Posted on 08/19/2015 4:26:58 AM PDT by HomerBohn
Although it’s the least discussed media topic, porn is systematically infiltrating and killing America (and statistically your family too!).
Few realize just how large a role porn or other forms of sex addiction plays in the breakdown of families. In this digital age, porn isn’t just instantly accessible, it’s the silent killer of families. Porn addiction leaves countless men and women desperate and unaware of where to turn for help. This silent enemy leaves families broken in a wake of despair and destruction after the fall of fathers and husbands. The results are a lineage of addiction and infidelity passed down to innocent children.
Let’s get real for a moment. Porn is the topic no political party or media wants to talk about, but it’s silently killing America one family at a time, possibly even yours.
Porn is a gateway drug that causes ordinary men (and women) to do abnormal things. Our nationwide survey reveals that two-thirds of men view porn at least monthly. This same rate of men risk losing their jobs by looking at porn at work – with one in three expected to get fired due to viewing porn on company time. Even more won’t be able to find a job requiring a polygraph exam because they will have to admit to having viewed deviant sexual videos, such as sex with minors. One-third of men will also take their porn driven fantasy to the real world by having an extramarital affair. We won’t even discuss how porn is the fuel that spurs rape because it conditions men to view women simply as objects of sexual pleasure.
We are quickly losing this next generation to porn and dooming them to divorce, affairs, and hiding in isolation and shame as they can’t stop the cycle of repeatedly turning to the sanctuary of porn driven sexual fantasies that no real person can measure up to. The destruction of porn begins early because 78% of boys are exposed to porn before they are even old enough to drive. More than 4 in 10 men under the age of thirty think they may be addicted to porn, but have no idea where to turn for help because it remains the topic no one will discuss.
Why won’t the media address porn? Certainly the mainstream media is deathly afraid of offending this generation’s outspoken guardians of sexual revolution that anything with anyone goes. Movies spiced with sex sells and porn is the biggest money maker on the Internet. Don’t rock that boat.
But I believe that there is a deeper issue. America has lost it moral compass because we don’t feel we can suggest that looking at porn can be unhealthy because we have tasted the forbidden fruit. We don’t want fingers pointed back at us. We are deathly afraid of being asked if we have viewed porn ourselves. In fact, our survey shows that 97% of all men admit that they have viewed porn (the other 3% likely lied), and most men and a growing number of women sneak a peek at porn at least monthly.
But if we keep caring more about protecting our dirty little secrets, we will keep reaping what we sow. Today, 79% of our young men are already turning to porn every month. This is enhanced by parents happily giving them smart phones without teaching them about the dangers of porn right at their fingertips. We can’t keep letting Hollywood and the porn industry form your child’s worldview and expectations about sex. It’s not a pretty picture. Addictions, divorce and marital dissatisfaction are at all-time highs.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a finger pointer. I am a former sex addict myself. It nearly cost me everything. I’m not even on a warpath or crusade to outlaw porn. Rather, my mission in life is to help those who want help breaking and remaining free from the false forms of intimacy produced by porn and unbridled sexual fantasy
Porn may be here to stay, but that doesn’t mean it should remain hidden under the covers. It also doesn’t mean we don’t warn of the true dangers and harm it can and often does produce. What America needs right now is true freedom to talk about porn and the fantasies it produces that leads to untamed sexual desires where anything with anyone goes. It must begin with open and honest dialog. Let’s not doom our next generation to addiction through silence or ignorance.
It’s time to stop ignoring porn as a topic. It’s time to take back America from the grip of porn addiction, one family at a time. It begins with you taking a stand in your own home, with open discussions as a family. You may even need help breaking free yourself; but seeking help is better than hiding in shame as your family implodes around you.
As more and more of us admit that there’s a real problem with porn, we can start restoring America, and maybe, just maybe, the media and political leaders will wake up along with us.
Pornography is a Trojan Horse sin, because it opens the door to many other sexual sins.
This is a good article and I am very glad he is moving forward in his life with integrity and honor.
All men need to heed his words.
A. because sex sells B. money C. they are one of its primary distributors D. because many if the media moguls are pervs themselves
Companies spend billions using images and video to ifluence people’s decisions so it’s understandable that porn influences people.
Porn will be worse than heroin, crack, and meth combined.
Reminds me of the old joke.
Doctor to patient: "(Sir or Madam...) you're going to have to stop masturbating."Patient: "Oh no, why?"
Doctor: "Well, I'm trying to examine you."
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I’m very certain that porn isn’t going away. Won’t deny that some people become addicted to it, but that is true of a lot of things. I also think this article is alarmist by blaming divorce & broken families on porn. The divorce rate peaked in the early 1980s (well before Internet porn) and has gone down significantly since.
The amount of free porn on the Internet is truly stunning. In my youth it seemed like a tiny handful of women did such things. Never dreamed so many would do it so casually.
Even so, this is nothing new. Supposedly, there used to be brothels on every corner in New York City circa 1870 or so. Which, to me, seems worse.
[Porn addiction leaves countless men and women desperate and unaware of where to turn for help]
JESUS CHRIST will set the captives free.
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It isn’t hard to figure out.
Men are no longer willing to become work horses in order to attract a female, that only cares about how much money and resources he can provide, for her to live a comfortable life in exchanged for doled-out sex that quickly becomes infrequent and requires more work on his part to get. That’s if it doesn’t stop completely.
What is the base reason for men to even marry to start with? Once the sex dries up, he is still required to work and slave to now provide his “roommate” with a lifestyle she wants or else she will divorce him and take half of what he makes.
So why not keep your money and not have to constantly shove out money for Valentine crap, anniversary gifts, Christmas presents, birthday presents, random surprise flowers, and just get your base fulfillment through porn and date randomly as the mood hits? It doesn’t cost him anything. He gets what he needs and doesn’t have to be tied to someone that will just use sex to control him like so many married guys sadly find themselves realizing long after it is too late.
Men have figured out the game, and are no longer playing.
Covenant Eyes is excellent software and you can have an accountability group to monitor it. It works to break the habit.
Pray America is waking
No big deal.
Keep telling yourself that.
The divorce rate peaked in the early 1980s (well before Internet porn) and has gone down significantly since.
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True but the shacking up and splitting up rate is very high, people who would have been married in the 80s and counted in their split up, no longer visible.
Is porn harmful. Have worked with a number of women where lovely, intelligent attractive, willing late 20’s women were ignored by husbands who prefer to masturbate to porn. Porn is easier, a tissue and an internet connection.
Those who argue for the legalization of narcotics should recognize that the inevitable result of eliminating restrictions will be the more pervasive use of them.
The man you describe does not put much thought into his choice of a life partner. Some do not peer beyond the Barbie looks and, therefore, miss important clues about character.
There is enough sex in the movies and on TV
Or at least that's the story the women told you.
Many wives seem to either lose interest in sex after marriage (or, at least sex with their husbands). Some dole it out in miserly doses in exchange for husbands doing things for them (in which case, what's the difference between home and a brothel?).
My viewpoint is, if the wife is willing to do her best to sexually satisfy her husband every night, and yet he still prefers porn, then he has a problem. If she's not willing, then it's her who is the problem.
But let’s be honest here. Are today’s western women really of a high enough quality after a lifetime of feminist propaganda, along with the usual female entitlement mentality, to expect a young guy waste his time and money on trying to find the one that isn’t a nut?
The problem with porn is the damage that it does when children are exposed to it. Their immaturity makes such exposure capable of “warping” their normal sexual identity formation. It warps how they “see” their mother and father and sisters and brothers. It will direct the desires to the unnatural (at that age) and force them to objectify people-—reduce them to their sex organ when it is abnormal during the Latency period where children naturally suppress the sexual instinct for intellectual flourishing.
Sex Education for children was invented by the Cultural Marxists like Adorno and Lukacs to destroy normal sexual formation-—warp it and fixate children in puerile stages-—much like Jeffrey Dammers, John Wayne Gacy, and Charles Manson—who were sexualized and abused in childhood. Trauma in childhood, destroys normal moral formation and creates dysfunctions and perversions and emotionally unhealthy relationships which collapses culture (destroys children in their wake). Only totalitarian systems can exist with the sexualized mindset-—like in Afghanistan where the boys are raised in harems to be raped. They can never “mature”or be “moral”-—base emotions will rule Reason always.
I was just reading about this Death Row inmate who was exposed to hard core pron at age six. It literally destroyed his desires and warped how he “saw” and treated women-—whom he ended up raping and killing when an adult.
When Just Law ceases to be Just, it ceases to be Law. A Civil Society does NOT promote perversions (sodomy) and evil (theft/class warfare), vile behavior in the population....Evil should be punished in a true “justice” (virtue) system. We do have to have “Just Law” which punishes evil and only promotes “virtue” for a civil society.
As Montesquieu stated, it is necessary to promote Virtue for Freedom in Republics for without Virtue, culture will collapse..
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