Posted on 08/07/2012 1:28:40 PM PDT by Hojczyk
Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.
Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.
My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn’t; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.
I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.
(Excerpt) Read more at thepublicdiscourse.com ...
Thanks much for bringing this stunningly prescient article to my attention.
When you are a parent, ethical questions revolve around your children and you put away your self-interest . . . forever.”
A great statement by the author......
Great article.
Now if only Mittens could comprehend what sort of damage he causes little children by his support of queers adopting children.
This applies to heterosexual, too. Especially ones from dysfunctional families.
Yes, it does. That is why the natural family and the ancient rites of chastity until marriage, long courtships with both families and worship communities involved, and faithful marriage as THE rite of passage to adulthood were such good institutions for the benefit of society as a whole. But the forces of feminism, homosexism, eroticism, the ACLU and the SCOTUS thought they knew better.
Sounds like China Grove, a small Texas town made famous in song by the Doobie Brothers. lol
ping!
Amazing that so few people get this. Sex is simply another bodily function, but that's what it's treated as today. And with horrid results.
I see this with the 7 yr old son of a work associate of my wife.
This girl got married, had a child, dumped the husband, and shacked up with another girl. She has primary custody.
Dad has subsequently remarried but has custody 3 days a week.
So Jr. says he has 3 moms.
It won’t turn out well.
Ping!
Wow, me too, super intellectual outsider parents who got divorced - my mother was like a lesbian without actually being one. Even though I grew up mostly in NY, we didn’t fit in... later I had a gay male friend (a widower, who became gay after his wife’s death) who was raising a daughter. They had all the money in the world, but it was rough going for her. People don’t know what the gay lifestyle is like - I’ve seen it from the inside - a level of promiscuity that cannot be imagined.
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I did not grow up in a gay or bi household, but I am the product of two (hetero) artistic, atheistic intellectuals who did not relate well to outsiders....
bkmk
Robert Lopez, I don’t find you strange at all. You had no choice in the manner in which you were raised, much like children raised in alcoholic homes don’t have a choice. I am saddened at what you went through. You should be proud of the life you have now and the example you will set for your child.
bttt
The glaring characteristic that I observe out of the G&L movement is that they are almost totally focused on themselves and what they want. This guy understands that we need to be concerned about other people, his children in particular, and the children of society in general. That is precisely where the G&L point of view and methods lose all credibility: they ruthlessly pursue their own interests, but care not a nit about those upon whom they are trying to force their views and so-called "rights".
bttt
ping
Thought you might be interested.
You still haven’t answered my question tho...
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/2914471/posts?page=33#33
I'd enlarge this to include a large chunk of heterosexuals as well. How better to explain abortion, most divorce, money issues?
Most gays do not care what it feels like for their children to be brought up in a traditional home. They want their little nest and inflict their children with growing up as you did. Homosexuals should keep to themselves and leave the children alone.
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