Posted on 02/01/2015 10:00:24 PM PST by Morgana
“Trauma from an abortion can also affect men. Guilt and hurt after an abortion can drive couples apart, especially if one partner was unsure about the decision. Often couples split up following an abortion.
You may want your relationship back to where it used to be, but this is impossible. Sometimes men react with a gut instinct that it is better to do something quickly and worry about the consequences later. A common reaction is “Get rid of it”. But this is not one of those situations, and an abortion will not put things back as they were. In short, both you and your partner have been permanently changed by the pregnancy.
Some men feel guilty about what they have done and then find it difficult to form close relationships in the future. Some disguise their feelings by remaining emotionally cold and distant. One man said “following the abortion I split up with my girlfriend and it was only years later I realized that I’d never settled down and got married because of the abortion.”
There is a deep instinct in man to protect women and children. An abortion can undermine a man’s confidence in himself and he can come to think of himself as a failure – a failure as a partner, a failure as a father, a failure as a man.”
Men and Abortion, Information from Lighthouse Family Trust
Quoted in Cara Acred The Abortion Debate (Independence Educational Publishers, 2012), Kindle edition
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I sincerely hope women understand that men are a lot less sexually open minded than they profess to be.
Can any men give any insights?
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I think I see the problem. Well, two problems actually.
You know it, I know it but the rest of the world has fallen for it.
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Well, as if that is any insight! Geez, that should be common sense, kill my baby, I’m outa here...
Why would a man want to marry a woman who is willing to kill his baby?
I’ve seen this before. A classmate got p pregnant and aborted to please her boyfriend. He started treating her like garbage and dumped her. He was always selfish but after the abortion that he wanted he stopped all pretense of respect for her.
I met up with my high school sweetheart about 2 years after I had gone to the air force and she went to college. She admitted to an abortion during college.
In public school we had been taught abortion was good. My church never addressed it. The moment she told me is where my stance on abortion was cemented. Abortion is murder.
Abortion is not sex. Men are no different than women when it comes to being adversely affected by a spiritual sickness such as surrounds abortion.
The main existential reason why people are joining into couples is actually to bear children. You can expect it to break just like any other union which fails to serve major purpose.
Why isn’t it a trauma to a man to have his child killed?
Did you date and get married or did you walk away?
I walked away.
You now, you did the right thing. Thing is, I hear these horror stories and I thank God I abstained after a bad relationship. I know it’s made all the difference and I can clearly see what my life would be like if I hadn’t learned and stayed on track.
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