It wasnt as simple as just crossing another river. By law, no Roman general could lead armed troops into Rome. So when Julius Caesar led his Thirteenth Legion across the Rubicon River and into Italy in 49 bc, it was an act of treason. The impact of Caesars decision was irreversible, generating years of civil war before Romes great general became absolute ruler. Still today, the phrase crossing the Rubicon is a metaphor for passing the point of no return.
Sometimes we can cross a relational Rubicon with the words we say to others. Once spoken, words cant be taken back. They can either offer help and comfort or do damage that feels just as irreversible as Caesars march on Rome. James gave us another word picture about words when he said, The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of ones life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell (James 3:6).
When we fear we have crossed a Rubicon with someone, we can seek their forgivenessand Gods (Matthew 5:2324; 1 John 1:9). But even better is to daily rest in Gods Spirit, hearing Pauls challenge, Let your conversation be always full of grace (Colossians 4:6), so that our words will not only honor our Lord, but lift up and encourage those around us.
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INSIGHT
The very practical book of James contains much instruction about the wise use of our words:
"Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (1:19). "Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless" (1:26). "Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another" (4:11).
Why is James's teaching to watch our words crucial for honoring God and people?