticism”, or questioning how his wife spends the money.
In short, we’re afraid to take any action. Everything we do can cost us everything and no one appreciates the effort anyway.
And always make a point to be cleaning your gun when a potential suitor comes to the house to pick up your daughter.
Tell him you “have a backhoe and 20 acres and they’ll never find your body”.
What makes your wife think that they did not know what to do?
They knew perfectly well what to do, they were seeking a ‘group consensus’ before taking action.
In particular, they were making sure that the female chaperone in the room was going to support their action.
When I was chaperoning my daughters high school dances, the situation was reversed. A mom asked me and another dad to break up the grope session.
Unfortunately, breaking them up led to the second problem of the night. The young lad was too drunk to stand. The young lad spent most of the rest of the night in the men’s room hugging his favorite toilet !
Went to catholic HS in the early 60s. We danced as close as they would let us (the priests and nuns and lay chaperones).
What we did on dates after that would not have passed muster with the religious who ran the school. At that age you can only watch them for so long before they find a place to do whatever they please(or whatever the girl would allow ).
Not trying to undermine what you are trying to do. Just stating the facts as they were near 50 years ago and some things don’t change.
One word: feminism.
America is falling into the hell that has been perpetrated onto the black community, and if you don't stand up to now, you will end up with the same results: massive OOW children, feral kids, and poverty.
What’s happened to men? What’s happened to Dads?...
Well... That really quite simple. No matter what we say or what we do and what sort of example we set... We’re wrong.
Where did it start? I’m not really sure, feminism maybe? A big point was no-fault divorce and the family court system. Dad’s are evil and never good parents. Yes that’s a stereotype but it’s actually pretty accurate.
Then there’s TV, Dad’s are the most common butt of jokes on a sitcom. Commercials, Oh dear lord when was the last one made that showed an intelligent Father in a family setting. (I really don’t know, I quit watching TV for my blood pressure in the late 90’s.)
So when I go to the school as part of my grand-daughter’s activities when parents are invited I am not surprised to see that Dad’s are in the minority.
If a man is alone in a forest and his wife isn't around to hear him, is he still wrong?
Don’t forget to add, “I aint afraid to go back to prison, boy”
Don’t forget to add, “I aint afraid to go back to prison, boy”
LOL!!!!
Went to catholic HS in the early 60s. We danced as close as they would let us (the priests and nuns and lay chaperones).
Same here. We had Christian Brothers. They were tough, too.
At one of those dances I learned that some girls wore “falsies”.
I may be way out of line but I don’t really agree with the article or the example used. When I was a kid, Dads didn’t chaperone school events. That was the Moms jobs. Dads would coach basketball or a sport, show up at the science fair but they didn’t “tread” on the chaperoning deal. That being said, kudos to the Dads in this article for chaperoning and volunteering their time. Perhaps they felt “out of place” and unsure what is acceptable in a school environment and didn’t want to step on toes. At least they pointed out a situation and asked for direction. IMHO... if the writer of the article wanted to make a point about lack of a moral compass for Fathers... this wasn’t a good example. Just my opinion...
A few years ago one of my young workers got married. His mother was at the wedding. He was a younger fella so naturally he requested a gangsta rap song that had a lot of motherf&^*%r this and that and other non flattering words. One of my junior supervisors just looked at me then got up and took him to the side.
We had more family friendly music the rest of the wedding.
At our dances, our dean had a little bell she rang if you were dancing to closely or whatever; then she would run between you like a mac truck. She never missed a one.
My HS was run by Marist brothers. But the dances were run by the parish many miles from the HS. and the parish priests and the grade school nuns ran the dances. And yes it is amazing what tissues and rolled up sox could do to fill out some missing curves. This was easily fond out with the slow dances. Till the ‘authorities’ pried you apart.
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