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Woman Has Two Abortions Because She Didnít Want to Share Her Husband With Her Children
Life News ^ | 7/24/14 | Steven Ertelt

Posted on 07/24/2014 12:32:39 PM PDT by wagglebee

Rowena met Roger when she was a teen and knew he was the man for her and they ultimately married when they were 21 years old. Both agreed they never wanted to have children, so when Rowena became pregnant twice, she had abortions both times.

Rowena says she had the abortions in part because she didn’t want to share her husband’s affections with her children.

She also believes remaining childless is why their marriage has lasted and condemns women who have had children, saying they often have children simply to make their marriage last and not because they truly want children.

Here’s the story from the London Daily Mail:

rowena

The symptoms were horribly familiar. My period – which normally arrived like clockwork – was very late. Waves of nausea had begun to wash over me. A test taken in the family bathroom confirmed what I’d guessed: I was pregnant.

Yet rather than rejoicing in the news that as a happily married woman of 30 I was expecting a baby, I was devastated.

For the second time in my life I was faced with the question of what I wanted more: a baby or my husband’s undivided love. And again, the decision was simple. Ever since I met Roger, I’d known I didn’t want to share him with anyone else, not even our child.

That’s why both times I have become pregnant during the three decades of our marriage, without hesitation I have had an abortion: once at 21 and then again nine years later. Do I feel guilty? Not at all.

While others might accuse me of callousness and of being selfish and cold-hearted, I have no regrets because I believe the result of those two terminations has been an incredibly happy marriage.

Quite simply, we have enjoyed the most wonderful, loving, adventurous life together, while I’ve watched friends with children struggle to maintain their marriages, not always successfully. Their problems, in my opinion, have been caused by putting their children first and their husbands second.

I already knew I loved Roger far too much to have children with him and, thankfully, he confessed he didn’t want them either. A baby, we agreed, would change the blissful dynamic of our relationship.

However, a few months after our wedding, I discovered I was pregnant. I was horrified: I’d been careful about taking the Pill, but it must have failed. I felt cheated and furious.

That feeling of protective, maternal love people talk about didn’t happen. I saw the pregnancy as a mistake, something neither of us wanted. An abortion felt like our only option.

Of course, there were other reasons for my aversion to having a family: I worried that a baby would ruin my figure and I’d lose the interest of my handsome husband, someone I felt was in another league to me when it came to looks.

Roger didn’t need any convincing, so a week later we went together to a private abortion clinic. There were no tears or nerves as we strode in. He stayed by my side the whole time. Yes, it was a horrible thing to go through, but neither of us wavered from our resolve. Afterwards, we felt nothing but a shared sense of relief that we could go back to our blissful life as a couple.

I never think about the two babies I aborted or what might have been. I certainly don’t ever think how old they’d be now or what they’d be doing.

Do I have any regrets? I have to be honest and say that just once I did think about what life would have been like if I’d had children.

Twenty years ago, I was holding my best friend’s daughter’s hand as we crossed a road. Feeling this hot little toddler’s fingers entwined in mine, I was suddenly overwhelmed by maternal feelings.

For a split second I wondered if I’d been wrong, that motherhood would be wonderful.

Then I thought about the implications – it would mean sharing Roger with someone else – and I shook the thought away. I can honestly say I have never thought about it since.

My only misgiving is the fear that Roger may die before me – how would I possibly cope without him? I’d have no one to comfort me.

It’s something I simply can’t bear to think about.



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While others might accuse me of callousness and of being selfish and cold-hearted, I have no regrets because I believe the result of those two terminations has been an incredibly happy marriage.

This woman takes selfishness to a whole new level.

1 posted on 07/24/2014 12:32:39 PM PDT by wagglebee
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2 posted on 07/24/2014 12:33:13 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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3 posted on 07/24/2014 12:33:36 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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Gads. No kidding.


4 posted on 07/24/2014 12:34:36 PM PDT by livius
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A real evil witch!

5 posted on 07/24/2014 12:35:59 PM PDT by skinkinthegrass (The end move in politics is always to pick up a weapon...0'Bathhouse/"Rustler" Reid? d8-)
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To: wagglebee

Apparently, the epitome of “progress” in humans to become a life form with no interest in reproduction.


6 posted on 07/24/2014 12:39:16 PM PDT by spodefly (This is my tag line. There are many like it, but this one is mine.)
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To: wagglebee

Nothing new

If anyone can tell me how this differs from birth control I’d be interested to see such an argument


7 posted on 07/24/2014 12:41:54 PM PDT by stanne
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To: wagglebee

Some of the women I’ve dated I would have been happy to be sure the kids were mine. This one’s a real psycho.


8 posted on 07/24/2014 12:43:47 PM PDT by PLMerite (Shut the Beyotch Down! Burn, baby, burn!)
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To: wagglebee

She deserves capital punishment for her sin. That abortionists and the harpies who seek their services are allowed to escape punishment until Judgment Day does not cast our society in a favorable light.

And no, extrajudicial remedies are not an acceptable solution to this problem. Anyone who suggests such actions is ignorant of Scripture.


9 posted on 07/24/2014 12:44:59 PM PDT by Objective Scrutator (All liberals are criminals, and all criminals are liberals)
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To: wagglebee

On the bright side, she didn’t pass along her stupid murderous genes.


10 posted on 07/24/2014 12:45:20 PM PDT by Jewbacca (The residents of Iroquois territory may not determine whether Jews may live in Jerusalem)
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To: wagglebee

Women like that should be aborted.


11 posted on 07/24/2014 12:45:49 PM PDT by meadsjn
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It’s an extreme of the Hobby Lobby case...

Prevention is one thing, abortifacents is plain murder. Period.


12 posted on 07/24/2014 12:47:24 PM PDT by C210N (When people fear government there is tyranny; when government fears people there is liberty)
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To: spodefly

you haven’t seen my wife..


13 posted on 07/24/2014 12:47:31 PM PDT by brivette
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To: livius

Roger better be sleeping with one eye open


14 posted on 07/24/2014 12:47:45 PM PDT by molson209 (Blank)
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To: wagglebee
As Dan Quayle once said (and is fitting here)

"What a waste it is to lose one's mind. Or not to have a mind is being very wasteful. How true that is."

15 posted on 07/24/2014 12:49:38 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: wagglebee

She used the word bliss a couple of times, and I hated her more each time she used it. She doesn’t know what bliss is. If she had her children, she would know. What a loon!


16 posted on 07/24/2014 12:49:54 PM PDT by needmorePaine
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i’ve said it before, there are people that shouldn’t have kids. if they really don’t want them, and they go to that length to avoid them, they shouldn’t have them. they’d be awful as parents. and then consider we’d end up with feral youths from them doing a piss-poor job raising them, neglecting and maybe abusing them.


17 posted on 07/24/2014 12:55:43 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: molson209

doubt it. she worries how she’ll cope if he dies before her.


18 posted on 07/24/2014 12:56:33 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man ( Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: wagglebee

“condemns women who have had children, saying they often have children simply to make their marriage last and not because they truly want children.”

Sour grapes much, bitch?


19 posted on 07/24/2014 12:59:15 PM PDT by ScottinVA (If it doesn't include border security, it isn't "reform." It's called "amnesty.")
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“My only misgiving is the fear that Roger may die before me – how would I possibly cope without him? I’d have no one to comfort me.”

This is almost like a sick, dark attempt at comedy? Is this woman for real?


20 posted on 07/24/2014 1:00:23 PM PDT by ScottinVA (If it doesn't include border security, it isn't "reform." It's called "amnesty.")
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