“Fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.”
Learning to “Fear” in order to know God and His wisdom is like saying it is good to crash into the highway guardrails as you now know what not to do in the future.
Your problem is with scripture. As noted above "The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom" is a direct quote from the Psalms, Proverbs and the book of Ecclesiastes.
This is what Galatians 5 is about:
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.
The Law is not removed, not one dot of it. But you follow the Law out of Love, not out of fear of retribution or abandonment.
You cannot discard Scripture passages that you don’t like. Scripture says plainly:
“You who fear the Lord, praise him!”
“The Lord confides in those who fear him”
“Let all the earth fear the Lord”
“For great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; he is to be feared above all gods.”
“My flesh trembles in fear of you; I stand in awe of your laws.”
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge”
“To fear the Lord is to hate evil”
“A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil”
“Through love and faithfulness sin is atoned for; through the fear of the Lord a man avoids evil.”
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
... and so on ...
It appears contradictory to both love and fear the Lord. But wrestle with this tension, rather than discard it.