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Mother of Disabled Son: “I Knew I Had to Abort Him”
Life News ^ | 5/21/12 | Byron Calhoun, Ph.D.

Posted on 05/21/2012 3:54:38 PM PDT by wagglebee

While one woman’s video about her decision to reject an abortion of her disabled son is resonating with millions of views, another mother tells a British newspaper that, upon finding out her son would have disabilities, she “knew” she had to abort him.

Sara Carpenter writes at the London Daily Mail newspaper, “I saw my son’s bleak future and knew I had to abort him.”

Feeling my unborn son move inside me should have been a joyous moment midway through my pregnancy — a milestone that took me closer to welcoming my third child into the world. Instead, every tiny movement made me feel sick with guilt at what I knew I had to do.

Sitting, head in hands, at our kitchen table, I wept at the turn our lives had taken and the terrible dilemma my husband Andrew and I were suddenly facing. It was a choice no parent should ever have to make. This should have been a straightforward pregnancy. After all, this baby was every bit as planned and wanted as our other two children, and welcoming our first son into the family would be a special joy.

But things were different from the start. In contrast with my previous two pregnancies, I had felt sick and weak every minute of every arduous day. It was almost as if my body had been trying to tell me something. I’d grown to love this baby, but something felt terribly wrong. My fears were confirmed on October 1, 2006, when a routine scan changed everything. I’d held my breath as the consultant spent far longer than I knew was standard studying and measuring sections of my baby’s spine and brain.

Scan images are notoriously hard for lay-people to make sense of, but the protrusion on my son’s back was impossible to miss. As the doctor switched off the monitor and turned her chair to face me, I clenched my fists and jaw, willing her to say there was nothing to worry about. Instead, my stomach lurched as she said: ‘I’m sorry, but your baby has spina bifida.’

Spina bifida can be surgically closed after birth and intrauterine surgery for spina bifida has also been performed. But Carpenter said her doctor informed her and her husband that their baby would never walk.

Carpenter said she came from a pro-life, Catholic family and marched in a pro-life rally when she was young. Although she had pro-life values, the prospect of watching a disabled son struggle prompted the decision to take his life, saying killing him was a kind response.

Andrew and I talked long into the night, and finally agreed that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do for our son.

Despite the confident manner in which Carpenter decided to have an abortion using the dangerous abortion drug mifepristone, the thought still haunted her and probably will for a lifetime.

What followed were the worst 16 hours of my life. They passed in a morphine-induced haze, but there was no dulling what was happening. My baby was being forced into the world long before he could survive in it, and it felt unnatural — completely at odds with my instincts as a mother. My body seemed to be doing all it could to hold onto him, and the labour went on and on.

At one point, in the grips of what felt like a panic attack, I became hysterical. Gasping for breath and screaming, I demanded that Andrew tell me why we were doing this and why it was the right thing for our son.

In contrast, the video of the courageous mom who shares her account of rejecting suggestions that she have an abortion following the prediction from doctors that her unborn child would be born with disabilities has been seen now by millions of people.

Lacey Buchanan is chronicling her journey with Christian and her family on her blog and has talked more about the inspiring story. Christian Taylor Buchanan was born with a bilateral cleft palate and lip and almost completely blind.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: abortion; disabilities; moralabsolutes; prolife
Andrew and I talked long into the night, and finally agreed that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do for our son.

There is NOTHING "kind" about murder.

1 posted on 05/21/2012 3:54:42 PM PDT by wagglebee
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2 posted on 05/21/2012 3:55:39 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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3 posted on 05/21/2012 3:56:38 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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May God have mercy on her pathetic soul.


4 posted on 05/21/2012 3:58:17 PM PDT by Righting (9)
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To: wagglebee

So, are we now going to call them in-the-womb mercy killings?


5 posted on 05/21/2012 3:59:46 PM PDT by ReneeLynn (Socialism is SO yesterday. Fascism, it's the new black. Mmm mmm mmm...)
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To: wagglebee
There is NOTHING "kind" about murder.

There is NOTHING "kind" about premeditated, well-thought out, paid-for, bloody murder.

Infanticide is what they used to call it! This woman, and anyone else who accompanied her to the abortuary, and anyone who entered into the conspiracy to murder her child, and the bloody butcher who slaughtered that child should go straight to hell!

6 posted on 05/21/2012 4:00:42 PM PDT by laweeks
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To: wagglebee

and how will this woman feel if she found out the doctor was wrong and the baby had not been disabled after all?

Then again, the death cult won’t care.


7 posted on 05/21/2012 4:01:30 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Pursue Happiness)
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To: wagglebee

One of these days some government bureaucrat is going to decide her life isn’t worth living.


8 posted on 05/21/2012 4:01:30 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Government is the religion of the sociopath.)
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To: wagglebee

finally agreed that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do for our son.

Sure, lady. Keep telling yourself this. Someday you can explain it to God AND your rejected son.


9 posted on 05/21/2012 4:03:34 PM PDT by Wisconsinlady (Pray and vote for Gov Walker and Lt.. Gov. Kleefisch on June 5th=every vote counts!)
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To: wagglebee

The lady that “knew” she had to abort the baby is operating under a strong, evil dilusion.

She wants to act in the place of God and that is never a good idea.

Fact is the baby could live, could know love, and equally important, could generate love and selfless service for these people or perhaps others who would be willing to adopt.

There is no telling what kind of mind, accomplishments, or life this child would have had, or how the child would have influenced others for the good.

In addition, the killing of the child would have been horrific, painful, and ugly.

The Truth about the Abortion Genocide (Warning: Graphic Photo)
http://www.jeffhead.com/abortion/abortiontruth.htm


10 posted on 05/21/2012 4:09:05 PM PDT by Jeff Head (Freedom is not free, never has been, never will be (www.dragonsfuryseries.com))
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My God, she murdered her baby because it wouldn’t be able to walk.

My God, such evil.


11 posted on 05/21/2012 4:12:32 PM PDT by Hulka
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Andrew and I talked long into the night, and finally agreed that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do for our son.

More like the "kindest" thing they could do for themselves.

I wrote a sonnet for just this kind of thing:

When winds of conscience waft about thy head,
And brooks of rue do babble in thy brain,
Seek not thy quietude in lonely bed,
Nor utter careful words to stay thy pain.
For though words chosen well may ease the smart,
And turn the wretched, hateful wrong to right,
Alas, in sooth, they cannot touch the heart,
Nor kill Remorse, which flies upon the night,
With Satan, the Accuser, who will steal,
Betimes to whisper softly in thine ears,
Of dark deeds done; of rack, of cord, of wheel,
And play upon the pipes of hidden fears.
Thus torn asunder, none shall see thy strife;
Thy spotted hand; thy bloody, dripping knife.

12 posted on 05/21/2012 4:15:34 PM PDT by Mr Ramsbotham (Laws against sodomy are honored in the breech.)
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To: wagglebee

If spina bifida can be repaired through surgery, why abort. Oh, I forgot. This is a UK hospital where an abortion would be less costly for the NHS. I still have to shake my head over all the abortions performed because of a cleft palate (again, easily repaired).


13 posted on 05/21/2012 4:16:25 PM PDT by eaglescout1998
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To: wagglebee
Carpenter said she came from a pro-life, Catholic family and marched in a pro-life rally when she was young. Although she had pro-life values,....

Perhaps God was asking you how strongly you held those values?

14 posted on 05/21/2012 5:04:53 PM PDT by PGR88
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“Christian Taylor Buchanan was born with a bilateral cleft palate and lip and almost completely blind.”

There’s surgery to fix the palate.

I know some really cool blind people. Sure don’t think they should all be murdered.


15 posted on 05/21/2012 5:23:57 PM PDT by driftdiver (I could eat it raw, but why do that when I have a fire.)
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To: wagglebee

The opposite of unconditional love is planned parenthood.


16 posted on 05/21/2012 5:36:58 PM PDT by eccentric (a.k.a. baldwidow)
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To: GeronL
They won't care, GeronL.

You seem to be missing whole point.

In their world, words matter more than actions.
One must never execute a convicted criminal, but it's perfectly fine to abort an unborn child, or euthanize a disabled adult.
Execution=Evil
Euthanasia=Compassion
Abortion=Doesn't matter, since the mass of matter in a womans womb, formerly acknowledeged to be an unborn baby, is now equal in value to a benign tumor.

17 posted on 05/21/2012 5:48:05 PM PDT by sarasmom ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=xZsFe6dM3EY)
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18 posted on 05/21/2012 8:04:54 PM PDT by KC_Lion (I am finished with listening to empty promises of the great GOP saving me in 4 more years.)
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To: wagglebee

Yes, the use of the word KIND here is jarring indeed.


19 posted on 05/21/2012 8:11:51 PM PDT by bboop (Without justice, what else is the State but a great band of robbers? St. Augustine)
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To: wagglebee
A ministry that helps these parents who murder their babies recover from this wretched sin.



http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/ Rachel's Vineyardf

20 posted on 05/21/2012 9:10:24 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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“...the kindest thing they could do for themselves.”

I concur. Abortion is purely selfish. The rest of this crap is just that.


21 posted on 05/22/2012 6:17:35 AM PDT by Blue Collar Christian (Liberals vote the way they feel, conservatives vote the way they think. NRA <BCC><)
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To: wagglebee

A kid’s legs are paralyzed from birth (if the doctors’ notoriously often-wrong prognosis about the handicap is correct), so that automatically makes him a useless eater?

GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

Doesn’t this kid have a MIND too???? Not just a BODY????

She might have just killed off the next Beethoven, or the man who would have cured all cancer.


22 posted on 05/22/2012 6:21:35 AM PDT by HiTech RedNeck (Churches are full of hypocrites you say? Welcome: there's always room for one more.)
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To: wagglebee

Just so incredibly upsetting! In a sense, her comments seem to contain regret and would seem to have the power to deter some women from abortion. One might almost think she regrets her decision, but then she declares her and her husband made the right decision so her son wouldn’t have to “suffer.” That’s nonsense. Every person alive suffers in life, even if the person has no disability. I got the feeling that it was her and her husband that didn’t want to suffer and sacrifice their quality of life and ideal life raising a son that was disabled.

My heart just breaks for that child. The people who were supposed to love him the most and protect him the most, his mother and father, had him killed. Doctors, doctors who should be saving life, not taking it, recommended and participated in his murder.


23 posted on 05/22/2012 6:55:39 PM PDT by Pinkbell (Woo hoo! Another moderate candidate! Thanks GOP and voters!)
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Andrew and I talked long into the night, and finally agreed that ending the pregnancy was the kindest thing we could do for our son.

:sigh:

Why are people so eager to kill anyone who isn't "perfect"?

One of my former co-workers has spina bifida. She is in her late thirties and she has to wear braces but she walks. She and her husband adopted a little girl a couple of years ago. This world would be a sadder place without her in it.

I keep on thinking about the scene in "A Wrinkle in Time" where "IT" informs Meg that when someone has a cold they are killed because it was kinder then having them suffer through the sneezes and stuffy noses of a cold.

I wonder how far we are from that mindset.

24 posted on 05/22/2012 7:05:39 PM PDT by Harmless Teddy Bear (Migrating elephant herds react badly to flaming motor homes and dry ice doesn't repel killer bees)
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