Posted on 11/20/2006 10:57:05 PM PST by Mr. Silverback
Note: This commentary was delivered by Prison Fellowship President Mark Earley.
If you spend any time near a mall or a high school these days, you’ve probably seen them: provocative T-shirts. Young girls walk by wearing tight T-shirts reading “Your boyfriend is a good kisser,” or “Yes, but not with U!”, or, “I am too hot to handle.”
Good grief! Whatever happened to those T-shirts with the smiley face—the ones that said, “Have a Nice Day”?
Washington Post writer Ian Shapira says T-shirts today are “blatantly sexual . . . and often loaded with double meanings.” The shirts are “emblematic of the kind of sleazy-chic culture some teenagers now inhabit.” It’s a culture, he says, “in which status can be defined by images of sexual promiscuity.”
Teens in Washington-area high schools told Shapira that they wore the T-shirts, in part, to rebel against school dress codes that they felt were too restrictive. Others wear them to give themselves “a little edge.”
Parents don’t like the shirts, but they say they’d rather pick other battles with their daughters. One mother acknowledged that her daughter’s racy T-shirt might give people the wrong impression about her daughter, but says: “I know that she is not sexually active. Who cares what [other people] think?”
The article caught the eye of several bloggers on BreakPoint’s new blog site, The Point. The writers—some of whom have daughters of their own—tore into the piece.
Regarding that mother who didn’t care what people thought about her daughter’s raunchy T-shirt, blogger Catherina Hurlburt wrote: “Oh, Mom, you should care very much what people think . . . actions are birthed in thoughts and imagination. . . . The message invites a conversation. The conversation leads to flirting and suggestions. . . . [which] lead to, ahem, after-school activities—and I don’t mean football practice or band,” she wrote.
She’s right—but unfortunately, “There are few alternatives to the dirty T-shirt trend,” said blogger Christina Holder. For instance, abstinence groups design apparel “as political billboards,” but they have little appeal “to adolescent fashionistas.”
While fashion may not seem important to you and me as adults, it is to kids. While Christian daughters may agree that vulgar T-shirts are out, they still want edgy, fashionable clothing.
As Holder put it, “Ever since the fall, when Adam and Eve sewed fig leaves into clothing, fashion has been part of our world—whether we like it or not. Reaching the culture with the Truth means we have to find channels through the culture. Fashion is a channel in a teenager’s life”—which means fashion is a field some Christians ought to enter.
What might be an “edgy” T-shirt for Christian girls? How about “Pet Your Dog, Not Your Date”? Or, “He’s Leading You On,” a T-shirt citing Hebrews 12:2, about how Jesus guides us. Both of those are available through Christian-run companies. Better still, mothers and daughters could get out the glitter and design their own T-shirts.
Shirts with hip, edgy messages about Christ just might attract the right kind of attention from the kids at school—one that allows teens to share, in a sleazy-chic world, the cleansing and life-changing power of a holy Christ.
And while you’re at it—have a nice day!
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If either of my daughters try to wear a shirt like that it will get burned.
Same with my little girl. Geez, the world she's growing up in...
My sis has problems sometimes shopping for clothing for her just-turned-7-year-old! It's not just teens' stuff that's raunchy.
The U of Maryland swim team had their t shirts read
"We stroke it harder, longer"
I think it is funny and ok. Some may not like it, but it is college, not high school.
Love it!
How about "STFU liberal, before I ground and pound you until you start to drool." How's that for edgy?
Pictures.
Pray tell, what battle is worth fighting then?
Love it. Where can I get one just like it?
This is just another sign of the moral condition our society has fallen into.
If the daughters have not been taught the PRINCIPLES behind the dress code long before they turn 13, then it's a battle, no question. My three (16, 17, 18) would not even want to wear a shirt like that, let alone BUY it. My sister (older, wiser) suggested years ago that we teach principles, not lay down rules, and watch the difference.
AMEN! AMEN!
My high school swim teem had t-shirts made up that read "It's not the meet, it's the motion".
“Thoughts lead on to purpose,
purpose leads on to actions,
actions form habits,
habits decide character, and
character fixes our destiny”
Indeed!
Who's the parent!
Every time I go past the doll area in the stores, and there is some 'adult' checking out the glitter, I puff up and use my best outdoor voice:
Bratz???
More like SLUTZ to me!
...don't get me started on the low riders I see these teenagers wear throughout the mall.....the majority of them are overweight, their low riders are worn so low as to see their vulger tatoos and of course, the almighty thong....the whole package spells S-L-E-A-Z-Y.......
There ya go!
Or maybe "Mommas don't let your babies grow up to be Muslims" to be "edgy".
My son has a shirt that I think is funny as heck...
"Silence is golden. Duct tape is silver."
I wish I could find one for myself.
Well intended but pathetic.
Ask your kid if they know what petting is.....they won't.
The term is pre-50's.
Try messages like:
Respect yourself first!
Choices have Consequences!
If I don't Respect Myself, who will?
;-)
I prefer peach! ;-P
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Mark
When I was a teenager I got a shirt that had a big pair of lips with a tongue sticking out which stretched across my well endowed chest. The day after I got it I wore it when I went to the mall with my sister. A guy came up and told me that he would like to see what I had in my mouth. My sister thought the remark was so funny that she shared it with my mom and dad that night. I never got to wear that t-shirt again. My dad said that I didn't need to wear anything that called that kind of attention to myself.
How about "My Mom thinks I'm not sexually active. Who cares what other people think?".
You don't like the muffin top look? ;)
That's one of the reasons I am SO glad I have 5 boys (oldest is 11). We were at the Church Fair earlier in the year, and I saw many of these girls with the skanky T-shirts. The most memorable one was a 12-year-old with the message 'lick 'em' across her breasts.
Was that a Rolling Stones T-Shirt?
Philosophy arises from awe.
Man cannot live without joy.
Love takes up where knowledge leaves off.
Do you seek the way by which you should go?
Take Christ, for He is the way.
How can we live in harmony?
First we need to know we are all madly in love with the same God.
Friendship is the source of the greatest pleasures.
And this one may raise a smile:
All men are equal in liberty, but not in other endowments.
How about "something cannot both be and not be in the same sense and at the same time." That'll show the little relativists 8-)
Actually, I have to get some "Life on the Rock" hats for my girls for Christmas. They're only 8 and 11, but they love "Life on the Rock." I think it's the catchy theme song. The friars have a good sense of humor too.
That's just wrong! LOLOL
You should see the looks I get from the populace. Priceless!
I have tees from volunteering at events I like to wear on occasion. I am looking to get away from tee shirt wearing now that I can actually wear some nice fashions. I'll bet you're even MORE irritated by the words across the butts of various pants and sweats. I hate those because I always end up reading them *LOL* and looking at another girl's butt.
I cannot stand the words across the butt! Talk about blatant advertising.
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