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The Recipe for Happiness? An Enduring Marriage and an Affair With Lots of Sex
The Telegraph ^ | 20 Aug 2012 | Catherine Hakim

Posted on 08/20/2012 11:40:25 AM PDT by nickcarraway

The setting is the quiet corner of an Italian restaurant in the City; the players are George, an IT specialist, and Zoe, who wears a pretty dress and a big smile; they drink an especially good bottle of wine and when they get to coffee he reaches over and kisses her on the mouth. She surprises him by kissing him back. To onlookers it might be the classic opening scene of a traditional romance.

Yet both parties are married to other people, whom they have no intention of leaving. Although they will go on to enjoy all the spoils of a relationship, from intimate phone calls to Christmas shopping trips and, of course, regular sex, this is understood from the outset. They are in fact launching into a “playfair”, a 21st-century affair in which would-be adulterers meet, via specialist dating websites, to enjoy the excitement of an illicit relationship without any of the domestic fallout.

Alongside the internet dating revolution, these “playfairs” are evidence of a potentially dramatic shift in British marriage. As dating websites open up a global shop window of sexual possibilities, as life expectancy continues to rise and we become increasingly sexually aware, how can we still take the crushing old rules of fidelity, that turn marriage into a prison, for granted? Why should we not be able to recapture the heady thrills of youth, while protecting a secure home life? The time has come, alongside the technology, to redraw the rules of marriage for the 21st century. Just as the Pill opened up premarital sex in the Sixties, the internet is opening up a whole new culture of affairs among married people. Sex has become a major leisure activity of our time, accessible to everyone, married or not, rich and poor. It’s time to start honing

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News
KEYWORDS: adultery; antimonogamy; catherinehakim; culturewar; france; freelove; happiness; hookupculture; infidelity; marriage; moralabsolutes; psychology; sexpositiveagenda; smashmonogamy; swingers; thereisnoenglandnow
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To: nickcarraway
The Recipe for Happiness? An Enduring Marriage and an Affair With Lots of Sex

Fixed it. Author is an idiot.

21 posted on 08/20/2012 12:20:52 PM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: ArrogantBustard

The Recipe for Happiness? An Enduring Marriage With Lots of Sex and Beer.


Fixed it again. :P


22 posted on 08/20/2012 12:23:31 PM PDT by AmericanSamurai
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To: KosmicKitty
Y’know ... you can have an enduring marriage and lots of sex without a hussy on the side. The actual recipe to happiness.

My thoughts exactly!!! ;-)

Apparently not...

French farmer 'mows down love rival with tractor' - Telegraph www.telegraph.co.uk

23 posted on 08/20/2012 12:24:01 PM PDT by dragonblustar (Allah Ain't So Akbar!)
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To: nickcarraway

Related:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/2920728/posts


24 posted on 08/20/2012 12:24:31 PM PDT by DuncanWaring (The Lord uses the good ones; the bad ones use the Lord.)
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To: Red Badger

lol. Get an ugly girl? Oy vey, that’s a bit extreme.


25 posted on 08/20/2012 12:26:23 PM PDT by AmericanSamurai
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To: nickcarraway

So according to this article William Jefferson Clinton is a happy fellow?

I doubt it. He doesn’t look he’s into Hillary much. :P


26 posted on 08/20/2012 12:28:13 PM PDT by AmericanSamurai
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To: AmericanSamurai

When the lights are out, we all look like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.................


27 posted on 08/20/2012 12:29:35 PM PDT by Red Badger (Anyone who thinks wisdom comes with age is either too young or too stupid to know the difference....)
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To: SnakeDoctor
Y’know ... you can have an enduring marriage and lots of sex without a hussy on the side.

Does "self pleasure" count?

28 posted on 08/20/2012 12:33:11 PM PDT by central_va ( I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: Red Badger

“Who’ll take the woman with the skinny legs?

Won’t someone puhlease take the woman with the skinny legs?”

This was a favorite song from my youth. I still sing the words sometimes.


29 posted on 08/20/2012 12:34:33 PM PDT by 43north (BHO: 50% black, 50% white, 100% RED)
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To: Red Badger

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6O6l4k9sNo


30 posted on 08/20/2012 12:36:41 PM PDT by AmericanSamurai
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To: central_va

I’m gonna go with “no” ... but there could be exceptions.

SnakeDoc


31 posted on 08/20/2012 12:37:43 PM PDT by SnakeDoctor ("I've shot people I like more for less." -- Raylan Givens, Justified)
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To: Individual Rights in NJ
That country and it’s people are disgusting and depraved... along with many here.

Read the comments at the bottom of the article, you will be heartened.

32 posted on 08/20/2012 12:38:07 PM PDT by Paradox (I want Obama defeated. Period.)
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To: AmericanSamurai
LOL!

Mrs. B doesn't much care for beer ... which is kind of a bummer, since I'm a brewer ...

Wine, OTOH ....

;'}

33 posted on 08/20/2012 12:42:25 PM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: AmericanSamurai

Good movie.........got the DVD............


34 posted on 08/20/2012 12:42:40 PM PDT by Red Badger (Anyone who thinks wisdom comes with age is either too young or too stupid to know the difference....)
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To: Domandred
I’m always greatly amused that promiscuity, open relationships, affairs, premarital sex, same sex marriages etc etc are all seen as perfectly okay but ....
OMG Polygamists! Get them!


There is typically one of two things at play in the thought process that makes this scenario "sensible" to Liberals: 1) Shhh! They are trying to boil the frog with a gradual increase in the temperature 2) Logic is NOT a common trait among liberal leftists!

Of course, with the Communist/Marxist Admin we have today these are NOT mutually exclusive!
35 posted on 08/20/2012 12:43:29 PM PDT by ExTxMarine (PRAYER: It's the only HOPE for real CHANGE in America!)
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To: central_va

No. I for one, am master of my domain.


36 posted on 08/20/2012 12:46:33 PM PDT by cydcharisse (`)
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To: Smokin' Joe

Hard to blame gay activists for destroying marriage when our side keeps doing stuff like THIS to it...


37 posted on 08/20/2012 12:51:10 PM PDT by Buckeye McFrog
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To: nickcarraway

“Saturday night was for wives, but Friday night at the Copa was always for the girlfriends.”


38 posted on 08/20/2012 12:52:24 PM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Smokin' Joe

Perverts unite! An “expert” seys you smart.


39 posted on 08/20/2012 12:58:08 PM PDT by SaraJohnson
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To: nickcarraway
But sex is no more a moral issue than eating a good meal.

You know, people are entitled to their own opinions but they aren't entitled to their own truth.

40 posted on 08/20/2012 1:09:52 PM PDT by johniegrad
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