Posted on 01/14/2010 4:56:48 AM PST by GonzoII
Of course they do...if there’s one thing I know, it’s that children mimick. As a parent, I don’t trust the internet. I have set up the only internet accessible computer right smack in the middle of the kitchen. I tell my kids, If you are worried about me seeing something you are looking at, then you shouldn’t be looking at it! They are O.K. with it.
Parents really need to be heads up in todays world.
the first amendment requires you to be cognisant of things...if one wants a nannystate one need to be at DU or KOS.
It took some time to find the right software package that they cannot get around, that blocks sites as you set filters and that logs them off as you prescribe the amount of time and days they can use the computer.
Since doing HW on the computer is a necessity as well, until we got this software, we had many fights over the computer time. The one we found best is KidWatch. I believe he was definitely corrupted by seeing the sex he did. He was only 12. We thought we had time.
My son was 16 when he took his life 12-19-09.
Ten pages, eh?
Next thing you know, someone will discover that kids are affected by the content of ads, by the cr@p they see on MTV, by the propaganda the liberal school system dishes out.
It's almost as though kids “learn” from their surroundings and their influences. Thank goodness we have these scientific breakthroughs to inform us of such things.
I wonder if this could anything to do with the NEA and other liberal groups wanting control over schools? Wonder if that could be why there are so many groups pushing for the teaching of “tolerance” in schools?
A friend of my wife just got a divorce last year, and in her bitterness confessed to her just how bad it can be in an adult relationship, not just to kids who are even more susceptible to it.
She knew her husband was watching porn on line and complained about it, but it got worse and worse. I won’t get into the details she told my wife, but he started thinking that what normal people would be disgusted by as just a normal healthy relationship.
From what I have found out porn now is nothing like the stuff made back in the ‘70’s or ‘80’s, they keep pushing boundaries of the extreme. Young kids watching that filth, both girls and boys, will believe that what is shown is what everyone is doing and will be desensitized after a while. It’s a big problem, and most parents who can’t be bothered to cook a meal for their kids sure as heck can’t be bothered to use filters on the internet either.
My eyes are in tears, typing this to you. Less than a month after your loss, and you’re trying to selflessly warn others. Your son had to have been a good kid; those are just the kinds of kids who are jolted by such things. The children brought up by dirtbags and are used to those circumstances are rarely fazed by this stuff. He was from a good family and had no idea how to handle such perversion. I am deeply sorry for you and your family.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I will pray for your son every day. People don’t understand how bad it is out there. I didn’t *really* understand either till my daughter started dating a nice young man. His parents were very involved in his life and they had good household rules, a 10 pm curfew, no MTV, etc. Unfortunately, this young man got addicted to porn. He wanted to do ‘stuff’ with my daughter, unhealthy stuff. Thankfully she said no and they broke up about a month later. I’m still shaken by the situation. His parents seemed to do everything right and he still went done a bad path.
I am so sorry.
even after having my sister die when she was 8 and I was 10, and seeing the grief my parents went through (not to mention my own). I still cant imagine the pain you must be going through....My heartfelt sympathies.
He had girlfriends but really didn't know how to treat them. I blame that on the porn he saw. He never mistreated them. It's just porn is no relationship. Porn for a teen fuels their already hormone peaked desires, yet most are too immature to act responsibly.
On that blizzard night, his ex-girlfriend kissed his friend in front of him. He had 5-6 beers before. Then he walked to town and jumped in front of a train.
I am not one for seeing visions. But, on the day of the second wake, he stood ten feet from me as I was at the washing machine. Just like he might do if he wanted something from me. But, this time he had no shirt on. He said, "Mom, I'm sorry." I burst out crying and said, "And so am I." I feel he got permission to tell me that.
God Bless FreeRepublic. We are joining The Compassionate Friends. http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx
Many FReepers will question or even mock the idea that pornography can cause serious problems in our children, but I personally declare that it is true.
Exposing minors to pornography does very real, profound damage to them. Sometimes, the consequences of that damage can be utterly devastating to their lives.
May God bless you.
Prayers to you. Your son is fine. You are a good mom.
I feel it the most, when he should be in his bed, when I should be getting him off to school, at a store where I would think, "James eats this." on and on. The only time I don't expect him is during school hours.
So many kids miss him in school that they had to have counselors for 2 days. They started a Rest in Peace Facebook page. So many have said that he saved their life because they were going to run away or kill themselves and he would stop them.
We have put the word out to the kids and the local paper that James made a choice under the influence of alcohol. And that you remove your impulse control when you drink. Many said they will no longer drink or take marijuana. Some are addicted to my son's image as a confirmed binge drinker and will continue to think his parents are just crazy.
James now knows the truth.
Thank you and God Bless you.
I don't mean to push one product over another, but KidsWatch worked and many others didn't. With other programs you only knew by looking at the history that they had gone around it. Then, you don't allow them on the computer until you are next to them. They feel more rebellious because you interfere.
MySpace was one site that gets around porn filters. That is one dirty place. So just block MySpace and make them use Facebook.
My other son will come to Compassionate Friends with us at some point. The local group we are joining is for 18 and up. Meanwhile, the school psychologist, counselors and teachers have been great to him.
He tells me that it's the only one he could not manage to circumvent anonymously.
Bonus: It's free.
So sorry to hear about your loss! Prayers for your family.
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