My husband and I just ended our debate about having children. To breed or not to breed, this was the question... Posted on 02/02/2013 8:03:59 AM PST by tom h
My husband and I choose to be childless in Seattle, writes editorial columnist Sharon Pian Chan
My husband and I just ended our debate about having children. To breed or not to breed, this was the question...
We have decided we have other things to give to the world. We won’t be having kids. We choose to be childless in Seattle. ...
Feminism empowered women to talk about motherhood as a pursuit that deserves as much attention as men’s work. In the past 20 years, women have bravely spoken about struggles to conceive, which helped educate a generation about fertility. But society rarely hears from women who decide not to have kids.
“Do you have children?” My friend’s standard answer is, “No, and it’s not for medical reasons.” I’m cribbing it.
Will I regret it?
Probably sometimes. Just like parents sometimes regret their choice.
Would I have to sacrifice my career goals if we had a child? Probably. I’ve gone from believing I can do it all to believing that life is short. Saying no to some things allows me to say yes to others.
My husband could be the primary caregiver while I charge after my goals, but then he would have to say no to some of his goals.
Am I being selfish if I don't have children?
I’m selfish for not committing to my hypothetical child’s well-being. But I will have a lot more attention and money to shower on real-life nieces, nephews, mentees and philanthropic causes.
Also, not having a child is the most important thing I could do to reduce my carbon footprint, according to a 2009 study by Oregon State University statisticians. ...
(Excerpt) Read more at seattletimes.com ...
Lefties refusing to breed. Its a good thing.
“When she is in the Nursing Home she will probably enjoy watching the others there being seen by their children, and she gets no company at all.”
She’d better learn Spanish, too; they are the ones filling the void where her children would be.
Good riddance to these creatures.
It is not a “man purse” if it contains a 9mm or a .38S&W.
An address to send a bullet is needed.
What a weird turn of phrase!
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I suppose she thinks she is being clever in invoking "To be or not to be" in that soliloquy from Hamlet.
I, for one, am grateful when the lefties choose not to reproduce.
In all fairness, and despite how it is rationalized, the truth is that many people naturally realize that they just do not have it in them to reproduce and raise children. Many don’t even have enough zip to marry or even have sex.
To even try to marry and make children would injure or kill them, and their children would neither be healthy or happy, and would not, could not, live good lives.
It’s nobody’s fault, just biology, and the only two questions it creates are what percentage of our population are designed to be able to breed and what percentage isn’t; and is there some niche the non-breeders could occupy where they can help, not hurt, society as a whole.
Going back a step, there may be a good biological reasons for children to be born that are not intended to breed themselves.
One suggestion is that the first offspring gets many more dominant genes, and subsequent offspring get fewer dominant and more recessive genes. This makes sense, because more dominant genes would generally make someone stronger and healthier, but could backfire and not work, so the subsequent offspring’s recessive genes might fill the gap if the first one dies off or fails.
This might be somewhat confirmed by noticing that the more older siblings a child has, the more likely they will be a homosexual. And though it has never been studied as such, homosexuals also tend to have far more physical and psychological problems, unrelated to their sexuality.
Have met several liberals like that here in the past year. They hate kids and they’re open about it, and they’re not having them.
Whatever. They can do what they want with their lives ...but hush up already with degrading children and parents who DO choose to have children. They should just do their thing and keep their big mouths shut.
I really don’t care what these druids do with their lives. Just leave me and MY happy family alone!!!
Good.
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That's the influence of feminism and homosexual activists. They consider anyone who has kids as a 'breeder', and they're ruining the planet. Whatever. As long as they don't have kids, it will be OUR kids who will be making decisions for them when they're old and grey. Those 'anti-breeders' won't realize just how fortunate they are.
They should just do their thing and keep their big mouths shut.
I really don’t care what these druids do with their lives. Just leave me and MY happy family alone!!!
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Ah, but you just don’t understand. They can’t do that. They have to run their fat yaps so that they can explain to the world how they are so much smarter than peasants like you and me.
You beat me to it!!!!
Lets put them on our Christmas card list!
You beat me to it!!!!
Lets put them on our Christmas card list!
Agreed. However, I am going to go out on a limb and surmise his man purse doesn’t not contain a firearm and spare mags. I will, however, posit that it contains designer moisturizing cream, rolling papers, and his manhood. (Something tells me that he does not have custody of it..)
Why are they not having kids?
Because God says you should.
I'd say it's a good example of natural selection.
Meanwhile tomorrow wil belong to the beaten, circumcised , ignorant Muslim woman and her cousins who welp a dozen defectives each....
“That’s the influence of feminism and homosexual activists. They consider anyone who has kids as a ‘breeder’, and they’re ruining the planet.”
They say us “breeders” are ruining the planet and we say they are ruining our society and culture.
You could also kill yourself, but then you wouldn't be able to charge after your goals...
Sheesh!
I am more conservative than Rush and had 6 children in 7 1/2 years, the last one died 10 hours after birth, have 5 living children that are in their 40’s and 50’s, but when they were all young, 5 in 6 years I made myself a promise that if there is such a thing as reincarnation, I am coming back sterile....politics was not involved in that decision..
There are many people who should not marry and who should not have children.
In the times past our culture had exalted roles for them as teachers, monks, nuns, priests, ministers, professors, and other types.
Now there is no real role for the celibate and/or the childless.
Something to think about.
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