Hey as long as the taxpayer isn’t footing the bill for his now fatherless family and the wife is a-ok with his 8 year Iranian prison sabbatical, I could care less what he did or didn’t tell her. A hero however? Puhleaze!
I don’t understand why you’re bothered by this. You went out of your way to disparage someone serving Christianity through reasoning inconsistent with Christian principles, primarily evangelization.
Your position on this doesn’t make sense to me unless you’re normally hostile to, or disinterested in Christianity.