Posted on 06/21/2008 1:07:56 PM PDT by blam
What women really want: a touch on the arm
By Laura Clout
Last Updated: 1:42AM BST 21/06/2008
Scientists have come up with a winning formula for men wishing to seduce women, and it has nothing to do with cheesy chat-up lines or good looks. Research shows that a man can significantly increase his pulling power by simply catching a woman's eye and lightly touching her arm.
A study at Aberdeen University found that two-thirds of women agreed to dance with a man who rested his hand on her arm for a second or two while making the request.
When the man kept his hands by his side as he asked the same question, his success rate fell by half.
Women were also more likely to give their phone-number to a man who touched their arm as he approached them in the street.
The study, published in Focus Magazine, suggested that touching makes a man appear dominant, and therefore more attractive to the opposite sex.
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
LOL!
I think the general observation is correct, though. If a woman has the slightest interest in a man, his touching her arm will encourage the interest. Even a highly married woman such as myself will sit up straighter and mind her pitch when an attractive Latino gentleman gives her a pat on the arm.
However, I tell my teenage daughter that this doesn't apply to her: if she even smiles too hard at that vaquero in the fancy boots, either they're engaged or his girlfriend will try to kill her.
Just my $0.02
I almost posted my phone number just thinking about it.
What is ... nevermind.
Um, no.
I’m completely creeped out if a stranger touches my arm (or elsewhere). I never dance with someone I don’t know anyway...but come to think of it, that’s probably why I’m 30 and single! :)
Reminds me of the Second Amendment ... the right to bare arms.
;-).
I’m thinking of a particular Latino gentleman (also married) with whom I perform some popular Spanish music at church functions. I just want to be admired for my voice, honest!
Dont touch me, bro..
Works every time.
I just like to show them my wallet. Always works for me.
(er... it's for my little brother)
*snert*
Soap works on me, under the right conditions (husband, kids in bed, not going to have a baby in 9 months ...).
Works every time. (**BIG EXAGGERATED WINK**)
As one woman already indicated, a stranger doing this will be considered as creepy usually.
It’s not about seduction, it’s about generosity and invitation. If you’re living a happy life, women will be drawn to that, and they will initiate the touching!
So a good whack might be good enough to get her in the sack?
What women really want: a touch on the arm
What men really want: a punch in the nose
It depends on the context. If a woman has gone to a bar or social event looking to meet men, then a touch on the arm from a "stranger" can be a positive signal. If a woman has asked a man at the bus stop what time it is, a touch on the arm can be creepy.
If you can pull off the right balance of relaxed, confident, friendly yet blatantly uninterested — almost can’t go wrong with that approach. :)
Didn't teach ya that one in lawr schrewel did they? (maybe cause it doesn't work?)
Old news. Written long ago by I.Levin & M.Shafer
He touched me,
He put his hand near mine
And then he touched me
I felt a sudden tingle when he touched me
A sparkle, a glow
He knew it...
It wasn’t accidental, no,
He knew it
He smiled and seem to tell me so all through it
He knew it, I know...
He’s real, and the world is alive and shining
I feel such a wonderful drive toward valentining
He touched me, I simply have to face the fact
He touched me...
Control myself and try to act
As if I remember my name
But he touched me...
He touched me...
And suddenly nothing is the same!
‘Cause he touched me...
He touched me...
And suddenly... nothing, nothing, nothing is the same!
David Beckham on one arm, Jackie Broyles on the other and a bottle of Absinthe./Just Asking - seoul62.......
Great minds. I too want to know but am not going to ask.
Twenty years later: Jenny (867-5309)
Dating Secrets of the FLDS: when courting a new woman exfoliate and bring your current wives.
DING DING DING! We have a winner, no more calls, please...
LOL!
Also probably the reason you’ve escaped STDs and creepy guys and single motherhood. Good for you for having basic standards for guys.
Touching on the arm can be culturally awkward, whereas introducing yourself with a firm handshake, a warm smile and deep eye contact can have the same effect without the creepiness factor.
As for the handshake: firm, but don’t squeeze tight enough to even approach discomfort, and continue the handshake a bit longer than a normal one. Not so long as to cause anxiety, but long enough to indicate that you are assertive and enjoy touching the woman.
Women do respond to confident, assertive men, as long as they don’t overdo it.
Caveat: I haven’t actually practiced my art on anyone other than Mrs. Chandler for 33 years.
Strange...
Good grooming is primary. As for "faking" a smile, why wouldn't a man smile naturally when talking to a woman he is interested in?
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