Yes, this is all beyond ridiculous. As currently stands, any invite to a date, any attempt to hold hands with a date, to kiss a date, etc., however innocent and well-intentioned, can be turned on its head and misconstrued. I know more than once I asked someone out that was surprised I did so. Should I worry that they might claim bad because of how they felt? Seriously?!
High schools should be gender segregated. Keep the matching up under controlled condition. Teenage boys are too stupid to be left on their own with teenage girls altogether, and add parties with booze, drugs and scanty outfits, and you’re asking for trouble.
Ladies, report directly after the fact, if not then it wasn’t assault. .
I can’t completely agree with that. A younger victim, or even some older ones, often feel a great deal of shame, even though they shouldn’t. And they feel like the person taking the report may think they contributed to an attack. And I’m pretty sure it’s embarrassing to have to detail the kind of things the perp did to them.
Guys usually don’t think the same way. They want it dealt with. On the other hand, look at all the victims who took years to report abuse by clergy. They felt ashamed that they didn’t stop the abuser, and felt weak. Guys don’t like to be perceived as weak.
Having said all that, these “me too” complaints, like “he touched my shoulder”, and other non-threatening acts, are absurd. But some of them were aggressive, predatory, didn’t take no for an answer, and usually had many victims, yeah -— they should be reported, even if it takes years to get up the guts to do it.