Skip to comments.Woman Has Two Abortions Because She Didnít Want to Share Her Husband With Her Children
Posted on 07/24/2014 12:32:39 PM PDT by wagglebee
Rowena met Roger when she was a teen and knew he was the man for her and they ultimately married when they were 21 years old. Both agreed they never wanted to have children, so when Rowena became pregnant twice, she had abortions both times.
Rowena says she had the abortions in part because she didn’t want to share her husband’s affections with her children.
She also believes remaining childless is why their marriage has lasted and condemns women who have had children, saying they often have children simply to make their marriage last and not because they truly want children.
Here’s the story from the London Daily Mail:
The symptoms were horribly familiar. My period – which normally arrived like clockwork – was very late. Waves of nausea had begun to wash over me. A test taken in the family bathroom confirmed what Id guessed: I was pregnant.
Yet rather than rejoicing in the news that as a happily married woman of 30 I was expecting a baby, I was devastated.
For the second time in my life I was faced with the question of what I wanted more: a baby or my husband’s undivided love. And again, the decision was simple. Ever since I met Roger, I’d known I didn’t want to share him with anyone else, not even our child.
That’s why both times I have become pregnant during the three decades of our marriage, without hesitation I have had an abortion: once at 21 and then again nine years later. Do I feel guilty? Not at all.
While others might accuse me of callousness and of being selfish and cold-hearted, I have no regrets because I believe the result of those two terminations has been an incredibly happy marriage.
Quite simply, we have enjoyed the most wonderful, loving, adventurous life together, while I’ve watched friends with children struggle to maintain their marriages, not always successfully. Their problems, in my opinion, have been caused by putting their children first and their husbands second.
I already knew I loved Roger far too much to have children with him and, thankfully, he confessed he didn’t want them either. A baby, we agreed, would change the blissful dynamic of our relationship.
However, a few months after our wedding, I discovered I was pregnant. I was horrified: I’d been careful about taking the Pill, but it must have failed. I felt cheated and furious.
That feeling of protective, maternal love people talk about didn’t happen. I saw the pregnancy as a mistake, something neither of us wanted. An abortion felt like our only option.
Of course, there were other reasons for my aversion to having a family: I worried that a baby would ruin my figure and I’d lose the interest of my handsome husband, someone I felt was in another league to me when it came to looks.
Roger didn’t need any convincing, so a week later we went together to a private abortion clinic. There were no tears or nerves as we strode in. He stayed by my side the whole time. Yes, it was a horrible thing to go through, but neither of us wavered from our resolve. Afterwards, we felt nothing but a shared sense of relief that we could go back to our blissful life as a couple.
I never think about the two babies I aborted or what might have been. I certainly don’t ever think how old they’d be now or what they’d be doing.
Do I have any regrets? I have to be honest and say that just once I did think about what life would have been like if I’d had children.
Twenty years ago, I was holding my best friend’s daughter’s hand as we crossed a road. Feeling this hot little toddler’s fingers entwined in mine, I was suddenly overwhelmed by maternal feelings.
For a split second I wondered if I’d been wrong, that motherhood would be wonderful.
Then I thought about the implications – it would mean sharing Roger with someone else – and I shook the thought away. I can honestly say I have never thought about it since.
My only misgiving is the fear that Roger may die before me – how would I possibly cope without him? I’d have no one to comfort me.
It’s something I simply can’t bear to think about.
This woman takes selfishness to a whole new level.
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Gads. No kidding.
Apparently, the epitome of “progress” in humans to become a life form with no interest in reproduction.
If anyone can tell me how this differs from birth control I’d be interested to see such an argument
Some of the women I’ve dated I would have been happy to be sure the kids were mine. This one’s a real psycho.
She deserves capital punishment for her sin. That abortionists and the harpies who seek their services are allowed to escape punishment until Judgment Day does not cast our society in a favorable light.
And no, extrajudicial remedies are not an acceptable solution to this problem. Anyone who suggests such actions is ignorant of Scripture.
On the bright side, she didn’t pass along her stupid murderous genes.
Women like that should be aborted.
It’s an extreme of the Hobby Lobby case...
Prevention is one thing, abortifacents is plain murder. Period.
you haven’t seen my wife..
Roger better be sleeping with one eye open
"What a waste it is to lose one's mind. Or not to have a mind is being very wasteful. How true that is."
She used the word bliss a couple of times, and I hated her more each time she used it. She doesn’t know what bliss is. If she had her children, she would know. What a loon!
i’ve said it before, there are people that shouldn’t have kids. if they really don’t want them, and they go to that length to avoid them, they shouldn’t have them. they’d be awful as parents. and then consider we’d end up with feral youths from them doing a piss-poor job raising them, neglecting and maybe abusing them.
doubt it. she worries how she’ll cope if he dies before her.
“condemns women who have had children, saying they often have children simply to make their marriage last and not because they truly want children.”
Sour grapes much, bitch?
“My only misgiving is the fear that Roger may die before me how would I possibly cope without him? Id have no one to comfort me.”
This is almost like a sick, dark attempt at comedy? Is this woman for real?
Think it through.
Prevention is the brain child of all of this.
“I never think about the two babies I aborted or what might have been. I certainly dont ever think how old theyd be now or what theyd be doing.”
Liar. I bet (and hope) this woman lies awake at night regretting her awful decisions.
Is Roger for real?
It’s somewhat understandable being a personal narrative, but the “I-me-my” count from her tale tallied around 50; references to “him” or by name were about 10, even less collectively. She comes across as one very self-absorbed woman, who gives little regard to the consequences outside of her benefit.
That isn't love.
That is the weirdest head dress I’ve ever seen. Looks like a mop. And the fact that she is so chunky now makes me think that even if she doesn’t regret aborting her children, her body does.
“This woman takes selfishness to a whole new level. “
She is living out Margaret Sanger’s dream marriage. Sanger thought children destroyed a marriage.
I can see why.
If I ever met Roger, my first words to him would be....”Run away, run far far FAR away.”
Just when I think we have reached the bottom the hole gets deeper. Pretty soon we will be pulling the dirt in on ourselves if we are not already doing so. I am beginning to think there is no hope.
But then I think of my grandkids and my spirits get lifted.
Rowena proceeds from a false premise; children do not divide a man's love for his wife - they multiply it. How sad.
If there is justice in this world, her husband tiring of her clinging possessiveness and selfishness, will have affair, and leave her for his pregnant mistress. One can only hope.
Like all forms of depravity. It is not good enough that she murdered her own kids. She has to proudly make it public and attack those who disagree with her actions and admonish women who didn't do the same.
Like the homo agenda. They know they have done evil and they seek to make others approve of them, they think it will make them feel better about themselves. It won't.
The underlying attitudes are the same, but abortion is murder, and that’s a big difference! These moral cretins should both get sterilized so they don’t conceive and kill anymore babies.
I stopped here. What a depraved person.
And, FWIW, I think that I might love my wife even more since we had kids. I dunno, it's a hard thing to measure. And, I love the kids too .... There's plenty to go around.
Nope, what I think that love has little to do with her decision. What this lunatic wants is 100% of her poor husband's attention. Period. What a harpy she must be.
I didn’t think there could be a bright side, but you are absolutely right, and I thank you for your insight.
When a man and a woman get married, they don't give up their love for their parents. Nor do they have to share their spousal love with either their parents or their children; because each type of love is unique and independent of the others.
My BIL felt this way about children. He didn’t want to share his wife with them.
So my sister is childless.
Imagine a Venn diagram: “birth control” includes all means of preventing birth. “Contraception”, is a sub-set of birth control; whereby conception is prevented. Abortion is a sub-set of birth control; whereby conception takes place, but the embryo is “terminated” sometime prior to birth. There is absolutely no overlap between contraception and abortion.
If you have trouble with that concept; try differentiating between “up” and “down”, or “day” and “night” for practice.
Yeah, but for people like that who are dedicated to not breeding, they should just get themselves fixed to avoid having to murder their own offspring.
You nigh have trouble with ‘mindset’ whereby a relationship, and subsequently, the community and then culture, industry and politics, if the idea is powerful enough, is set on birth control
Abortion comes from that
So do a lot of other consequences. Just ask and answer, where is the quisling husband in all of this? It’s just she who is selfish in our new world order. He gets to live the life of a 17 year old boy, with societal approval. That’s birth control.
The philosophers and theologians are of that theory.
Why wouldn't she let somebody adopt the baby who would love him? Has she no family, no friends, no imgination of the joy that would bring, joy for generations to come?
Now, no joy, and an eternity of horror.
It’s not really a “bright side,” but gallows humor has served my people well in troubling times.
There were joke competitions in Auschwitz, you know.
The underlying attitudes lead to murder
Some afternoon philosophy for you
yeah, i suppose so.
Ugly SOUL, UGLY FACE. God will NOT be mocked.
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