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To: neverdem
Everyone knows what it looks like. The friend who perpetually arrives late. The co-worker who neglects to return e-mail messages. The very words: "Nothing. I'm just thinking."

He forgot the one I like best. When you know someone is mad at you and you ask straight out "Are you mad at me"? or "What's wrong?" and they reply "Oh, nothing" and do that silent treatment BS. That one always gets me mad. Usually I will tell people if you have a problem with me you need to address it directly because this behavior will get you nowhere. I am not telepathic. I don't understand what is so darn hard about just saying what is going on. It's like they have a mind set that says "If you REALLY loved me you would read my mind and know what my every emotion is 24-7"

7 posted on 11/16/2004 4:24:23 PM PST by foolscap
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To: foolscap

He forgot the one I like best. When you know someone is mad at you and you ask straight out "Are you mad at me"? or "What's wrong?" and they reply "Oh, nothing" and do that silent treatment BS.

In this case, you are dealing with a child, not an adult. Except since they are a biological adult, they should be treated like an adult. Either they will get over it or...bye, bye.

9 posted on 11/16/2004 4:31:39 PM PST by ml1954
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To: foolscap
I am not telepathic. I don't understand what is so darn hard about just saying what is going on.

Bingo! It's anger without the guts to express it.

12 posted on 11/16/2004 4:38:09 PM PST by bootless (Never Forget - And Never Again)
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To: foolscap
He forgot the one I like best. When you know someone is mad at you and you ask straight out "Are you mad at me"? or "What's wrong?" and they reply "Oh, nothing" and do that silent treatment BS. That one always gets me mad. Usually I will tell people if you have a problem with me you need to address it directly because this behavior will get you nowhere. I am not telepathic. I don't understand what is so darn hard about just saying what is going on. It's like they have a mind set that says "If you REALLY loved me you would read my mind and know what my every emotion is 24-7"

And then one day out of the blue, they blow up --- "You never blah-blah-blah" or "You always blah-blah-blah" and that will be the first time you've heard said complaint.

It's also known as the "Martyr Syndrome."

21 posted on 11/16/2004 5:20:13 PM PST by stands2reason
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It's like they have a mind set that says "If you REALLY loved me you would read my mind and know what my every emotion is 24-7"

And it's really hard when they don't even know what they are thinking or want.

23 posted on 11/16/2004 5:21:31 PM PST by connectthedots
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