Skip to comments.My daughter's boyfriend put pressure on her to have an abortion
Posted on 08/30/2013 9:39:01 PM PDT by Pinkbell
My daughter has been with her boyfriend for four years. He comes from a large, tight-knit family from a diaspora community. Our family is small, although also from a foreign community. My daughter has a good job with good salary, supports herself and lives on her own. Her boyfriend has a degree and a postgraduate qualification, lives with his parents and works with his father.
His parents have never taken to my daughter, until recently behaving coldly and never asking her about herself. (These are her words; I have never met them.)
I liked her boyfriend when I first met him. I have always been welcoming. He is warm and friendly, although without much depth, and, it seemed, always putting his relatives before my daughter. I had reservations about him as a long-term prospect for her. I did discuss this and she assured me they complemented each other and she wanted to marry him and for him to be the father of her children.
Last Christmas, she hoped he would ask her to marry him. Then came the bombshell. She found she was pregnant. She told him and he immediately said he didn't want her to keep it and she should have an abortion. She was very upset, calling me in tears, saying that he was putting pressure on her. I rang and asked him not to, and he said they would decide together. I have never spoken to him again.
She eventually decided to have the abortion, although right up to the day she was in turmoil as to whether it was the right decision, particularly since she had had a termination at 16. She has told me his parents don't know about it. She had asked him to tell them, but as far as we know he hasn't.
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Her mother writes this in, and we find this isn't the first abortion she's had done as she aborted at 16. Her mother is supportive of her abortions too. The only problem she has with her grandchild being aborted was that perhaps her daughter didn't want the abortion. As long as she did, it was ok with her.
My thought in these situations is why didn’t you take the baby?
Girl without a soul forced by her boyfriend without a soul, killing a baby with a soul.
We all have souls, unfortunately, some are seared and close to death.
I don’t know why women are so gullible...so inclined to follow a guy......and why stay with a guy for several yrs who apparently has no intention of making it serious....
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That has been a mystery to me also. Are some women so blinded by “love” that they fail to see the reality?
The mother needs to realize that most men are all to willing to be cads. The sooner women realize that men are only as responsible as women make them to be in a relationship the sooner they’ll find a guy that will marry them. If her daughter would quit putting her feet in the the air for the guy he’d either marry her or leave. Either way the problem is solved.
It is simply that simple. If she wants the guy to commit to her stop mating with him until after she stands under a canopy with him.
The old saw applies here: “Why buy a cow when you get the milk for free?”
They all have souls.
What have you ever done to save any of them?
What the hell is she talking about? She accepts her daughter's decision to have the abortion, but can't accept the boyfriend's decision to abort the baby?
Girl without a
soul conscience forced by her boyfriend without a soul conscience, killing a baby with a soul.
Have you looked at my personal page?
If my kids father/mother a child they are not having an abortion period. I'm taking that child..
What? As if she had the chance.
Why do you you think I should?
Again... what? Why do I expect Freepers to actually read the articles? Whwn will I learn?
What country do you live in that you can kidnap a grown woman and force her to carry a child to term?
Might give you some idea were my head is at concerning abortion.
Are you running around telling young men to refrain from having sex?
Then I have a very good idea of “where your head is at”.
Nowhere near all of them are blinded by anything external to themselves.
A great many simply do not want the drain on their time and attention that a child requires. Much of the time even if they have an idea who the father was he will never know about the pregnancy.
OK, gee you win. My efforts to save unborn babies are all in vane. I guess I should spend my time trying to get boys not to be boys. Time is so short, what to do, what to do.
>> blinded by love
Her need for “love” was obviously more important than life itself.
This grown woman has the choice about whether to get pregnant or not. The child has no choice about whether he or she is conceived.
What kind of country is it that encourages killing innocent children who have no choice as a routine form of birth control?
It was probably closer to this: "She decided to stop taking her birth control pills without telling her boyfriend, thinking that if she became pregnant he would be pressured into marrying her. Then she found she was pregnant, exactly as she had planned."
I once spoke with a young woman who confessed to doing exactly that. I don't know why she confided in me, but she didn't seem at all embarrassed. She was just a few months pregnant, and she intended to keep the baby. The boyfriend had so far not proposed. She thought it was possible that he would. The baby was important, the father was not. The court would force him to pay child support. She hoped she would be a good mother. The notion that a good mother tries to ensure that a father will be an active part of his child's life had apparently never occurred to her. It was all about her and her baby.
If the boyfriend of the woman in the article is actually the father, then of course he is scum to want his (or any) child aborted. That's probably why she chose him.
If only she kept her knees together and just gave him a Lewinsky, a child would not have been murdered in the Womb and the Woman wouldn’t be emotionally scarred for life.
You try to secretively brag about openly abusing your limited government authority, and expect me, and the rest of us here, to applaud it?
thank you, the only one so far who got this right.
The thing I don’t understand...there are so many methods of birth control. Why put yourself in the position to have to do such a thing?
Yeah...I’m not a kid. But I was at one time.
abusing your limited government authority
I know my rights under the law and use that knowledge to protest with authority.
and expect me, and the rest of us here, to applaud it
No, I just want to save babies. When I stand before Jesus, I will be able to say that I did my best to save babies and that is all I ask.
What will you say?
Why especially stay with a guy who would pressure you to kill your own child? She did have an abortion at 16, and her mom is pro-abortions, so maybe she beileves the lie that she’s just killing a nonperson, a blob of cells, a parasite, etc. However, she did have reservations, so maybe she knew deep down it was a baby, but her love for the creep prevailed, and she proceeded to have an abortion.
I don’t disagree that abortion is horrific. It’s. the “if this was MY daughter “crap that I just wonder about the sanity.
This is a bash men thread
How many men exactly have had abortions?
Polls wise....amongst whites... men oppose abortion more than women
And we can’t stop them legally that I know of
40 million dead babies and that blood lies directly at the feet of the women who had them
They cant be independent and subservient same time
Worst thing about white men....the only ones I can speak for us they gave their wives their balls to hold for them
the left love forcing all the dysfunction and pitting different groups against one another. that’s one of the reasons they do all this idiot stuff.
Wardaady I love your posts.
But on this subject we may have to disagree.
The world we live in is a strange place. There is usually no commitment between a man and a women when they have sex and create another life. (Please note I did not say “make love”)
The women, in a perfect world, would be the guardians. But it is a joint decision to “hook up” for the evening.
I think the nonsense is a product of our times.
This nonsense is a byproduct of the shelving of the word SHAME and too much of the government great society which got all this really going.
It works. The left tells members of various groups "You are oppressed victims!" It is an irresistible sirens' call.
I know a few exceptions, but only a few.
Well said, and there’s plenty to add.
I actually wonder how many young people connect their actions with shame. Or if they even know what shame is.
But then I look back at the days I grew up. We didn’t pay any regard to our parents values (at the time).
Things have become more extreme...and I fear that will continue to be the case.
Any “boyfriend” who advocates killing his own child is NOT husband/father material.
It’s still that way in conservative circles.
Took me 3x reading that with my dyslexia to get it right. Yep - I think you nailed it.
What a convoluted way to say "muslim". Can't say it out straight in Britain anymore, eh?
Western girls hooking up with muzzies always get burned in the end. Sometimes literally so. Yet they keep ignoring the wealth of evidence that bad things will happen. My sympathy for these fools is used up.
I’d physically restrain any women intent upon killing her child. I don’t care how old the child is. She has no right.
Call it kidnapping, do you? A very inappropriate characterization in my opinion. People trying to kill children should not be “free.”
Until shame and responsibility get back America may not get back any of it’s old great self I fear.
If he does not want his own baby, he does not want her either.
She should dump him and keep her baby. Then get child support.