Posted on 05/04/2013 9:55:07 PM PDT by grundle
Feminists could not have created a better foil for themselves than Susan Patton.
She is the woman who sent a letter to the Daily Princetonian in March advising female students to look for a mate in college because there would never be such a high concentration of well-educated, eligible men surrounding them.
Patton, who graduated from Princeton University in 1977, urged the school’s young women to, “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”
For linking early marriage to happiness she was excoriated by an onslaught of Ivy League grads and their intellectual peers who labeled her everything from “elitist” to “archaic.”
I don’t disagree with the criticism focused on her plea for students to marry guys from Princeton, as there are many really smart, talented men without an Ivy League pedigree.
But I’ve been thinking about the letter a lot recently because of separate visits with three dear friends who are highly educated, very attractive and approaching 40 or over the mark, and want to marry and have children as much or more than the lucrative careers they worked so hard to achieve.
They probably would have laughed at Patton in their 20s, as I would have, but today they often feel alone more than successful and stand at a biological crossroads shattering their sense of self.
(Excerpt) Read more at spectator.org ...
When it’s all said and done and you’re looking back in old age (when many doors have closed that can never be reopened), which do you think you’ll miss more, a family of children and grandchildren you never had or a career you gave up to create and raise that family?
Sorry, Susan, it’s very difficult and onerous to express a normal opinion in this extremely abnormal - not to say sick - world.
The American Left told these women that there are no consequences to decisions.
I don’t feel sorry for these withering feminists.
Just wait until they reach their 60’s and nobody wants them.
The article suggests that every woman who rejects family for a fantastic career, always ends up with the fantastic career. Nothing could be further from the truth. Most end up simply lonely, with no wealth to speak of, no kids and no future. They rode the feminist wave, some being insufferable bitches at work the whole time, which killed thier chances for leadership roles (because they didn’t have any leadership skills to begin with), only to become increasingly bitter and old.
I beleive the word is Spinster.
I disagree. I do feel sorry for them and for this country for the loss we all experience for those Americans who should have been born. Of course I am quite sure that many of them would spurn my sympathy in public, although embrace it in private.
They made their beds. Now they come home to the sounds of silence and sleep next to their careers. Finally they will die alone, forgotten, and un-mourned.
Anyone truly as intelligent as these women believe themselves to be would have understood this before completing high school.
But the Feminist Kool-Aid tasted so sweet!
They probably would have laughed at Patton in their 20s, as I would have, but today they often feel alone more than successful and stand at a biological crossroads shattering their sense of self.
Of these 3 options as a woman:
Great career
Great marriage
Great kids
That you can possibly have 2, but having all 3 is nearly impossible.
No one wants them now.
Do you want a loud obnoxious woman with a victim complex and a chip on her shoulder who is far past her prime and might have a kid with a head full of bad wiring to boot?
That’s really not attractive to most men and that’s what these feminists are pissy about.
Bookmark for later commentary.
They brought it on themselves.
If we could go back to the 70s these women would be loud, rude, obnoxious know-it-alls - just like they are today.
And you can’t tell them anything - just like today.
I don’t feel sorry for people who make a bunch of bad decisions then salve themselves by taking it out on everyone around them.
Once you've dated someone so well-heeled, it apparently is hard to accept that other guys won't be able to at least match that to which you became acquainted (although her family lived very modestly). No guy she ever dated “did it” for her after that first guy, and she grew to distrust him during their relationship (he was ten years older than he'd initially said he was).
She is alone and has recently had problems finding the kind of job she once had, after being let go.
When I met her ten years ago, she had six cats. My wife and I believe this was part of her misplaced maternal instinct, letting animals serve as a proxy for family.
It is sad.
Speaking from the guy's perspective, this was exactly the kind of female I seemed to attract like a magnet. I managed to avoid them because too many of my friends married harpies like this and were miserable. It was worse if there were kids and a divorce ensued; the husbands would get financially screwed and have to fight the ex for visitation rights. Marrying one of these prizes was a demon from Hell.
My lady was previously married and widowed when we met. I love her to tears, but she's long past kids and we're growing old together. Do I miss grand kids? Sometimes, but I saw enough carnage acted out in other lives to cure me of that.
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