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How to avoid harassing women: Think like a romance novel
NY Post ^ | January 31, 2018 | Andie J. Christopher

Posted on 02/02/2018 5:19:34 AM PST by C19fan

As a feminist and a romance novelist, if I wrote about a male protagonist who made unwanted sexual advances towards his female employee or ignored pleas to slow down or stop trying to have sex with a date, I would be pilloried by my readers — and rightly so.

Because that’s not the behavior of a romance hero, that’s the behavior of a villain.

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TOPICS: Books/Literature; Society
KEYWORDS: hashtagmetrosexual; metoo; metrosexual
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BARF!!!! Plenty of better material whether fiction, see Jane Austen, or non-fiction, see Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior that George Washington used.
1 posted on 02/02/2018 5:19:34 AM PST by C19fan
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To: C19fan

Some of these w0m3n fell harassed and victimized by a smile and a ‘good morning’ from a male supervisor.


2 posted on 02/02/2018 5:22:03 AM PST by Blueflag (Res ipsa loquitur: non vehere est inermus)
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To: Blueflag

or feel.

not fell.

we regret the error.


3 posted on 02/02/2018 5:22:24 AM PST by Blueflag (Res ipsa loquitur: non vehere est inermus)
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To: C19fan

The irony is that most feminists view romance novels as the epitome of backward thinking — suppression of women dressed up as romance.


4 posted on 02/02/2018 5:24:09 AM PST by Opinionated Blowhard ("When the people find they can vote themselves money, that will herald the end of the republic.")
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To: Opinionated Blowhard

.... yet they still read those “50 Shades” books. I guess it’s different if you’re rich.


5 posted on 02/02/2018 5:25:35 AM PST by jyo19
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To: C19fan

Are romance novels with effeminate men really popular?


6 posted on 02/02/2018 5:29:01 AM PST by BykrBayb (Lung cancer free since 11/9/07. Colon cancer free since 7/7/15. Obama free since 1/20/17. PTL ~ Þ)
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To: C19fan
What gets me about this whole thing is the left will be fanatically against any type of sexual harassment, yet they side with Sharia supremacists to the point where the matriarch of the feminist movement Gloria Steinem is good friends with Sharia supremacist Linda Sarsour. And not only that, they want "refugees" from Sharia dominated countries swarming into the USA. To me this is the ultimate proof that liberalism is a mental disorder.

"Sharia law! Yes yes yes! Sharia law! Yes yes yes!"

"We the majority want Sharia law because we are for womens rights"


7 posted on 02/02/2018 5:29:47 AM PST by GrandJediMasterYoda (The remoulade was a trifle tart, but the souflee for dessert more than made up for it.)
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>>As a feminist and a romance novelist, if I wrote about a male protagonist who made unwanted sexual advances towards his female employee or ignored pleas to slow down or stop trying to have sex with a date, I would be pilloried by my readers

So why did women push 50 Shades of Grey to the top seller list?

Why do they call the novels “bodice rippers?”

Urban Dictionary: bodice ripper
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bodice%20ripper
An historical romance where the heroine has lots of non-consensual sex, which becomes consensual. The book needs to have a gaudy cover with a woman with an extraordinarily long neck, heaving bosoms, and flowing hair, and a brooding man.


8 posted on 02/02/2018 5:30:18 AM PST by a fool in paradise (Ask a lib if Alger Hiss colluded with the Russians.)
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To: C19fan

When I encounter harassing women, I steer clear of them, just the same as I avoid the harassing men I come to know.


9 posted on 02/02/2018 5:33:34 AM PST by Blue Collar Christian (We Arizonans need to get rid of McCain/Flake as all of us pray for Trump.)
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To: C19fan

Romance: Behavior that men fake in pursuit of getting laid.


10 posted on 02/02/2018 5:35:14 AM PST by KrisKrinkle (Blessed be those who know the depth and breadth of their ignorance. Cursed be those who don't.)
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Romance: Behavior that men fake in pursuit of getting laid.

Sex: Behavior that women fake in pursuit of getting something from men.

11 posted on 02/02/2018 5:39:35 AM PST by Jess Kitting
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To: Opinionated Blowhard

LOVE Regency romances. But this is a modern era and I can’t imagine how you navigate the dating world today. Yes, we always had handsy characters you had to slap down. But we weren’t such flakes that the experience traumatized us for life. Mostly the experiences were funny. I have noticed that many of my liberal girlfriends are in dire need of a sense of humor.


12 posted on 02/02/2018 5:40:34 AM PST by mairdie
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>>To me this is the ultimate proof that liberalism is a mental disorder.

Liberalism IS a mental disorder and they WANT chaos in the West.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-psychiatry

The psychiatrists R D Laing (from Scotland), Theodore Lidz (from America), Silvano Arieti (from Italy) and others, argued that “schizophrenia” and psychosis were understandable, and resulted from injuries to the inner self-inflicted by psychologically invasive “schizophrenogenic” parents or others. It was sometimes seen as a transformative state involving an attempt to cope with a sick society. Laing, however, partially dissociated himself from his colleague Cooper’s term “anti-psychiatry”. Laing had already become a media icon through bestselling books (such as The Divided Self and The Politics of Experience) discussing mental distress in an interpersonal existential context; Laing was somewhat less focused than his colleague Cooper on wider social structures and radical left wing politics, and went on to develop more romanticized or mystical views (as well as equivocating over the use of diagnosis, drugs and commitment). Although the movement originally described as anti-psychiatry became associated with the general counter-culture movement of the 1960s, Lidz and Arieti never became involved in the latter. Franco Basaglia promoted anti-psychiatry in Italy and secured reforms to mental health law there.

Laing, through the Philadelphia Association founded with Cooper in 1965, set up over 20 therapeutic communities including Kingsley Hall, where staff and residents theoretically assumed equal status and any medication used was voluntary. Non-psychiatric Soteria houses, starting in the United States, were also developed[32] as were various ex-patient-led services.

Psychiatrist Thomas Szasz argued that “mental illness” is an inherently incoherent combination of a medical and a psychological concept. He opposed the use of psychiatry to forcibly detain, treat, or excuse what he saw as mere deviance from societal norms or moral conduct.


Schizophrenia is a “transformative state” and a “response” to a “sick society”. Celebrate the “trans”.

Do as thou will shall be the whole of the law according to Satanists.

NOW founder Kate Millet was mental ill and diagnosed as such.

Keep digging and you’ll find them advocating for chaos and disorder.

It’s all about tearing down the established order of Western civilization. Barbarians at the gate tearing it down from within and it’s been “tolerated” and now celebrated for over 60 years.


13 posted on 02/02/2018 5:42:23 AM PST by a fool in paradise (Ask a lib if Alger Hiss colluded with the Russians.)
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To: jyo19

I have a friend who wrote very nasty stories. Gentlest, sweetest creature alive. But she was in the middle of a divorce and all her anger went into her writing. Divorce over, nasty writing over.


14 posted on 02/02/2018 5:42:27 AM PST by mairdie
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To: Jess Kitting

“Women use sex to get love, men use love to get sex.”


15 posted on 02/02/2018 5:43:01 AM PST by elcid1970 ("The Second Amendment is more important than Islam. Buy ammo.")
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To: BykrBayb

The romance novels I read have extremely manly heroes. Effeminate might be the villains, but never the heroes.


16 posted on 02/02/2018 5:43:15 AM PST by mairdie
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To: BykrBayb

There are romance novels for every niche market now. And I mean EVERY. Which makes the above really dumb advice.


17 posted on 02/02/2018 5:45:09 AM PST by mewzilla
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To: a fool in paradise

There’s a massive difference between 50 shades (which I only read about and never read), and bodice rippers (which I actually also don’t enjoy, but have read). The first seems to get off on degradation. The second on passionate encounters. Bodice rippers were fascinating when I was of babysitting age. Then you grow up and don’t need them. But I have no memory of their plots humiliating the characters.


18 posted on 02/02/2018 5:48:15 AM PST by mairdie
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To: C19fan

I don’t have the time or the inclination to post 100 typical rape fantasies from “romance” novels, but y’all go right ahead.

The key is the neologism “unwanted advances”. This is a subjective thing which no one - no one - can define in advance.

You don’t know if the door is open unless you turn the handle. And, as anyone who wasn’t born yesterday knows perfectly well, turning the handle produces many unexpected and surprising results.


19 posted on 02/02/2018 5:49:06 AM PST by Jim Noble (Single payer is coming. Which kind do you like?)
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The first seems to get off on degradation. The second on passionate encounters.

The Venn diagram of that one is very interesting.

20 posted on 02/02/2018 5:50:49 AM PST by Jim Noble (Single payer is coming. Which kind do you like?)
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