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Chirlane McCray Speaks About Falling In Love With A Man After Being A Lesbian
News One ^ | May 10, 2013 | Hannington Dia

Posted on 05/10/2013 8:45:32 PM PDT by nickcarraway

Chirlane McCray’s 1979 Essence essay “I Am a Lesbian,” broke boundaries, marking the first time a Black gay woman shared her sexuality openly.

RELATED: Chirlane McCray Controversy Proves It’s Time To Get Out Of People’s Bedrooms

Today, McCray is married to N.Y.C. Public Advocate and Mayoral Candidate Bill de Blasio (pictured right), sharing with Essence how she transitioned into a “traditional marriage.” According to McCray, her shift to a heterosexual union was natural, happening “by putting aside the assumptions I had about the form and package my love would come in. By letting myself be as free as I felt when I went natural.”

Asked if it was strange dating a man suddenly, McCray said her relationship with de Blasio was simple attraction:

“I came out at 17. I hadn’t really dated any men. I thought, Whoa, what is this? But I also didn’t think, Oh, now I’m attracted to men. I was attracted to Bill. He felt like the perfect person for me. For two people who look so different, we have a lot in common. We are a very conventional, unconventional couple.”

On the topic of if she’s still attracted to women, McCray said,”I’m married, I’m monogamous, but I’m not dead.” However, don’t call her bisexual:

“I am more than just a label. Why are people so driven to labeling where we fall on the sexual spectrum? Labels put people in boxes, and those boxes are shaped like coffins. Finding the right person can be so hard, that often, when a person finally finds someone she or he is comfortable with, she or he just makes it work. As my friend Vanessa says, ‘It’s not whom you love; it’s that you love.’”

McCray first met de Blasio in 1991 while working for the New York Commission On Human Rights. De Blasio was an aide to then-mayor David Dinkins.

“I was wearing West African-inspired clothing and a nose ring, and Bill says he had the love-at-first-sight experience. I did note what a good-looking guy he was and that he was funny and smart and made other people laugh.” And despite what others may say, McCray is confident in her marriage:

“I know my husband loves me fiercely and passionately. I know he supports me and will always stand up for me.”


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News; US: New York
KEYWORDS: abortion; billdeblasio; chirlanemccray; daviddinkins; deathpanels; demwit; homosexualagenda; newyork; newyorkcity; nolongergay; obamacare; partisanmediashill; partisanmediashills; phonybaloney; zerocare

1 posted on 05/10/2013 8:45:32 PM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: nickcarraway

MArried but still a lesbian go figure!


2 posted on 05/10/2013 8:50:06 PM PDT by Conserev1 ("Still Clinging to my Bible and my Weapon")
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To: nickcarraway

I wonder if women leave the homosexual lifestyle more easily than men do. I don’t know; I just wonder.


3 posted on 05/10/2013 8:59:35 PM PDT by Irish Rose (Will work for chocolate.)
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To: Irish Rose

Kind of oblique, but it makes me think of scripture: “Time and chance happeneth to them all.”

But to answer your question, I think the answer is yes. Vive la differance.


4 posted on 05/10/2013 9:09:43 PM PDT by dr_lew
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To: nickcarraway

That guy can’t outrun her?


5 posted on 05/10/2013 9:24:45 PM PDT by Paladin2
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To: Paladin2

Rofl!!!


6 posted on 05/10/2013 9:26:46 PM PDT by pax_et_bonum (God Bless America)
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To: pax_et_bonum
She looks like a hippy chick. Just sayin'

(Your FR page has humor!)

7 posted on 05/10/2013 9:31:44 PM PDT by Paladin2
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To: nickcarraway
I'm coming out of the closet...

I'm a lesbian. I just happen to be trapped in a man's body.

There, I did it.

5.56mm

8 posted on 05/10/2013 9:33:14 PM PDT by M Kehoe
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To: Irish Rose

I’ve had friends who were both sides of it:

Gay men are largely either victims of sexual abuse or porn. As a HS teacher, I see students that are convinced they are gay in 9th grade, then abandon it by graduation. On the other hand, I also see kids who are “recruited” by older men into homosexuality. Many gays are simply terrified of sex with women.

Lesbianism is very different. I’ve seen many women that have been married and have kids simply “give up” on men. There are also women that are just uncomfortable with men. Many of the lesbians I know still have desire for men but just have no desire to pursue it.

The problem with the gay community is the identification of sexuality as something you are BORN WITH. That is abject bulls***. Every time you get in bed with someone, you choose to do it. Saying that 1 or 2 year old children are gay is stupid. Children have no sexuality; it develops after the identity finding of puberty. I’m sick of all this “I’m born gay” bullcrap. No, you were born, you grew up, and you decided to be gay.


9 posted on 05/10/2013 9:40:32 PM PDT by struggle
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To: Irish Rose

it depends why they are lesbian.

if they had too much male hormones in utero, to the other end of the spectrum, they are making a conscious decision to be a lesbian and reject men. it depends.


10 posted on 05/10/2013 9:44:05 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: Paladin2

Yes!

Couldn’t manage without lots of humor!

:-)


11 posted on 05/10/2013 9:48:36 PM PDT by pax_et_bonum (God Bless America)
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To: M Kehoe

I came out of the pantry a little while ago.


12 posted on 05/10/2013 9:50:50 PM PDT by pax_et_bonum (God Bless America)
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To: pax_et_bonum
Yep.

These dayz we can't get enough. ;-)

13 posted on 05/10/2013 9:56:05 PM PDT by Paladin2
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To: Secret Agent Man

I think some woman can swing both ways...the whole LUG thing...lesbian until graduation. That said I’ve seen butch woman during pride week that really seem to be born that way. 200 pounds..big shoulders ..thick backs...they look like construction workers. Nothing feminine at all...something is off. Many are Latin or Black

Even more so with men . Didn’t we all know some kid in first grade who was just ...gay...hung around with the girls..feminine mannerisms even before we knew what sex was.

One interesting statistic almost all woman hook up with another woman in prison. With men its pretty much the same as the outside.


14 posted on 05/11/2013 2:29:32 AM PDT by Blackirish (Forward Comrades!!!!!!!!!)
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To: Blackirish

He can mow her lzwn now.....


15 posted on 05/11/2013 2:38:55 AM PDT by DainBramage
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To: Blackirish

I’ve no personal experience, but everything I’ve heard about men in prison goes against this:

“With men its pretty much the same as the outside.”


16 posted on 05/11/2013 3:22:10 AM PDT by 9YearLurker
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To: nickcarraway

She “came out” without ever having dated a man? Sounds to me like she was being heavily influenced by someone.
Don’t tell me these people don’t recruit. They prey on confused young people like this who lack enough experience and understanding of their own feelings to make a truly informed decision.


17 posted on 05/11/2013 3:55:38 AM PDT by Wiser now (Socialism does not eliminate poverty, it guarantees it.)
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To: NYer; The Mayor; Sun; GOPJ; stephenjohnbanker; ken5050
This "woman" (and I use the term loosely) is a rank opportunist.
She's an exhibitionist, and will say anything to call attention to
herself. As for him---he ran Hillary's 2000 Senate campaign.


Pic by Ozier Muhammad/The New York Times

The hairstyle of her son---Dante de Blasio---called a "stupendous
Afro"---attracted attention when his father, Bill de Blasio announced his mayoral candidacy 1/28/13. One time lesbian,
Mrs de Blasio looks on.

SOURCE http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/01/28/de-blasios-announcement-is-upstaged-by-sons-hair/

18 posted on 05/11/2013 4:00:40 AM PDT by Liz (To learn who rules over you, determine who you are not allowed to criticize. Voltaire)
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To: nickcarraway

Diff’rent strokes, for Diff’rent folks.

To me seeing a woman with an African nose ring ,and wearing African Clothing and touting her being a lesbian is a definite turn off, but then some people are into masochism.


19 posted on 05/11/2013 4:16:49 AM PDT by Venturer
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To: nickcarraway

Bill de Blasio better watch his back... she sounds nuts.


20 posted on 05/11/2013 4:26:01 AM PDT by hattend (Firearms and ammunition...the only growing industries under the Obama regime.)
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To: nickcarraway
"We are a very conventional, unconventional couple.”

Insert bad joke here.

21 posted on 05/11/2013 4:38:32 AM PDT by PLMerite (Shut the Beyotch Down! Burn, baby, burn!)
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To: nickcarraway

““I am more than just a label. Why are people so driven to labeling where we fall on the sexual spectrum? “

Maybe it was the “I am a lesbian” part?


22 posted on 05/11/2013 4:58:22 AM PDT by autumnraine (America how long will you be so deaf and dumb to thoe tumbril wheels carrying you to the guillotine?)
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To: struggle

“The Well Of Lonliness”, Radclyffe Hall. She called it “inversion”.


23 posted on 05/11/2013 7:53:37 AM PDT by onedoug
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To: nickcarraway
The DSM used to classify homosexuality as a non normal condition until changed in more recent version(s).

I'd like to find an older one to read it for myself, but I'm growing more convinced the earlier version was likely closer to the truth than where we are now.

To be honest, I don't know, but what I see looks more like adaptations to meeting mental/emotional/physical wants and needs where no acceptable/normal solutions exist, along with the rationalizations necessary to make the adaptations fit acceptably with the rest of one's metal emotional programming and the world.

Our current world seems to now aggressively push these adaptations to us and to children as being acceptably normal, yet "normal" is probably not accurate, as the earlier DSM editions likely described.

Where truth and agenda disagree, truth needs far better lobbyists. Agenda wins every time. "If it feels good, do it."

24 posted on 05/11/2013 8:20:03 AM PDT by GBA (Here in the Matrix, life is but a dream.)
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To: struggle
And then there are those who are just awkward with the opposite sex. Once they were told that they would grow out of it, they believed it and they did for the most part.

Now they are told that they must be attracted to the same sex. Once again they believe it.

25 posted on 05/11/2013 8:24:17 AM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Join AAAA : Americans Against Acronym Abuse)
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To: nickcarraway

Politics aside, this woman is doing a service to the growing number of (intentionally) sexually confused young people by speaking out. She’s a walking, talking implosion of quite a few leftist stereotypes. You know she got a lot of flak for it and continues to get a lot of flak. I’d imagine she and Camille Paglia would get on rather well. I wish her every success in her marriage. She chose the right path.


26 posted on 05/11/2013 8:32:46 AM PDT by RegulatorCountry
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To: struggle

Many women, who are lesbians, were sexually abused as children. It appears that sexual abuse of children plays a large part in their future sexual identity and mental health issues if they don’t get help. And we know that many children who are abused do not tell anyone until they are much older.


27 posted on 05/11/2013 8:34:51 AM PDT by rabidralph (http://www.cafepress.com/westernwis)
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To: RegulatorCountry

You’re correct and it’s odd to see so many conservatives making fun of her because she decided to change her life for the better, no matter what her politics are. We need more testimonies like this in the mainstream so that young people know that the media message isn’t always the right message.


28 posted on 05/11/2013 8:38:00 AM PDT by rabidralph (http://www.cafepress.com/westernwis)
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To: rabidralph

Agreed. We can be our own worst enemies at times.


29 posted on 05/11/2013 8:50:33 AM PDT by RegulatorCountry
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To: Liz

Ugh!


30 posted on 05/11/2013 10:11:55 AM PDT by stephenjohnbanker
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To: nickcarraway

putting aside the assumptions I had about the form and package my love would come in.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Wel Chirlane finally figured out what a proper package was.

Its OK Chirline, it took you a while but you finally got the right peg in the hole.


31 posted on 05/11/2013 10:26:59 AM PDT by Candor7 (Obama fascism article:(http://www.americanthinker.com/2009/05/barack_obama_the_quintessentia_1.html))
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