[not2worry]

We have a case of this right in our own family. Mom keeps thinking the kid is going to change and won't stick to any psychiatrist if she is not hearing what she wants to hear. This 20 year old son runs the household and everyone in it is fearful. I don't know where mental illness begins and where bad parenting starts.

[USAF80]

I don't know where mental illness begins and where bad parenting starts.

I had this discussion with my brother about a family member over the weekend and a co-worker today.

I call it "Failure To Launch", whether it's the mom or the dad doing it. They don't give the kids incentive to leave and make their own way in life.

We have parents paying car insurance for grown kids who have jobs. What is wrong with that picture?

[Nextrush]

Sounds like a bad situation.

I’ve read about something about “codependency” which involves individuals trying to control or enable a family member’s addictive behavior.

I consider myself a codependent in my own family.

Some books you may want to check into are “Codependent No More” and “Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps” by Melody Beattie.