PING!!
Posted on 09/17/2009 8:48:47 AM PDT by null and void
The only thing worse than having a job is looking for a job. Much the same can be said about dating. Men too often put up with a lot of crap from women just to save having to start looking again. In our minds, that shouldn't be the case. The longer a man is in this situation, the more he will grow accustomed to the drudgery, leading him to stay in the relationship far longer than its expiration date.
Whether you suspect that you’re in this situation or you know it for a fact, we’re here to introduce you to the top 10 signs you’re too good for her -- and really need to find someone better.
10 - You're always dumbing down conversations around her
And it's not just her -- it's her entire social universe. Her friends, her family and her coworkers all seem to have an extremely limited vocabulary, one that contains more four-letter expletives than a U.S. Army boot camp. If your cat can match her wit, it’s one of the signs you’re too good for her.
9 - She f*cks like a porn star
Sure, we all have those fantasies, but if your woman is taking you into uncharted territory that has serious repercussions for personal safety, there's a good chance it's a sign you're too good for her. No limits or boundaries in the intimate sphere means serious problems with self-respect and control in general. Sure the sex will be mind-blowing, but you’ll never know where she’s been or even how she learned her maneuvers, which can only mean one thing…
8 - None of your friends like her
Your friends don't like her and they seem to have independently verified, double-blind proof, that she's awful. You've spent a lot of time cultivating your social circle to serve as just this type of guard when you're in completely over your head, so trust your safety net. If she can't make simple conversation with your friends, it's a sign you're too good for her.
7 - You're always encouraging her
If, on a regular basis, you find yourself encouraging your girlfriend to go out and really experience life outside the couch or mall, you're in all likelihood too good for her. There are certain people for whom ambition or enthusiasm for the future are just plain anathema. You're not going to be her catalyst and all you're doing now is wasting valuable energy and focus that you should be spending on your own life.
Move on.
6 - She can't pay for anything
When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking she is nowhere to be found. There are two types of women for whom this is a problem: The first is just oblivious to the fact that she should actually pitch into the relationship. The second is just without the ability and just doesn't seem to have any income. Life's too short to waste time on either of them.
5 - She's amazed by what you take for granted
At a certain point in life, certain realities set in and some things are just taken for granted. After college, a paycheck certainly falls into this category. If your girlfriend is dumbstruck by your ability to garner income, you're staring into the abyss of someone who cannot hold a job. This may be a warning sign of future problems.
Other things that she’s awestruck by include paying bills, utilities or credit cards on a monthly basis. These should all let you know you're too good for her.
4 - She has poor hygiene
If you've noticed on numerous occasions that there is a certain unpleasant odor emanating from your betrothed, it may be time to move on. Some people are merely untidy while others endanger your health. You can try mentioning in passing that there seems to be something amiss, but by and large, you're going to be facing a recurring and uphill battle if you want her to change.
3 - She is devoid of natural curiosity
The universe is a strange and mysterious place. Every day you come across phenomena that nearly cry out for further explanation. At least you thought so, until you met your current girlfriend. If you've been together for a while and you've never heard her mention travel or a book she has read, you're in trouble. Conversations based upon first-hand experience from your day are both powerfully limiting and dull.
2 - She gets into trouble with the law
There is a time when authority figures are challenged and boundaries are defined. It's called adolescence. It's when your juvenile record can be sealed and expunged. If she's still shoplifting or finding herself on the business side of a DUI conviction, that's just reckless and is endangering your future. It shows that she hasn't developed a sense of what is right or wrong, nor does she have any respect for the possessions of others.
1 - Her best asset is her looks
Relationships are a growing concern. You're supposed to find other qualities that endear her to you beyond the initial physical attraction. If you haven't found anything like that and in fact have found many qualities that the good looks are covering up for, then you're too good for her. You need to move on and find someone else. If you don't, you're selling yourself short. Strike out in a new direction and find someone who is both physically attractive as well as your equal or better in the other 98% of life.
I would add and 8a: She doesn't like any of your friends.
And yet, guys (like my stupid brothers!) insist on marrying her anyway, LOL!
I don’t know about number 9....I could overlook that one....as a matter of fact I WANT to overlook that one....
Or 8b: She likes your friends too much.
Yeah. we’re funny that way...
Face it. Number 9 is reason we WON’T move on.
*shrug* It’s an area I’m willing to do the training...
I’m old-fashioned. I believe men should pick up the tab. Always did, even when in college and dating. As the woman, when I dated fellow poor students, I’d suggest inexpensive alternatives and cook dinner for him a fair amount, so I still contributed. My daughter pays a lot when she goes out with her boyfriend and I tell her to dump him. If he can’t take care of her now, marriage is waaaay worse.
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I thought this was the top 10 list of preferred qualities in a community organizer or ACORN loan specialist.
At my age I don’t want to train anyone....I just want to lay back and enjoy the ride....
...except for number 1, of course!
My husband’s friends didn’t like me, because I was taking their pal away. His family (mostly his oldest sister) didn’t care much for me. Sixteen years after they all said it wouldn’t last they think I am wonderful. Of course, I didn’t have any of the other “qualities” on this list, except that one.
After hearing so much about him, I started talking to a high school chum of a close friend. We went to lunch a month ago and when the tab came I was trying to figure out how to split it, since we both had cards. He picked it up for me.
Excellent observation. Here's a joke that makes a similar point:
Q: What's the difference between a professional musician and a 16" cheese pizza?
A: The pizza can feed a family of four!
Bookmark for later...I’ve known for years I’m too good for most women...:o)
The real problem for many is the #9 makes them overlook the other 9.
Whaaaaat?
#9 wasn't you?
(Just kidding but running away anyhow)
1-2-3 5-6 8-9-10
11. You and her mother hate each other to the point you weighed the pros and cons of hiring a hitman...
Been there, done that, was left with ONLY my shirt. Being divorced isn’t a bad way to go through life.
I thought this was the top 10 list of preferred qualities in a community organizer or ACORN loan specialist.
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LOL!!!
Ain’t that the truth!
Unfortunately, that's true. However, I finally couldn't take it any longer.
She reportedly got sober after I split, and might be making someone else very happy. But, I'm not making that mistake again.
There are 22 other hours in the day that are more important.
“I don’t know about number 9....I could overlook that one....as a matter of fact I WANT to overlook that one....”
I think the point is that it takes lots of experience from a wide variety of tutors to achieve the described skill level in that department. In other words, if you choose to go there, then be sure to wear two, check that your tetanus booster is current, and burn the sheets when you’re done.
The same list could be written with the genders exchanged: Top Ten Signs You’re Too Good for Him. I would add:
11. He considers being drunk a form of recreation
12. He’s surrounded by females he describes as “just a friend” or “an ex-girlfriend.”
13. He seems to have a very bad relationship with everyone in his family, even his extended family
14. He has had a long string of jobs he has held for only short periods of time
15. He has anger-management issues, which is to say, he yells at you at lot and you haven’t even received a single Visa bill together yet
16. He’s a Viagra junkie (If he’s under 55, your own charms ought to be enough for him.)
17. He hates his mother. Bad sign. Men (and women) often try to work out issues with their opposite-sex parent in their marriages.
18. When people hear you’re dating him, they suppress laughter, not always successfully. Or they say, “Why, for God’s sake?”
19. He says repeatedly that he’s not interested in marriage, kids, a home. Believe him. When people, especially men, say this, they’re not kidding and you’re not going to change their minds with an accidental pregnancy.
20. He’s a liberal.
I agree. Nothing turns me off more than a cheap man. If I want to pay for something, I’ll go by myself or with my girlfriends.
That's why I'll only marry with a prenuptial.
LOL....there are some that are born naturals....I used to date one....but she did come with some of the other afore mentioned issues....
Sadly, and in refutation of all the facts, there are many men who will continue to make the wrong choice.
As will many women.
I think that #9 is over-rated. I know this is a joke thread here, but, seriously, couples will develop their own bedroom preference without seeing how things happen in pornography.
I’d suggest inexpensive alternatives and cook dinner for him a fair amount, so I still contributed.
I'd suggest you are correct. That moves you from the black-hole-of-need department to something very close to the equal partner for life camp.
As to your daughter (and *sigh* mine)... One thing that seems to work is the one who invites pays. If he asks her out he pays, if she has something in particular she wants to do, she pays. Not perfect by any means, but it keeps the worst of the leaches away.
Believe it or not, I avoided going on a second date with a very smart incredibly good looking gal.
It was hard, but, I just couldn’t bring myself to date crazy.
Although, I do give her credit, she told me up front she was looking for husband number 4....
Wrong.
Women, even if they delude themselves into thinking they are the better one, benefit by having a man around.
“A: The pizza can feed a family of four!”
Not my family! We need several.
You’re dating? Good Lord woman! Why didn’t you tell us???
I would add another — she poo poos traditional things like cooking, cleaning and taking care of children. Now, I’m a big believer that the husband should share the load, but if a woman acts like she is trying to prove a point by avoiding these activities, it means she is not the kind of person who will “give” enough to have a loving marriage.
(good list, BTW)
Good for you but if you start to hear him say yes dear a lot rethink it.
The worst defense for something such as this is "we have always done it that way". There was a practical reason for men picking up the tab in the past. Men had all the money and women weren't really a part of the work force. That has all changed. I date women regularly who make as much as I do. That was rarely the case years ago. You carry your share of the load or you don't date this guy. I don't pay for a woman's company. :o)
So to deal with downside you find some "fillers" but they are just as bad 'cause who in their right mind would put up with being 2nd, 3rd and 4th fiddle?
Number 9 was way off. It’s not only not trouble, but it should be a requirement.
I will overlook 1 and 9 because I believe in tolerance. I’m just a chartible kind of guy.
#9 is total baloney...a sign of a masculine inferiority complex...I particularly look for women who eff like a porn star!
Just an observation from my wife reading over my shoulder, but this attitude is indicative of a pay-scale. I’ve never known a woman making a professional salary to concern herself over who is paying for dinner.
What’s wrong with #12? A good many of my friends are female.
That reminds me....we were at Sam's Club yesterday, and I glanced at the pharmacy's Advertised Prices poster on the wall......a 10-pack of Viagra was like $135.00 - that's $13.50 per woody! I guess it's true: Nobody rides for free.
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