My new book, "Dear Father, Dear Son," talks about the No. 1 social problem in America -- children growing up without fathers. Posted on 02/14/2013 4:07:17 AM PST by Kaslin
My new book, "Dear Father, Dear Son," talks about the No. 1 social problem in America -- children growing up without fathers.
In 1965, Daniel Patrick Moynihan wrote "The Negro Family: A Case for National Action." At the time, 25 percent of blacks were born outside of wedlock, a number that the future Democratic senator from New York said was catastrophic to the black community.
Moynihan wrote: "A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken homes, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational expectations about the future -- that community asks for and gets chaos. Crime, violence, unrest, unrestrained lashing out at the whole social structure -- that is not only to be expected, it is very near to inevitable."
Today, 75 percent of black children enter a world without a father in the home.
Divorce is one thing, where, for the most part, fathers remain involved both financially and as a parent. When I pressed the point of murdering ex-cop Christopher Dorner's father, one local news source told me his father apparently died when Dorner was small. He was reportedly raised, along with his sister, by a single mom. Little else is known.
In the documentary "Resurrection," rapper Tupac Shakur, who was raised without a father, said: "I hate saying this cuz white people love hearing black people talking about this. I know for a fact that had I had a father, I'd have some discipline. I'd have more confidence."
He said he started running with gangs because he wanted to belong, wanted structure and wanted protection -- none of which he found in his fatherless home. "Your mother cannot calm you down the way a man can," he said. "Your mother can't reassure you the way a man can. My mother couldn't show me where my manhood was. You need a man to teach you how to be a man."
Why is it when white murderers go on a rampage, the media quickly delve into the relationship or lack thereof with the killer's father? They want to know what went wrong with that relationship -- and when and how and why.
After Adam Lanza massacred 26 people and his mother in Newtown, Conn., NBC News reported: "A source close to the family said that in 2001, (father Peter) separated from Adam's mother, Nancy, but he still saw Adam every week. In 2009, the Lanzas officially divorced, when Adam was 17. ... But the source close to the Lanza family said that by 2010, Peter Lanza was dating a new woman, whom he later married, and Adam suddenly cut his dad off."
After Jared Lee Loughner murdered six and wounded 13 people in Tucson, Ariz., The Associated Press wrote that Loughner's "relationship with his parents was strained." Newsweek quoted a Loughner neighbor who described the father as "very aggressive, very angry all the time about petty things -- like if the trash is out because the trash guys didn't pick it up, he yells at us for it."
After Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold killed 13 at Columbine High, one did not have to search long to read about their fathers. One such piece began: "The father of one of the boys was asked some years ago to jot down his life's goals in the memory book for his 20th high school reunion. His answer was succinct, straightforward and, it seemed, not unrealistically ambitious: 'Raise two good sons.'
"The other father prided himself on being his son's soul mate. They had just spent five days visiting the Arizona campus where the teenager planned to enroll in the fall, and recently discussed their shared opposition to a bill in the state legislature that would have made it easier to carry concealed weapons."
Five days after James Holmes killed 12 in the movie theater in Aurora, Colo., we learned from the Daily Mail all "about the glittering career of James Holmes' father, Robert, who has degrees from Stanford, UCLA and Berkeley and currently works as a senior scientist at FICO in San Diego." The article's headline was, "Did Colorado maniac snap after failing to meet expectations of brilliant academic father?"
But what about Christopher Dorner? The media seemingly imposed a no-fly zone of silence over even writing or talking about his father.
The Los Angeles Times, for example, wrote: "Dorner grew up in Southern California with his mother and at least one sister, according to public records and claims in (his) manifesto." Not one word about the father. We soon learn the mother's name and whereabouts. But the media are apparently incurious about Dorner's father. Why? Is it that the media expect a certain level of appropriate behavior from whites -- that when a white person commits a heinous act, we must necessarily explore what kind of relationship he had with his father?
But when it comes to black miscreants and their fathers ... crickets. Why? To ask raises uncomfortable questions about the perverse incentives of the welfare state, which hurt the very formation of stable, intact families -- the ones more likely to produce stable, non-paranoid children.
“At the time, 25 percent of blacks were born outside of wedlock, a number that the future Democratic senator from New York said was catastrophic to the black community.”
Used to be the case; now we fast track them to Harvard and then make them president.
Why can’t we use the word “bastard” anymore?
As a matter of FACT, we are all being ruled by bastards-RIGHT NOW!
We have a “basturd” right now in the White House. Another “black” child grown up without benefit of a father figure. And he is screwing the American people with a vengence!
May God Damn Barack Hussien Obamao!
On the other hand...blacks (and my old hometown is typical)...they kill as if it's just a way to settle a matter...cool and with no remorse...a way of life. No big deal in their world.
They make a mockery of education...a 40% graduation rate?? They collect welfare in lieu of working. Until THEY change their ways, things will stay the same. Disgusting...
Moynihan also wrote that society could survive that rate of illegitimate births in the minority, but not in the majority . Well, the white illegitimate rate today is greater then the black one when he wrote that. Look at the chaos in the black community and behold our future.
It went from 25% in 1965 to 72% today!
There is a related but simpler explanation. Parents need to be responsible. Many parents are irreponsible these days although luckily in most cases the kids don’t become mass murderers. But when a kid does turn into a mental case it is the parent’s responsibility to get the kid into treatment. Not dump them at school like the VA Tech shooter. Not keep them completely alone at home and out of social interaction and treatment like Lanza and Loughner.
Re: Angry, authoritative, cold fathers: For every maladjusted criminal coming from such a household there are a lot more that shrug it off, overcome it and vow that they will not be that way themselves.
I wondered for some years what had happened to this country as I started to see more and more white 30-40-50 year olds with no high school education. I did a lot of asking and one person who is only 56 now told me he recalled the busing of the inner city blacks to his high school in the suburbs, and; how those blacks did not want to be there anymore then he would have wanted to have been bused into the city. Well, we talked for some time, and; he related how a number of the white women he knew dropped out as they felt uncomfortable. Then he went on to whites learning about every government program from those being bused. I do not know how accurate he was, but; it makes sense. And we have 47.8% on food stamps/EBT cards.
“on the welfare roles”....
hmmm...
I think I’m starting to see the common cause here...
/sarc (everyone that’s honest knows this is the cause)
Star Parker also revealed the tactic to “gettin’ more check”:
Get pregnant, file for more support, then get an abortion.
Add the fact that inner cities are filled with abortion clinics sending the message that people are unwanted, worthless, and death is a choice.
Moynihan wrote: “A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken homes, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any rational expectations about the future — that community asks for and gets chaos. Crime, violence, unrest, unrestrained lashing out at the whole social structure — that is not only to be expected, it is very near to inevitable.”
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Enter abortion. Utopian promises were made that “Every child a wanted child” would be good for society as a whole by reducing childhood neglect, abuse, crime and poverty.
So much for that.
Add the fact that inner cities are filled with abortion clinics sending the message that people are unwanted, worthless, and death is a choice.
Do I think it's horrible that so many black children are born out of wedlock? Not any more so than I think it's horrible that any children are born out of wedlock. Everyone should have a mother and father. That's the ideal.
Before anyone jumps in and says single moms can raise good kids, I'm not saying everyone raised like this is going to turn out bad. I'm saying as a matter of public policy and culture we should try to encourage traditional marriage. Why? Because it's best for society.
I'm sure I just offended a whole lot of folks, like those with single or two moms. Saying single motherhood is equal to traditional marriage is like saying all cultures are equal, a premise that can be proved false based on a number of measures.
Another brilliant column that only a black man can write in this PC environment.
Any non-black who wrote it would reflexively be dismissed as a racist.
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