Posted on 10/09/2007 5:55:50 AM PDT by reaganaut1
Even now, at 81 and with her memory beginning to fade, Gloria Donadello recalls her painful brush with bigotry at an assisted-living center in Santa Fe, N.M. Sitting with those she considered friends, “people were laughing and making certain kinds of comments, and I told them, ‘Please don’t do that, because I’m gay.’”
The result of her outspokenness, Ms. Donadello said, was swift and merciless. “Everyone looked horrified,” she said. No longer included in conversation or welcome at meals, she plunged into depression. Medication did not help. With her emotional health deteriorating, Ms. Donadello moved into an adult community nearby that caters to gay men and lesbians.
“I felt like I was a pariah,” she said, settled in her new home. “For me, it was a choice between life and death.”
Elderly gay people like Ms. Donadello, living in nursing homes or assisted-living centers or receiving home care, increasingly report that they have been disrespected, shunned or mistreated in ways that range from hurtful to deadly, even leading some to commit suicide.
Some have seen their partners and friends insulted or isolated. Others live in fear of the day when they are dependent on strangers for the most personal care. That dread alone can be damaging, physically and emotionally, say geriatric doctors, psychiatrists and social workers.
(Excerpt) Read more at nytimes.com ...
Of course the article does not mention as causes of loneliness the lack of children in homosexual relationships or the higher break-up rates of male homosexual relationships. Maybe some "lifestyles" are less conducive to happiness?
But the gay lifestyle has none of that...
My brother in law is the director of three “assisted living” facilities, I asked him about this article his response “b*ll shit”. Thats my only source of information about this story which to me does not pass the smell test.
I'm forced to be tolerant -- but they don't have to be?
No doubt the federal nanny will soon be supporting these old homosexuals. I guess they didn’t think they’d get to be sick and 80+ when they were criticizing us “breeders,” but now our children and grandchildren will have to pay for their upkeep in increased taxes.
Agreed. I volunteer with an organization that provides companionship for alone elderly nursing home residents and at that age, they simply don’t care what or who you are anymore.
People who choose deviant lifestyles do not think rationally of what life will be down the road. With the politically-correct promotion of being "identified" and becoming part of a class that is singled out for special recognition and treatment, even if it means deviant behavior, may be attractive to those who feel "left out" of belonging to SOMETHING, and they gravitate toward this abhorhent behavior as a means of joining a "group".
They don't join normally-adjusted, natural conduct society, but rather, join the deviant lifestyle community, and then whine when they find out it's not a rational or long-term solution to their problems.
Unfortunately for them, they become even MORE lonely and un-supported.
Since they don't have kids to give their money to they will be able to afford it, and you know the place will be kept spotless...
Yeah, well she forgot to mention making light of pedophiles, beastophiles, sexual predators and other deviant behaviors.
When they say they want tolerance, what they mean is that they demand acceptance.
I would agree with him if he's talking about staff treatment....but I have to agree with the story if it's regarding the residents. If you're in your 80's....you grew up in a time that being gay was not appropriate to talk about, be around or have welcomed to your social circles. She wants to "come out of the closet" with those of that era and feel welcome....she's deluding herself in thinking legislation is going to change it.
OK, so homosexuals TOTALLY depend on the approval of others for their well-being? Therefore it is akin to murder to have your own feelings about their poor choices? Boy those mean old ladies ... They should be the next ones in shackles.
The moron from Iran has said he wants to nuke us. They treat women lower than cattle. But, if they have no homosexuals in Iran, only then will the lemmings get upset.
What a bunch of freaky nut jobs we have in the world.
Sounds like your sister is making some good decisions. Going back to Martin Luther King (and Jesus) — is it not all about CHARACTER???
You can object to what people are saying without announcing your sexual proclivity.
She can always go the parade! www.zombilike.com
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